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Conversation | 07/18/2008 10:30 am

HBO Executive Producer Sheila Nevins on the Making of 'Heidi Fleiss: The Would-Be Madam of Crystal'

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Editor’s Note: Demystifying the notorious “Hollywood Madam,” the exclusive HBO documentary, "Heidi Fleiss: The Would-Be Madam of Crystal," chronicles her ill-fated attempt to launch “Heidi’s Stud Farm” when it debuts Monday, July 21 (9 PM - 10:10 PM, ET/PT), exclusively on HBO. This film is part of the HBO Documentary Films summer series, which features a provocative new film every Monday night at 9PM through August 25.

LIZ: As the executive producer of world famous documentaries seen on HBO, why in the world did you choose a madam for your subject on television? And I am talking about Heidi Fleiss.

SHEILA: I had always been a fan of Nick Broomfield’s documentary on Heidi, which is now about ten years old. But I always wondered what happened to Heidi and I decided to find out. So I tracked her down to a lingerie shop in downtown Hollywood and that’s where I met Heidi about two or two-and-a-half years ago. She was fascinating. I never met a creature like that before. I never met anybody who was so wicked and at the same time wise.

Click here for a sneak preview of "Heidi Fleiss: The Would-Be Madam of Crystal." 

LIZ: Yeah.

Heidi really needs to be cured of her illness, because the rest of Heidi is magnificent. She’s a really nice human being.

SHEILA: I thought if you were a bad girl, you’re bad all over. And if you were a business woman or a smart girl, you were smart all over. And I had never seen a contrast like Heidi. There are so many facets of her character and I identified with her also as a woman. And I wanted to find out about her. I wanted to know where she was at.

LIZ: My very vague remembrance is that my heart sort of went out to her and I felt I was on her side. I’m not much for seeing people put in jail for prostitution. And then she would not reveal the names of the men in her little black book.

SHEILA: Never has. It’s a kind of prostitution McCarthyism in the sense that she wouldn’t give names. And won’t. And doesn’t.

LIZ: OK. So let’s establish for people who don’t know about Heidi Fleiss, that in 1993 she went to prison on charges of money laundering, tax evasion, drug possession. And they gave her a term of 37 months. Am I correct in that?

SHEILA: That’s correct. Of which she served three years.

LIZ: They didn’t specifically charge her with prostitution …

SHEILA: Right.

LIZ: … though prostitution is illegal in California, isn’t it?

SHEILA: Yes.

LIZ: But it’s not illegal in Nevada?

SHEILA: Nope.

LIZ: OK.

SHEILA: Which is where Heidi now lives. She lives in Nevada

LIZ: Sheila, let me just ask you a hypothetical. Why do they always punish prostitutes and they very seldom punish the johns, or the men, who are doing business with them, Mr. Ordinary Joe? And, except for the governor of New York State, Eliot Spitzer, who seems like he came off worse than the women accusing him, why do they do this? Why do men escape the opprobrium of prostitution, since men are the purchasers of prostitution?

SHEILA: I don’t really know why. My heart went out to her, like you said — that thing about your heart going out to Heidi. Yet she’s not bitter. She’s, unfortunately, drugged a lot of the time. She uses substances and she admits it in the film. And she really needs to be rehabilitated. But some of my best friends have that problem. I mean, there was Heidi the sober woman in a nice Armani suit talking about business and doing things; and then there was Heidi the drug addict. And then there was Heidi the environmentalist and the bird lover.

LILY: That whole bird metaphor was just so incredible.

LIZ: We need to explain the birds.

SHEILA: Go ahead and do it.

LIZ: Heidi moves to Nevada and she buys property next to a very old lady, who is described as a madam. And the old lady collects these rare, fabulous cockatoos and cockatiels and wonderful birds that talk. Heidi becomes involved with these birds and when the woman dies, she’s left the birds and she goes on to care for them in a really exaggerated, wonderful way. That’s what Lily means by the birds being a metaphor.

