Author Archives: Sheila Nevins

Most Men Don’t Cry – Why?

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I’ve noticed it at funerals, movies, theatre and recently during heartbreaking Haiti coverage, no tears from men. Why? They really should cry. Possibly testosterone sets up a warning roadblock with a sign that reads, “Pussy. Sissy. Hold back those tears!” My friend Gladys, a girly girl, cries at the drop of a pin. Once in […]

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Do You Believe in Santa Claus?

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I didn’t as a child, but now I do. Well, actually I did once believe fervently in Santa Claus until I was six. But I had certain specific questions. I lived in an apartment building in New York City and found it hard to imagine him coming down the chimney, since this chimney serviced some […]

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Diet S.O.S. – Help Me Please

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Have you advice for this rotund recidivist? I rarely ask for help. I am insistent about putting my own luggage on the airplane overhead rack. Therefore, I find it odd and slightly out of character to write this. But, quite simply, I must confess I cannot seem to diet successfully. I can lick almost any […]

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Did You Ever See a Book Cry?

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Do you enjoy reading as much on a Kindle or other devices as much as you like reading an old-fashioned book? On the red-eye flight returning from L.A.– the lights were on, digital ones of course, for the overhead lights were out – it was 2 AM. The Treos, BlackBerries, iPhones, iPods and Kindles were […]

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Chocolate Always on a White Blouse

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Are you neat as a pin or always a little bit disarrayed? I wrote this after seeing the play “Love, Loss and What I Wore,” written by The Ephron Sisters. It’s playing in New York at the Westside Theatre and is about women’s complex relationship to their clothing. The play was stupendous and I laughed […]

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Jeremy Hit Rock Bottom

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What do you do with a child, relative or friend who is an addict? Is addiction a moral failure? Is it a treatable disease? I went to a funeral today. The dead person was a 19-year-old boy. He had overdosed on cocaine and alcohol. He fell against a bathroom sink during a cocaine seizure, lapsed […]

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Heart-Break

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Can you die of a broken heart? Did you ever think you would? Is the hurt forever or does it heal? One day they’ll have a machine that shows a broken heart – an EKG of love gone astray. The printout will show the tear and the doctor will say to the man or woman […]

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Chocolate Chemo

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Have you ever sat at the bedside of a terminally ill person you loved, given comfort and learned more about your life and yourself than you ever thought possible? As Anna lay dying – We laughed our heads off when the ice-cream sprinkles got stuck on her nose. The cancer had spread from her ovaries […]

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Regrets Only

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If you could have yesterday back today, what would you do differently? (A game to play) A dear friend had a 59th birthday. She had decided it was the last party she would celebrate out loud. We were ten women, none young, in various degrees of preservation and youthfulness. After the cake blowout, which took […]

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A Day at Will

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Have you ever written a will? Is it necessary? And how do you feel during it? After you’ve done it? I had to write a will today. Mine. Or at least revise an old boilerplate version. I’d written the latter years ago — when dying was for other people. It was different now. My lawyer […]

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