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Conversation | 05/28/2008 9:58 am

Liz Smith: Gays Don't Have the Same Rights as People on Death Row

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Editor’s Note: Featuring Kathleen Jamieson, director of the Annenberg Public Policy Center, a professor of communications and the former dean of the Annenberg School for Communication at the University of Pennsylvania.

LESLEY: This month, the California Supreme Court struck down a ban against homosexual marriage. They say things happen in California first and then spread across the country.

LIZ: But isn’t it likely, Lesley, that this California ruling does not mean very much? That it could be rescinded before we even get used to the idea?

LESLEY: Do you think that if they do put this to a vote that the public will overturn it? Go the other way? Ban homosexual marriages?

LIZ: I don’t know.

LESLEY: Candice, you …

CANDICE: Well, it happened already.

LESLEY: Yeah, that’s right. They voted against it. So we think this could easily be overturned?

LIZ: I think the marriage struggle for gays is going to be a long time coming. But eventually it’ll happen because just as with movements in women’s liberation, a lot of positive things have already taken place. Let’s consider this: A gay woman named Ellen DeGeneres has the most popular talk show in America. She even outstrips Oprah Winfrey. Doesn’t this say something? I think people are really kind of conflicted. Sometimes they’re sneaky and fuzzy when it comes to homosexuality. They go crazy over one demonstration of it, and then they’ll ignore another. And TV and entertainment – now you see they use gays as come-ons, lively examples, for emphasis. They use gay characters the way the movies sort of used the black comic Stepin Fetchit. The networks get a lot of bang for their gay buck.

LESLEY: This is definitely an issue that is generational. No question about it. People under a certain age are ho-hum on this issue. They don’t understand the controversy, and if they come out in large numbers to vote in California, I think that could have a huge effect on how it goes, if it’s put up to a vote this time.

CANDICE: If that’s true, it could also have a huge effect on McCain.

LESLEY: That’s right. What are you picking up on this, Kathleen? Anything?

KATHLEEN: It puts the position that candidates have taken on the Defense of Marriage Act into play in the presidential election. And I think that’s the way we’re going to see it play out. We’re going to see the discussion happen indirectly in relationship to that previous vote, or that previous position.

LESLEY: Are they different?

KATHLEEN: Yeah. The question is, do states have to recognize a marriage from another state or not? That’s one of the issues. And I do believe McCain and Obama are different.

LIZ: Do you remember that a lot of people felt that the Republicans brought up the gay marriage issue and that it helped defeat Al Gore, even though he won the popular vote? So I’m wondering if this was brought up this time to make it an issue again. Or did it just happen?

LESLEY: Well, the Supreme Court of California made the ruling, so it would be hard to see how it was done deliberately to affect the campaign.

LIZ: I had a gay kid say to me the other day, "Men and women on death row can marry people on the outside. They’re allowed to get married. And gays want the same rights as people on death row." I thought that was pretty good thinking.

LESLEY: I didn’t know that. Is that true?

LIZ: Well, women and men on death row are allowed to get married. Sure.

LESLEY: Oh, I see. They’re allowed to get married … not to each other.