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Blue Circle Girl
Frannie Em, WHAT?
By Blue Circle Girl on 07/19/2008 1:26 am
Frannie Em
BCG What about what?
By Frannie Em on 07/19/2008 1:46 am
Frannie Em
BCG I am not sure if you want more info, or are taking exception, or just think I am crazy, which of course is okay, but I am very curious because you have such a big care spot in your heart.
By Frannie Em on 07/19/2008 1:57 am
Blue Circle Girl
I was reading you and I got lost in the translation …. you were sayin’ ?? It seems so hard to figure out who from who these days … between the kitty’s and the stars and the M.C’s … it is so hard to know who is I love the site … I think that I missed your point … sorry, Frannie Em.
By Blue Circle Girl on 07/19/2008 2:07 am
Frannie Em
BCG I posted about Heidi Fleiss’ father who, for a short time was my oldest son’s pediatrician. I think his office was in W. Hollywood, or thereabouts. Mugsy posted an inquiry asking us to think about who raised her, and suggesting that she turned out the way that she did because of her upbringing, so I was giving what I knew on the topic. He was considered an alternative MD, that is why I went to him. Liked him very much. When the whole thing was going on I had many old friends calling saying how stupid it was for him to be involved, because he was probably duped. He was too kind of a man, and he was. I don’t know how her scheme worked, maybe he was just trying to protect her.
By Frannie Em on 07/19/2008 2:14 am
Blue Circle Girl
I know about her parents and her sister …. I know who her father was and his alternative thoughts on child raising … LOVED IT. Do you know the name Terry Brazelton? Never mind T.B.… love him …. Focus on who Heidi is …. raised in Hollywood …. watched her parents and her parents and enemies/clients live their lives has everything to do with life lessons and Heidi knew live as we know it. Dr. Fleiss was tryin’ to send people a message …. Dr. Fleiss was …………. forward thinking. Ergo: Heidi was also forward thinking …. Heidi got some of the message … she grew up like me … in 70’s …. “let it all hang out” … she watched, she learned, she missed the boat and got on the diggy.
By Blue Circle Girl on 07/19/2008 2:41 am
Mugsy Peabody
My question is a question. How did her values get to be these values? What stories did she have about her role in society that this seemed to be a good choice? What are we as a culture doing that a young man can actually tell his girlfriend in a crowded laundromat that she should give him a blow job to pass the time while she’s washing his clothes?
By Mugsy Peabody on 07/19/2008 2:32 am
Frannie Em
Mugsy Are you asking me when did her morals start going astray. She didn’t have much discipline. I don’t know? Her parents were asleep? Seems like it. Very permissive and she seemed as a young teenager that she was 17 going on 30. Some parents think that is cool and think the kid will figure it out. Spoiled maybe? Parents have money? Then came the drugs? That is a lethal combination. I don’t know if that is the scenario, I don’t know if she talks about her family, or if they have a gag order on her. I didn’t really follow it, except the claims of her employees. Mugsy, where do we go with this question? How and why did the destruction of the social boundaries that lead to the behavior you have described above take hold so strongly in our society? We all pat ourselves on the back for being so cool in the ‘60’s free love and drugs, hey I am not criticizing, I was there and having a good time for a while. Was that the beginning of the permissiveness? The breakdown of the ideals that it takes to develop self respect? I don’t know. It will take someone a lot smarter than me to figure that one out. These are our children. Our generation raised them. We were here while all of this was happening. We made choices that affected the development of our society. Not all the choices of course, but as a collective whole, many developments went by the wayside because people were having a good time and figured to let someone else take care of it. Mugsy, I know you have always been involved in issues to move society forward, but something fell apart.
By Frannie Em on 07/19/2008 3:01 am
Blue Circle Girl
How did you know that? this is really weird
By Blue Circle Girl on 07/19/2008 3:54 am
Marjorie C.
After reading all the posts, I can see where the story is: the journey from little girl Heidi to choices that lead to the fall of the woman Heidi. The standout here is money and class. Heidi isn’t a child of the Bronx or some backwater town in New England, she has it all (money, brains, status) and uses it all to destroy herself. Is the root of the tragedy in the upbringing? IMO, parents are facilitators who don’t have much control over what goes on in the brains of their offspring. Once a child steps into adolescence, they essentially leave the parents behind. Heidi is a clever girl who learned early how to manipulate people in order to get money for her rather expensive habits. I wonder how much she is getting paid for her HBO documentary.
By Marjorie C. on 07/19/2008 7:18 am
Maryann Lowry
Marjorie, You’ve made some very astute observations about Heidi. I agree with most of what you said. However, I think we can be more optimistic about our children. Yes, they do go off and do their own thing in adolescence. I’m a cognitive specialist and a parenting coach. The primitive emotional part of a teen’s brain, the amgdyla, is actually swollen in adolescence. To complicate matters, the frontal lobe is not fully developed, so judgment is “Kaput”. Intentional parenting, beginning from a young age, say on their actual birthdate, makes a huge difference. Even when they go through the phase of the teen years and think they’re brilliant, they will eventually come back to us and be their authentic selves. However, the groundwork has to be laid early before the teen years. As the portion of the brain that controls judgment develops, young adults suddenly come back to us. I love coaching parents and training them to be their child’s life coach. We have no control over our child’s passions, heart’s desire, temperament. That’s already in place. We can love them for who they are and base discipline (training) on helping them understand that their are rules/values and they will have consequences, whether positive or negative regarding the choices they make. I worked in psych hospitals with troubled kids and learned from the very best in the mental health profession about raising great kids. As for Ms. Fleiss today, the good news is that she could totally become “the real Heidi” not the “drug addict…money for sex” themed person, as we know her to be from the media. The brain is an open system. Neuroscience is finding that the brain is capable of making great changes, even character changes, by creating new neural circuits through therapy and/or coaching. Byron Katie’s “The Work” shows this ability to change in action. See www.thework.com Martha Beck is showing us how to become more of who we were meant to be in her books. See www.marthabeck.com It’s easier to accept what is happening to us in this country with our morals and values and economy due to the fact that I know human beings are capable of great change. People, like Heidi and really everyone, have to buy in to the fact that nothing is better than living with the natural high and joy of living the life that one was meant to live. Now, it’s about touching a nerve, a soul and creating a mindset for inspired action based on the quest to live a better life. Mary Ann Lowry, M.Ed. Cognitive Learning Specialist and Life Coach www.createanewseason.com
By Maryann Lowry on 07/19/2008 2:20 pm
Mugsy Peabody
Yes, Marjorie, but where did those values come from? Heidi is not alone. She’s Paris Hilton, but she needs money….
By Mugsy Peabody on 07/19/2008 3:00 pm
Mugsy Peabody
Actually, Candice Bergen’s Knock Wood tells such a similar story of being lost in the same way, but Candice had money, and something else, some sense of herself that Heidi did not have, maybe? I’d love to hear Ms. Bergen’s thoughts on this.
By Mugsy Peabody on 07/19/2008 4:11 pm
Marjorie C.
Mugsy: ” … where did those values come from? Heidi is not alone.” In her very early years, Heidi somehow became a person who lacks a moral compass. Is this something that is hard-wired, or were her parents too doting? Here is an interesting article written in 2005 which addresses this subject: http://www.azcentral.com/families/articles/1004conscience.html
By Marjorie C. on 07/20/2008 7:42 am
kermie b
Hold it. Where do you come off putting down the Bronx? Some very kind and good people live there. Now THIS is labeling without knowing the facts.
By kermie b on 07/20/2008 12:40 am