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Conversation | 05/15/2008 1:17 pm

Mary Wells: 'Birthdays Are Bad for Your Health'

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JOAN: Does your definition of beauty change as you do?

MARLO: Yes, I think you change your mind about beauty as you change. When I was younger I didn’t think older women were that pretty. Now I think they’re gorgeous. You start to say, “Now wait a minute … you know, this woman is beautiful. And I look good.”

MARY: Don’t you think, also, that styles have changed in that what is beautiful used to be just — pretty?

MARLO: We still have 15-year-olds on the covers of magazines.

MARY: There’s the most beautiful cover on one of these film magazines of Meryl Streep without any makeup, looking so absolutely beautiful. That natural look, when you’re 50, has become really kind of —

MARLO: That’s because you’re 50. I don’t know that the 20-year-olds are thinking it’s beautiful.

MARY: Well, there are more of us.

MARLO: Well, that’s always good.

LILY: When I was a child, our mothers — unless they were in another circle, a social circle — my mother never exercised.

MARLO: No. Right.

LILY: Women didn’t even drive. They just were not physical people. As times have gone on, consciousness has been raised and women came more into their own; they realized that they could be athletic and physical and dynamic and all kinds of things. Women were very old at 50, in the old days.

MARLO: They did housework.

LILY: I’m not saying they didn’t work and do plenty of —

MARLO: It’s also about taking control of your health, that you could take care of your heart and your bones and you don’t have to just be dependent on what a doctor says, who, most of the time, doesn’t know anything about nutrition.

MARY: But don’t you often think what beauty is today also is much more ethnically diverse, because we’re living with people from all parts of the world now, so that your idea of what is beautiful has stretched and —

LILY: When I was a teenager the beauty standard was Marilyn Monroe or Kim Novak – very curvaceous. I used to pad my hips, literally, when I was an adolescent – 13, 14 years old – because I had such straight hips. Skirts had extra material in them for that.

MARLO: Oh, that’s awful. And they were all blond. They were all blond.

LILY: I got a lot of mileage out of padding those hips.

MARY: If you look at those underfed models that scare me to death, that are obviously going to die tomorrow … but they are from all different countries and they’re —

JOAN: Mainly Estonia, Lithuania, Latvia.

MARY: Now, yes. They go through different periods — and they’re gorgeous. They’re all so different. It’s not like they were all just stamped out of the machine. And they’re so wonderfully different looking.

JOAN: As you age, your focus changes. You stop focusing quite so much on yourself.

MARLO: Or you’ve accepted how you look and realize that there’s beauty in it.

JOAN: When my first novel came out, a fashion photographer agreed to take my picture for publicity. I went to his studio and sat in the makeup chair while the makeup lady worked on me, looking exhausted because I had just finished three years on the book. And there was a model sitting on my left, who was maybe 17 years old. I was 33. And she kept glancing at me and glancing at me. And finally she said, very timidly, “Do you get much work?”

MARLO: That’s hysterical.

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JeannotKensinger
Aging in itself is beautiful. My best friend was chunky and did not much care about herself being busy with 3 kids in 4 years , that was 50 years ago. Now she is almost 79 and gorgeous. She is slim became a vegetarian years ago , very short white hair , does her push ups, She could be a model but you would not have thought than decades ago.
By JeannotKensinger on 05/15/2008 8:58 am
KenJarvis
We are ALL going to AGE but, we are NOT GOING TO GET OLD.
By KenJarvis on 05/15/2008 11:08 am
JennyOops
YEAH, Ken!
By JennyOops on 05/17/2008 5:17 am
Shooz
Ken: Thank you for this. Beautiful. Thank you, thank you.
By Shooz on 06/09/2008 5:17 pm
immoddestagodessa
SMILLE ALL THE TIME WATCHIN’ 72 THOUSAND PEOPLE SCREAMING FOR THE MAN!!!!
By immoddestagodessa on 05/20/2008 4:01 am
Shooz
I like your comments and I wish I had registered differently with wowOwow. My name is Roberta Singer Gibson. And I am 79, about to be 80—next month. Feel GREAT.
By Shooz on 06/09/2008 5:26 pm
kittywebb
During the AIDS crisis, I remember a friend saying on his birthday, “I never worry about getting older. I have a lot of friends who didn’t make it.” And he was about 30 when he said it. And he is dead now too. So I find this talk about aging a little precious. Let’s be grateful that we are alive, and let’s do something with our lives besides worry about how we look. I think we all probably look pretty good.
By kittywebb on 05/15/2008 9:00 am
KO1
From one Kitty to another, thanks for a beautiful thought.
By KO1 on 05/15/2008 12:00 pm
JennyOops
Being alive is so GOOD. I had a strange experience today: I was fussing to myself about having to fix dinner for my son — cooking can get a bit old. But then I said, “What is the matter with you woman. Your son who has a traumatic brain injury because of a drunk driver is ALIVE, your grandsun is an interesting kid — I like him. You and your daughter have a great relationship. all of you are pretty healthy, including me, there are no snipers or bombs on the streets of your neighborhood. We are blessed. What’s a little dinner. At least we have food. Yeah, woman, “what’s the matter with you?” :):):):)
By JennyOops on 05/17/2008 5:08 am
FrannieEm
Jenny I am with you. When I turned 55 I used to sing “55 and still alive”. Age is what you make it and life is what you make it.
By FrannieEm on 05/18/2008 5:10 pm
angeladeleasa
feeling the same way, but i think its because i dont know what to cook, but better to be cooking, then standing on a bread line…. how was that, feel better as my mom would say.
By angeladeleasa on 05/19/2008 9:19 pm
marylous
angela, maybe i’ve found the wrong sort of bread line. in mine you get things like bags of pinto beans. i am soaking a couple of cups of them right now.
By marylous on 05/20/2008 7:34 pm
elaineoland
Mary, Bless you - when I got up this AM, I started a couple hand fulls of dry beans cooking in my smallest crock pot. Later today I’ll cook a small pot of brown rice to go with the beans - —- I’m trying to eat right, exercise, and generally make sense of my life as it is now. Sunday my family will celebrate my Mom’s 97th birthday. She says she would rather skip this year and just plan on a party next year ! I want to honor her and her wishes but feel we must celebrate this year for several reasons. So we will be there - she can participate to the extent she wishes. Hope I’m right in that. Have reserved the family room at the asst. living place where she lives - the family will gather, there will be a meal, cake etc. Good discussion topic …. I enjoy WOW —— Thanks
By elaineoland on 05/21/2008 10:26 am
irishbell
I feel there is nothing wrong with celebrating another year of living. I am 52 and may not always feel that way, but I surely hope so. I couldn’t even imagine not celebrating my kids birthdays either. Birthdays are a joy to me!
By irishbell on 05/15/2008 9:03 am
JulieDavidson
I was reading the different comments about aging, and I want to let readers know about an internet radio show that targets people like us. There is a blog about it: http://onthehomestretch.blogspot.com Check it out!
By JulieDavidson on 05/18/2008 12:19 am