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Conversation | 05/28/2008 9:58 am

Liz Smith: Gays Don't Have the Same Rights as People on Death Row

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Editor’s Note: Featuring Kathleen Jamieson, director of the Annenberg Public Policy Center, a professor of communications and the former dean of the Annenberg School for Communication at the University of Pennsylvania.

LESLEY: This month, the California Supreme Court struck down a ban against homosexual marriage. They say things happen in California first and then spread across the country.

LIZ: But isn’t it likely, Lesley, that this California ruling does not mean very much? That it could be rescinded before we even get used to the idea?

LESLEY: Do you think that if they do put this to a vote that the public will overturn it? Go the other way? Ban homosexual marriages?

LIZ: I don’t know.

LESLEY: Candice, you …

CANDICE: Well, it happened already.

LESLEY: Yeah, that’s right. They voted against it. So we think this could easily be overturned?

LIZ: I think the marriage struggle for gays is going to be a long time coming. But eventually it’ll happen because just as with movements in women’s liberation, a lot of positive things have already taken place. Let’s consider this: A gay woman named Ellen DeGeneres has the most popular talk show in America. She even outstrips Oprah Winfrey. Doesn’t this say something? I think people are really kind of conflicted. Sometimes they’re sneaky and fuzzy when it comes to homosexuality. They go crazy over one demonstration of it, and then they’ll ignore another. And TV and entertainment – now you see they use gays as come-ons, lively examples, for emphasis. They use gay characters the way the movies sort of used the black comic Stepin Fetchit. The networks get a lot of bang for their gay buck.

LESLEY: This is definitely an issue that is generational. No question about it. People under a certain age are ho-hum on this issue. They don’t understand the controversy, and if they come out in large numbers to vote in California, I think that could have a huge effect on how it goes, if it’s put up to a vote this time.

CANDICE: If that’s true, it could also have a huge effect on McCain.

LESLEY: That’s right. What are you picking up on this, Kathleen? Anything?

KATHLEEN: It puts the position that candidates have taken on the Defense of Marriage Act into play in the presidential election. And I think that’s the way we’re going to see it play out. We’re going to see the discussion happen indirectly in relationship to that previous vote, or that previous position.

LESLEY: Are they different?

KATHLEEN: Yeah. The question is, do states have to recognize a marriage from another state or not? That’s one of the issues. And I do believe McCain and Obama are different.

LIZ: Do you remember that a lot of people felt that the Republicans brought up the gay marriage issue and that it helped defeat Al Gore, even though he won the popular vote? So I’m wondering if this was brought up this time to make it an issue again. Or did it just happen?

LESLEY: Well, the Supreme Court of California made the ruling, so it would be hard to see how it was done deliberately to affect the campaign.

LIZ: I had a gay kid say to me the other day, "Men and women on death row can marry people on the outside. They’re allowed to get married. And gays want the same rights as people on death row." I thought that was pretty good thinking.

LESLEY: I didn’t know that. Is that true?

LIZ: Well, women and men on death row are allowed to get married. Sure.

LESLEY: Oh, I see. They’re allowed to get married … not to each other.

