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Conversation | 05/15/2008 12:17 pm

Mary Wells: 'Birthdays Are Bad for Your Health'

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JOAN: What about when you get older and you’re dyeing your hair and your hair kind of gets creepy and weird on you?

MARLO: No.

MARY: It gets creepy in what way?

JOAN: It sort of doesn’t hang in the same way.

LILY: Oh, you mean because gray hair has a different texture, generally.

JOAN: And then if you’re not doing the gray hair, and then you’re dyeing it …

MARY: My hair never hung the way I wanted. I always wanted to have long, straight, heavy hair that would hang this straight and swing, you know.

JOAN: That’s the way it looks in the pictures.

MARY: I would think you would have had that kind of hair, Joan.

JOAN: Well, I did. But now it needs professionals to blow-dry it because if I just let it dry myself, I look like I’m homeless.

MARY: Don’t you think that you get accustomed to that look?

JOAN: Lily. Your hair is amazing. Your hair hangs just the right way.

LILY: Oh, it is not. It’s real fine, too, and just —

MARY: It doesn’t look that way. Your hair looks like my dream.

JOAN: We were staring at it the other night, Lily. We were staring at your hair with envy.

LILY: Where were we?

JOAN: At Mary’s.

MARY: Your hair looks like that … it shines and it —

LILY: I was just lucky that night. It’s one of those totally unreliable hairs. You never know what it’s going to come out like.

MARY: I think when you get older you tend to give up about it. I mean, I can’t spend a lot of time having people fussing about my hair, so I’ve accepted who – what — my hair is. I just think you give up.

JOAN: You cut it yourself, right?

MARY: Well I do if I travel.

LILY: Oh, you’re so good. I think you finally figure out how to handle it and you kind of do it and some days it’s better than others. But my hair has a certain constant level that it doesn’t drop below. If I were performing, I might have a night where I’m really inspired, but I’ve learned enough that I can hit a certain level and not drop below that.

MARY: Well, you have the hair. But, even if you don’t have the hair, if you have something that you can rely on, you make the most of that and then you hope that people don’t look at anything else. I have big eyes, so I make sure that my eyes are made up. Then I pray that nobody looks at anything else, and they won’t notice my hair.

LILY: Well, they probably don’t because you know your eyes are beautiful and you project it and —

MARY: As we age, we tend to get wiser about those things.

JOAN: I have younger friends who show me the horrible shoes they’ve just bought that look —

MARY: How do they walk and not break their ankles?

JOAN: I think, “My God, I do not want this. It’s not interesting.”

MARY: In fact it looks Looneyville to me.

LILY: Are you guys talking about very high heels?

MARY: They tell you how they’re extremely comfortable so it’s no problem. And when you get into them you’re like 20 feet taller than your boyfriend or your husband.

LILY: Or your girlfriend.
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110 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

Jeannot Kensinger
Aging in itself is beautiful. My best friend was chunky and did not much care about herself being busy with 3 kids in 4 years , that was 50 years ago. Now she is almost 79 and gorgeous. She is slim became a vegetarian years ago , very short white hair , does her push ups, She could be a model but you would not have thought than decades ago.
By Jeannot Kensinger on 05/15/2008 7:58 am
Ken Jarvis
We are ALL going to AGE but, we are NOT GOING TO GET OLD.
By Ken Jarvis on 05/15/2008 10:08 am
Jenny Oops
YEAH, Ken!
By Jenny Oops on 05/17/2008 4:17 am
Shooz
Ken: Thank you for this. Beautiful. Thank you, thank you.
By Shooz on 06/09/2008 4:17 pm
immoddesta godessa
SMILLE ALL THE TIME WATCHIN’ 72 THOUSAND PEOPLE SCREAMING FOR THE MAN!!!!
By immoddesta godessa on 05/20/2008 3:01 am
Shooz
I like your comments and I wish I had registered differently with wowOwow. My name is Roberta Singer Gibson. And I am 79, about to be 80—next month. Feel GREAT.
By Shooz on 06/09/2008 4:26 pm
Kitty Webb
During the AIDS crisis, I remember a friend saying on his birthday, “I never worry about getting older. I have a lot of friends who didn’t make it.” And he was about 30 when he said it. And he is dead now too. So I find this talk about aging a little precious. Let’s be grateful that we are alive, and let’s do something with our lives besides worry about how we look. I think we all probably look pretty good.
By Kitty Webb on 05/15/2008 8:00 am
K O
From one Kitty to another, thanks for a beautiful thought.
By K O on 05/15/2008 11:00 am
Jenny Oops
Being alive is so GOOD. I had a strange experience today: I was fussing to myself about having to fix dinner for my son — cooking can get a bit old. But then I said, “What is the matter with you woman. Your son who has a traumatic brain injury because of a drunk driver is ALIVE, your grandsun is an interesting kid — I like him. You and your daughter have a great relationship. all of you are pretty healthy, including me, there are no snipers or bombs on the streets of your neighborhood. We are blessed. What’s a little dinner. At least we have food. Yeah, woman, “what’s the matter with you?” :):):):)
By Jenny Oops on 05/17/2008 4:08 am
Frannie Em
Jenny I am with you. When I turned 55 I used to sing “55 and still alive”. Age is what you make it and life is what you make it.
By Frannie Em on 05/18/2008 4:10 pm
angela deleasa
feeling the same way, but i think its because i dont know what to cook, but better to be cooking, then standing on a bread line…. how was that, feel better as my mom would say.
By angela deleasa on 05/19/2008 8:19 pm
mary lou s
angela, maybe i’ve found the wrong sort of bread line. in mine you get things like bags of pinto beans. i am soaking a couple of cups of them right now.
By mary lou s on 05/20/2008 6:34 pm
elaine oland
Mary, Bless you - when I got up this AM, I started a couple hand fulls of dry beans cooking in my smallest crock pot. Later today I’ll cook a small pot of brown rice to go with the beans - —- I’m trying to eat right, exercise, and generally make sense of my life as it is now. Sunday my family will celebrate my Mom’s 97th birthday. She says she would rather skip this year and just plan on a party next year ! I want to honor her and her wishes but feel we must celebrate this year for several reasons. So we will be there - she can participate to the extent she wishes. Hope I’m right in that. Have reserved the family room at the asst. living place where she lives - the family will gather, there will be a meal, cake etc. Good discussion topic …. I enjoy WOW —— Thanks
By elaine oland on 05/21/2008 9:26 am
irish bell
I feel there is nothing wrong with celebrating another year of living. I am 52 and may not always feel that way, but I surely hope so. I couldn’t even imagine not celebrating my kids birthdays either. Birthdays are a joy to me!
By irish bell on 05/15/2008 8:03 am
Julie Davidson
I was reading the different comments about aging, and I want to let readers know about an internet radio show that targets people like us. There is a blog about it: http://onthehomestretch.blogspot.com Check it out!
By Julie Davidson on 05/17/2008 11:19 pm