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Conversation | 05/28/2008 9:58 am

Liz Smith: Gays Don't Have the Same Rights as People on Death Row

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Editor’s Note: Featuring Kathleen Jamieson, director of the Annenberg Public Policy Center, a professor of communications and the former dean of the Annenberg School for Communication at the University of Pennsylvania.

LESLEY: This month, the California Supreme Court struck down a ban against homosexual marriage. They say things happen in California first and then spread across the country.

LIZ: But isn’t it likely, Lesley, that this California ruling does not mean very much? That it could be rescinded before we even get used to the idea?

LESLEY: Do you think that if they do put this to a vote that the public will overturn it? Go the other way? Ban homosexual marriages?

LIZ: I don’t know.

LESLEY: Candice, you …

CANDICE: Well, it happened already.

LESLEY: Yeah, that’s right. They voted against it. So we think this could easily be overturned?

LIZ: I think the marriage struggle for gays is going to be a long time coming. But eventually it’ll happen because just as with movements in women’s liberation, a lot of positive things have already taken place. Let’s consider this: A gay woman named Ellen DeGeneres has the most popular talk show in America. She even outstrips Oprah Winfrey. Doesn’t this say something? I think people are really kind of conflicted. Sometimes they’re sneaky and fuzzy when it comes to homosexuality. They go crazy over one demonstration of it, and then they’ll ignore another. And TV and entertainment – now you see they use gays as come-ons, lively examples, for emphasis. They use gay characters the way the movies sort of used the black comic Stepin Fetchit. The networks get a lot of bang for their gay buck.

LESLEY: This is definitely an issue that is generational. No question about it. People under a certain age are ho-hum on this issue. They don’t understand the controversy, and if they come out in large numbers to vote in California, I think that could have a huge effect on how it goes, if it’s put up to a vote this time.

CANDICE: If that’s true, it could also have a huge effect on McCain.

LESLEY: That’s right. What are you picking up on this, Kathleen? Anything?

KATHLEEN: It puts the position that candidates have taken on the Defense of Marriage Act into play in the presidential election. And I think that’s the way we’re going to see it play out. We’re going to see the discussion happen indirectly in relationship to that previous vote, or that previous position.

LESLEY: Are they different?

KATHLEEN: Yeah. The question is, do states have to recognize a marriage from another state or not? That’s one of the issues. And I do believe McCain and Obama are different.

LIZ: Do you remember that a lot of people felt that the Republicans brought up the gay marriage issue and that it helped defeat Al Gore, even though he won the popular vote? So I’m wondering if this was brought up this time to make it an issue again. Or did it just happen?

LESLEY: Well, the Supreme Court of California made the ruling, so it would be hard to see how it was done deliberately to affect the campaign.

LIZ: I had a gay kid say to me the other day, "Men and women on death row can marry people on the outside. They’re allowed to get married. And gays want the same rights as people on death row." I thought that was pretty good thinking.

LESLEY: I didn’t know that. Is that true?

LIZ: Well, women and men on death row are allowed to get married. Sure.

LESLEY: Oh, I see. They’re allowed to get married … not to each other.

