01/26/2009 8:00 am

Life

Staying Alive: Four Reasons Why Women Are Better Survivors Than Men, by Ben Sherwood

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Editor’s note: Ben Sherwood is executive director of TheSurvivorsClub.org and author of the new book, The Survivors Club: The Secrets and Science that Could Save Your Life (Grand Central Publishing). He is a former executive producer of ABC’s "Good Morning America" and senior broadcast producer of "NBC Nightly News."

Men are stronger, tougher and more resilient than women. At least that’s what our culture (and stereotypes) pound into our heads. Consider the hit television show "Survivor" on CBS. In 17 completed seasons, only seven women have managed to outmaneuver and outlast everyone else and win. In real life, the numbers are entirely different. Indeed, women are much better survivors than men. I discovered this surprising fact in the woods of Washington State, where the United States Air Force trains its people in the art of survival, evasion, resistance and escape (shorthand: SERE). When I asked a hard-nosed instructor if he can tell immediately who’s got the survival instinct and who doesn’t, his answer was unexpected. After putting countless men and women through very uncomfortable survival training – translation: wet, cold, exhausting and hungry – it turns out that women rule, especially moms. In this instructor’s experience, women who have gone through childbirth frequently fare better than the most strapping aviators. Under extreme pressure and deprivation, he says, the brawniest men can crumble like blue cheese while moms hang tough.

Under extreme pressure and deprivation, he says, the brawniest men can crumble like blue cheese while moms hang tough.

Obviously, your chances of survival depend on specific circumstances (and men definitely possess certain physical advantages), but the Air Force instructor wanted to make a point: Moms are impressively unflinching in the face of adversity. After all, he explains, moms have handled real pain. They understand sacrifice. They’re driven by a purpose greater than themselves. They’re problem solvers and multitaskers. They’re accustomed to delaying gratification. In short, they’re very effective survivors.

If the ultimate measure of survival is who stays alive longest, here’s another fact: Around the world, women out-survive men every day. In the United States, the female survival advantage is around 5.3 years.

Why are women better survivors on average? There are many reasons, including:

1. Women Play It Safer: The numbers are telling. Especially in their younger years, more men die in accidents than women. More men are murdered than women. More men commit suicide than women. During the so-called "testosterone storm," experts say, men simply do more dangerous things, like playing with guns.

2. Women Deal With Pain: Women feel more pain than men — they’re more sensitive to it — but they handle it better. In fact, according to one study, women experience 40 percent more arthritis pain than men, but they cope with it more effectively, bounce back faster and are less likely to let it take over their lives. As one pain researcher says of women, "With greater vulnerability comes greater strength."

3. Women Are Better Drivers: Risking a heated argument, consider the numbers. On average, men have a 77-percent greater risk of losing their lives in a car accident than women, according to Traffic STATS. To be sure, men are cited for reckless driving 3.4 times more often than women, according to Quality Planning, a company that checks policyholder information for car insurance companies. They also get around five percent more traffic violations that result in accidents. And men are more prone to breaking speeding, passing and yielding laws. In short, guys die more often in car wrecks.

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JeannotKensinger
Can’t resist tests. Came out that I am a realist. Well, Duh!
By JeannotKensinger on 01/26/2009 8:44 am
SandbeeFB54
Turns out I’m a realist too, well what else can you be when you go through life to a certain point and you are still there.
By SandbeeFB54 on 01/26/2009 9:12 am
JeannotKensinger
Exactly Sandbee, at this point we have had a lot of different paths , if we had not been realistic we would no longer be here. My choices always had to be realistic or I would have been sinking.
By JeannotKensinger on 01/26/2009 10:36 am
SandbeeFB54
It is a strength you gain with time, Jeannot.
By SandbeeFB54 on 01/26/2009 11:00 am
amp
I got “Bitch on Wheels.”
By amp on 01/26/2009 3:36 pm
Susan B
I’m going to post this link at the end of this thread, but I wanted to make sure you saw it, Carmel. Call me cornball. www.youtube.com/watch?v=u_4qwVLqt9Q
By Susan B on 01/28/2009 12:13 pm
KaySara
That’s funny.
By KaySara on 01/28/2009 5:18 pm
thatsoutherngirlk
I got fighter.
By thatsoutherngirlk on 01/26/2009 9:24 am
iris odonata
southern girl: me, too. immediately i started humming…”I am just a poor boy, though my story’s seldom told… seems we got true grit, ala, Kate in Rooster Cogburn.
By iris odonata on 01/26/2009 12:37 pm
rockyrocky
Test says I’m a realist. Too bad. Reality is just so / too real.
By rockyrocky on 01/26/2009 10:42 am
deberB
I got “thinker.”
By deberB on 01/26/2009 11:14 am
PatriceBaldwin
I got “thinker” too, Deber. I don’t know how they quantify these kinds of tests. They seem to have single answers to situations that may have several good answers. Oh well, it’s just for fun. Of course I think!
By PatriceBaldwin on 01/26/2009 6:41 pm
MsDee1
Well, they say I’m a realist. But I don’t know. There were a lot of questions on there that had at least two applicable answers. Like the grisly bear scenario…I’d definately tell any friends in the vicinity to freeze. And I’d certainly check on other passengers while I followed the flight instructions. And if somebody keeled over in the grocery store, I’d start CPR, or at least some sort of first aid, after I called 911. So who knows. But at least I’m not a dreamer like everybody says.
By MsDee1 on 01/26/2009 1:32 pm
Cjay
Ms. Dee, had to chuckle at your answer. As “A Thinker (along with Steve Jobs),” I first used what I’d done before, IRL, if applicable, and worked out all right, then, etc. etc. etc. LOL With a grizzly facing me, there’s no way I’d warn anyone - me first! But, I did know, and have done so, learned it, always call 911, then check to see if someone is breathing who’s down in public, and then, call out for help to start CPR, and get it going! See, “A Thinker.” LOL In truth, I believe if males had to go through a monthly cycle, and face constant body changes from pre-puberty on, and be constantly “trimmed” by society, they would be equal to females in the areas this writer has observed. In fact, such biology does alter hormones, so go figure. Geosocial impacts hit all of us with brute force. Just examine the mindsets of man and women raised in the SE and SW, and those raised on both coasts and the mid-west; vastly different values, and self-perceptions between both sexes in those regions. In grad school in the NE, we used to literally pity women who were married to men from Oklahoma and Texas - their behavior was shocking. LOL Ahhh youth.
By Cjay on 01/26/2009 2:35 pm
MsDee1
Hi C Jay, You make a good point. If nothing else, the past eight years have shown us the kind of risk-taking knuckleheads they breed down in Texas! Makes “survival” a challenge for all of us. But then, most the men I’ve ever known, especially the big, bad blowhards were relatively spineless. Men of character…well, sometimes I might catch a glimpse of one or two on television, but I’ve never been acquainted with one. I think the “mom” part of the survey makes a lot of sense, though. Say what you will about the burdens of parenting, it’s easier to live when there’s something to live for. Especially when it’s compounded by the geo-social brutality of the bible belt. God and-or destiny seem to demand our survival, so we do whatever life requires of us to comply.
By MsDee1 on 01/26/2009 5:39 pm