226 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

Chef Zee
Bravo - Doll Lady and thank you. It’s people like you who make our struggle bearable.
By Chef Zee on 05/30/2008 8:24 am
sita levy
Wouldn’t you think the government has better things to worry about, global warming, poverty, child abuse, etc.? Christianity needs to stay out of politics, we forget what this country was founded on. We need to stay out of peoples bedrooms. I think it is shameful how the world treats gays. Almost as shameful as they continue to treat Roma. Better known as Gypsys. But that is another story.
By sita levy on 05/30/2008 2:26 pm
Mugsy Peabody
And equally shameful.
By Mugsy Peabody on 05/31/2008 1:41 am
CAROLINE MuLVEY
When my Parents got married it was because there parents expected them to marry. When I was at the age of four my Father informed my Mother that he was gay. My Mother chased him around the house with a knife. My Father finally got out of the house, after the next day they were able to sit down and talk. During my teenage years I was very embarrassed, I never brought fiends to the house when I lived with my Father, he traveled a lot because he was in the military. Then I found out that my sister was gay. I tried to understand. I finally went to my Father we talked he explained that being gay is not a choice, you are born that way. Later on I realized that all that really mattered was my Father be happy and know the feeling of love and acceptance. I also feel that way about my sister. My Father’s true love died having a heart attack, he has been sad and must feel lost without him, I wish that he would open himself up to the possibility that he could love someone again. My Sister is in love and is having a great time they bought a house, her girlfriend (lover) has retired from the post office. She has five children from her deceased husband, she is very protective of my Sister and truly loves her. It took me a while to learn that love is a commitment, unconditional and always there when you are at your lowest. I wish nothing but the best for my Father and my Sister. I am very happy that they each have felt the power of love. I do not know if my Father will find true love again. I pray that he does. I accept my Father and Sister as two human beings that deserve to live in this world and to love and to not worry about what other’s might think or say. I pray that they will be accepted where ever they go and that happiness fallows them no matter where or what they are doing.
By CAROLINE MuLVEY on 05/31/2008 5:08 am
Chef Zee
Good for you Caroline. It’s encouraging to read how you have grown. I’m sorry for the pain and embarrassment you suffered as a teenager. It sucks to feel you are different. Your Father and sister benefit in innumerable ways from your support. The consequence of not being recognized as fully sane and human by those you love never leave you. You all benefit from your new understanding.
By Chef Zee on 05/31/2008 11:40 am
Frannie Em
Caroline, You are such a champion. You have been facing so many physical challenges but your heart is strong and clear. I luv ya kiddo.
By Frannie Em on 06/01/2008 7:25 pm
amy seaman
as a gay woman i have to say that i’m more concerned with equal rights then i am getting married. what’s the use of getting married if you can’t get the house you want or keep the job you have?
By amy seaman on 06/01/2008 12:26 am
Marisa J
I am a college student, I hope to study American culture and society at a later stage in my education. I am going to apoligize in advance, I’ve never been one to criticise but this issue just looks and sounds so wrong to me. Really, as a European (more specifically western europe), it astounds me that gay and lesbian rights are still so much an issue in a country like the United States. Where I live they have exactly the same rights as any other person and have had those rights for quite some time now, which gives me a certain sense of pride. Eventhough there are a lot of policies and politics I disagree with, the fact that everyone is equal (at least legally equal, prejudices still roam the streets) makes me forget about all those other things and really makes me smile. To get our abortion law up and running some fifteen years ago we actually chose to have the king at that time abdicate for a day. He was firmly against abortion and in order to pass a law here the king/queen is required to sign it. Because he wouldn’t the government took over and the law stands till this day.
By Marisa J on 06/01/2008 11:34 am
Mugsy Peabody
Marisa, you would do well to read a very important new book called “The Age of American Unreason,” by Susan Jacoby. (Bill Moyers interview with Jacoby: http://www.pbs.org/moyers/journal/02152008/watch2.html) It is something I would like to see everyone on this web read because at root we are yearning for the same sort of intelligent and informed discourse she is writing about. A point she makes well is simply that the cynical people who are manipulating our system could not do so if they were pulling their games on an informed, educated electorate/citizenry. It will save you a lot of time and grief in trying to understand what is going on in the United States. Best, MP
By Mugsy Peabody on 06/01/2008 1:59 pm
Mugsy Peabody
Amy, under the Constitution of the United States, we should (and will) have all rights guaranteed ALL citizens of this country. Keep the faith!
By Mugsy Peabody on 06/01/2008 2:02 pm
Count Snarkula
If you knew me and my partner, you wouldn’t think twice about our genuine love and respect for each other, and I would hope if your head got in the way, you might allow your heart to make the decision to vote for and later attend our marriage ceremony. I am in Texas though, so I am not holding my breath for anything to happen in my home state anytime soon.
By Count Snarkula on 06/02/2008 1:25 pm
Robin Aiscowitz
Everyone should have the right to be married whether they are straight or gay. Why should society continue to put labels on couples who are more committed than others? I have several gay and lesbian friends who have been a family longer than my straight couple friends. I live in NJ and was a supporter of Jim McGreevey before he announced he was gay. Whether one is gay or not should not make a difference. Let everyone have the chance to be married or not or even be a parent or not. Thank you for creating this website and allowing everyone to participate in it.
By Robin Aiscowitz on 06/03/2008 1:55 pm
Zera Lee
On marriage: Marriage is arguably the most universal religious rite in the world. As long as there is a bona fide church that performs marriages for gays, then they have the same right to get married as heterosexuals – and for the same reason. You cannot restrict the religious rights of a minority without rejecting freedom of religion. On democracy: The difference between a democratic republic and a pure democracy is that the republic protects the rights of the minority from the domination of the majority. I find it quite disturbing that so much of this country is willing to overlook that we are a Republic. I would especially expect that members of a political party whose name derives from that fact would be able to remember it. On defense of marriage: Divorce, spousal abuse, infidelity, … Of all the things that threaten marriage, gay marriage isn’t even on the list. By definition, there is an implicit non-compete clause. What gay marriage threatens is the religious sensibilities of the devoutly prejudiced. On civil unions: From the descriptions I have read of what is meant by civil unions for gays, a civil union is what is left after you rip the concepts of love and faith out of marriage. Is a wedding performed by a Justice of the Peace or a ship’s Captain considered a “marriage” or a “civil union”? On my Faith: If God chooses to make some people homosexual, who am I to reject His Will? Love is what makes everything else worthwhile.
By Zera Lee on 06/07/2008 1:17 pm