226 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

T S
And what a lovely take it is…
By T S on 05/29/2008 11:05 pm
bean
Why do we have to change the world for a sex act?
By bean on 05/28/2008 1:17 pm
Frank Peterson
Bean, we don’t have to change the world, we just need to think differently and be a helluva lot more tolerant about sex and people and they way they love than we are now.
By Frank Peterson on 05/28/2008 1:23 pm
Liza D 08 .... beta
Are you insane? A sex act? What are you talkin’ about? Would you be so kind to expand on the meaning of this remark on account that I don’t get it? Thank you in advance.
By Liza D 08 .... beta on 05/28/2008 1:32 pm
phyllis Doyle Pepe
Are you insane?”——ohhhh, that just cracked me up. Bean is, let’s face it, someone who should go back to the garden and grow UP, the way most good beans do.
By phyllis Doyle Pepe on 05/28/2008 5:44 pm
Liza D 08 .... beta
Phyl, May I call you Phyl? That was another lesson my mother did not teach me … but I knew it anyways ….. to ask before assuming you are on a first name basis with someone. I can tell you that my mother did give me the “underpants speil”. lol! My post was a gut reaction! My fingers were moving faster than I could think. LOL! … don’t get me started on beans! And by the way, Ms. Pepe, I took a page from you, dear, sweet Ms. Pepe …. thank you for the lesson. I stand in gratitude. If you notice the format to my post is similar to a Q I received yesterday! :)
By Liza D 08 .... beta on 05/28/2008 6:55 pm
Frannie Em
Bean, Wasn’t marriage essentially initiated because of a sex act? I have a friend who is LDS. Her husband had a heart attack and died a day before she was coming home to tell him that she was pregnant with his fourth child. She is a really great lady, and a great mother. She moved back to her home state and went about the business of raising her kids. In her memory, she was still very in love with her late husband. Eventually she met another guy, and they decided to get married. He stayed in his house with his kids, and she stayed in her house with hers. Her religious beliefs said she had to be married to have sex, so she got married, but it wasn’t really a marriage - Gradually, as the kids grew up and out of the house they started living together and it totally didn’t work. So she essentially got married so she could, without guilt, have sex. So marriage, to a great extent, was always based on a sexual act. In most early western cultures, you couldn’t have sex until you were married, usually to protect any children that were produced from the act. In many countries young women are married off with no choice of husband. It is a legal contract - and there is no love involved. Gays don’t want to get married for sex. They already practice. They want to get married because of love.
By Frannie Em on 05/28/2008 3:09 pm
mary lou s
thank you, frannie!
By mary lou s on 05/28/2008 8:30 pm
Frannie Em
I was corrected by Elizabeth about marriage being arranged as civil contract regarding property, which of course is correct. Here I am referring to early rituals to unite couples. Later it got more formal and legal
By Frannie Em on 05/28/2008 11:20 pm
Frank Peterson
Bean: Because in the end it’s only love that matters and that makes us so much better than we are. Why deny others the right to that? As a species we have significantly bigger and more serious problems to solve than sex and love. Let people be free to love in any way they wish—for it’s love that gives us the grace to go on daily, at least it is for me. What could be more important than that?
By Frank Peterson on 05/28/2008 1:30 pm
T S
Frank…your posts on this subject are so right on for me (including the one you thought you’d get blasted for). I can’t add a thing. So I will copy paste for emphasis on this delicate yet important subject. “Let people be free to love in any way they wish—for it’s love that gives us the grace to go on daily, at least it is for me. What could be more important than that?” “Let people be free to love. Let people be free to love. Let people be free to love”
By T S on 05/28/2008 1:44 pm
Frank Peterson
TS: thank you so much—it’s the way I live and the way I have lived and I wouldn’t change my thoughts on this for my life to come. Peace.
By Frank Peterson on 05/28/2008 1:52 pm
Liza D 08 .... beta
YES! and YES AGAIN! TS, I am sure of it that you are a beautiful person and a blessing to this site! And Frank, I get up everyday wondering what wonderful gift you will give us.
By Liza D 08 .... beta on 05/28/2008 2:25 pm
Frank Peterson
Liza, you’re a sweetie—thank you so much. Big smile to you and a hug too. :-)
By Frank Peterson on 05/28/2008 2:46 pm
T S
Guess we’ve got the beginnings of a “Mutual Admiration Club.” Liza, I find you to write with an effervescence and sweetness, no matter what the topic and it brings a breath of fresh air to the moment. Frank, you’re just a sweetheart but I need not remind you because Wow women frequently do. (well…can one be told that too often…probably not!) Lena (wherever you are), you convey a radiance in your expression that shines and always makes me smile. Renata, hmm-one word here, “passionate” and for me that’s to be admired. Kitty, I learn from just about everything you write and I find myself intrigued and wondering when I see your avatar, “what does she have to say today?” Bean…you just keep me on my toes. Sometimes you raise my eyebrows and once in awhile make my jaw drop but you are consistently…”Bean-like” and that in it’s own way is quite wonderful. Ut-oh, I have to close for now as a meeting calls . Yikes, I didn’t get to Maggi, Frannie, Mugsy, Renata, James, and the list goes on. In time, in time…For now let me say that I am very grateful to have discovered this site and to have the privilege to meet it’s community. Each and every one…even you Dr. Klein who helped me learn how to yell politely with a cyber voice.
By T S on 05/28/2008 3:46 pm