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phyllis Doyle Pepe
But Arlene––––but you still think according to your earlier post that homosexuality is wrong according to the BIBLE which if I’m reading you right you take to heart. So you can bowl, you can socialize, you can actually enjoy THEIR company, but you still do not condone their life style. Am I right?
By phyllis Doyle Pepe on 05/28/2008 5:22 pm
Frannie Em
Phyllis Just a question. What difference does it make if she does or doesn’t? That is her business. Arlene can define how she chooses to live. I don’t want to be the moral police, do you? I don’t think Arlene is being the moral police. Just stating what she thinks.
By Frannie Em on 05/28/2008 10:49 pm
Peg O my heart
Arlene - I must chime in here as well. I’m sure you are sincere and mean well because that is the tone of your post to Chef Zee. But did you ever consider that, what it sounds like, is “I’m not prejudiced, some of my best friends and co-workers are gay”. No different than the utterances made 45 years ago about civil rights and the “Negro” race (and I use the coloquial term purposely). I am not accusing you of hating gays. You’ve been respected by them in the workplace, you’ve enjoyed activities and camaraderie, and you woud abhor violence against them. But, despite all of that, you would deny them the opportunity to legally marry and be afforded all that that encompasses. You close your post by saying you believe gays have the right to “choose” their lifestyle, which only tells me that you believe it IS a choice. It is no more a choice than hair color or how tall one will be - it just is. Arlene, I say this with all due respect to you, until you understand that one thing, you will not understand.
By Peg O my heart on 05/28/2008 8:23 pm
Frannie Em
Peg OMH I have a friend that is gay who lives with his partner and they DON’T believe in gay marriage. They are conservative on many issues. Would you feel you had to straighten them out?
By Frannie Em on 05/28/2008 10:54 pm
Peg O my heart
Heck, no. See, I don’t feel anybody needs “straightening” out . But they should HAVE THE RIGHT to marry if they chose to do so, same as any other couple. I wholeheartedly agree with what Frank and Mugsy have said: Frank: The gov’t should stay out of the bedroom. Mugsy: Your beliefs stop at my front door (or to that effect). What I do find hard to believe is how any gay person can reconcile being “conservative” when most of those defined as such revile who they are at their very core.
By Peg O my heart on 05/29/2008 10:05 am
Frannie Em
Peg O I agree. They should have the right to marry. On the issue of conservative gays, to them it is a political issue. They want smaller govt., strong 3 Strikes law, they think socialized medicine in the US would be a disaster. They don’t want govt in their bedroom - issues like that. Hey they are who they are.
By Frannie Em on 05/29/2008 12:00 pm
Peg O my heart
Frannie - I understand, it is political. I would find it such a conflict: to align myself with a party that reflected my political beliefs, while knowing that many people of that party vehemently dislike what I am and support legislation that limits my freedoms. One more unfair compromise. This is all just IMHO, and how I would feel.
By Peg O my heart on 05/29/2008 1:48 pm
Frannie Em
Peg O It is not just repubs that have a problem with gay marriage. There are many democrats that have them as well. Every democrat is not a liberal. There are many democrats that are conservative democrats. For instance Latinos - they are conservative in their beliefs about homosexuality and marriage. It doesn’t mean all, of course, but many are Catholics. African Americans vary widely on the issue, but many times are considered conservative. Many people in the heartland are democrats and opposed to it. I don’t know if it has to do with political beliefs or religious. My grandmother was a Republican but a Christian Science churchgoer, and another was a Religious Science. One could care less and the other had an opinion. I think people are more complicated and have a varied amount of opinions on many subjects. The majority in California is considered to be democrat, but the legislature got passed to ban gay marriages in 2000. So go figure. I think if we want the name slinging to stop about parties or group identities, then we don’t do it. It can’t stop unless we first have the integrity not to do it. I raised boys mostly, 2 of my own a couple of their friends, so we had to get creative about settling disputes. I had 6 sisters and 2 foster daughters, and there was a lot of work not to hold preconceived concepts about each other. I know that is what you want for yourself, me too, but for me it starts with myself.
By Frannie Em on 05/29/2008 6:23 pm
Peg O my heart
Frannie - I know all repubs and demos can’t be painted with the same broad strokes of any brush - but mostly, I find, the more religious, ultra conservatives of ANY party are the ones who want to use labels of their own to damage and blame. I appreciate your comments, as always.
By Peg O my heart on 05/29/2008 8:42 pm
Mugsy Peabody
Those Log Cabin Republicans drive me nuts! I can’t figure out what they’re doing. Maybe it’s one of those, “Oh, if we’re just really good boys, they’ll see we’re really good boys and then we’ll be safe and accepted.” The only people I trust at all who are conservatives are those who know exactly who I am and like me “anyway,” just like I like them “anyway.” Because they’re real human beings. Otherwise, oh, how far can I throw you?
By Mugsy Peabody on 05/29/2008 11:26 pm
Frannie Em
Mugsy, They are older and don’t care who knows and who accepts them. I think they knew a long time ago that they were who they were, and other people knew and if they had a problem with it - too bad. They are very frank about it.
By Frannie Em on 05/30/2008 10:20 am
Peg O my heart
Mugsy, that’s what I mean! It is the opposite of Groucho Marx: “I would not join any club that would have someone like me for a member” .
By Peg O my heart on 05/30/2008 11:14 am
Frannie Em
Peg O Lol. Hey it is a big world. Maybe they do find acceptance. I don’t know. Beats me. I don’t know if they call themselves republicans. They just have more conservative views.
By Frannie Em on 05/31/2008 12:52 am
Estimada C
Peg o my heart, Phyllis and Frannie Em - Sorry I couldn’t get back to you sooner - carpet cleaning day at our house. Let me try to explain my feelings in another way. I do not have the great command of the English language that some of you other ladies possess. Also, when you are speaking directly with a person, the tone of your voice or your attitude (good or bad) establishes the meaning of your statement. We have ten grandchildren. One of our grandson’s has a live-in girlfriend and they have two adorable children. My husband and I wish they had gotten married before having children. Do I love this grandson less than my other nine? Of course not. Do I respect his girlfriend? Yes, I do. She’s a lovely girl and a good mother to the children. I love her dearly. I cannot live their lives for them. When they want to get married, they will. Their choice. We have four children. If they came to me and told me they were gay, would I love them less? Absolutely not. They would still be my beloved children. So that is how I can still love someone while not condoning their actions. I appreciate this site and the ladies on it. I am a caregiver to my husband and this website allows me to be in touch with the world. It’s wonderful that we can express our thoughts/feelings without being chastised for it. Sympathetic understanding makes our world a better place.
By Estimada C on 05/29/2008 1:49 pm
Peg O my heart
Arlene - You said in your original post that “homosexuality is an abomination to the Lord”. Now, there is no question that you love your chlldren and grandchildren. You say you would love them the same if you discovered they were gay. But would they be an abomination to the Lord in your eyes? And, if not, why would any other gay person have to be? If you really believe it is an abomiation, you cannot selectively choose to omit your children, simply because you love them. Words have so much power, Arlene. They cut, scrape, burn, fester and wound our souls. Use them carefully.
By Peg O my heart on 05/29/2008 8:33 pm