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Conversation | 08/05/2008 12:15 pm

The Vancouver Conversations Part One: A Few wOw Women Remember Traumas and Dramas in High School, First Jobs, First Children

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Seated above from left to right are Cynthia McFadden, Mary Wells, Lesley Stahl, Joni Evans and Liz Smith.

Editor’s Note: Cynthia McFadden, Mary Wells, Lesley Stahl, Joni Evans and Liz Smith convened on Mary Wells’s yacht, Strangelove, in Vancouver for a glorious summer weekend of good friends and great conversation. Here’s what they talked about …

JONI: Hey, Liz, are you still the same person you were in high school?

LIZ: You’ve gotta be kidding. I mean that scrawny little know-nothing, aspiring, wannabe kid who would have done anything to bring attention on herself. You still think I’m that same person? I’m still the same. But in the process I became a snob, a semi-intellectual closet case, you know. All kinds of things happened to me that have been magical and wonderful. I feel much better than I felt in 1936 when I was reading Gone With the Wind.

JONI: But you are still the same person. You still have that, “I’m going to be somebody.”

LIZ: You know, I hate to be so trite, but going to the University of Texas did a lot for me. It changed me a lot. It sort of translated me from nothing into where I felt I had the equivalent of an Erasmus High School education, and so I could go on to New York and try to be somebody. I don’t think that would have happened without going to U.T.

JONI: Was that because you excelled in college?

LIZ: No, I just learned a lot and learned what I didn’t know and had wonderful experiences. I am the luckiest person in the world. I have been really lucky all my life. I showed up, like Woody Allen.

LESLEY: Women say they’re lucky and men don’t say that. Men say they made their lives.

LIZ: Well, I’ve worked hard. But I felt I … you know what? I was just translated up and up and up by working with fantastic men. I have only worked, really, in my whole life with one woman, Helen Gurley Brown. And that was late in my life, when I thought I was smarter than she was.

JONI: Were you?

LIZ: No. But, I don’t think that counted. It was men who translated me and pushed me to excel.

LESLEY: But when you came along there weren’t women you could work for. There were only men anyway.

LIZ: Yes. Well I worked for great men [Mike Wallace, Dave Garroway, Igor Cassini, Allen Funt].

CYNTHIA: You know what? I’m with Thomas Jefferson on that point. It’s amazing how the harder I work, the luckier I become. You know, it’s the truth. And of course there’s luck. It’s the person you meet that you would never have met who actually thinks maybe you have something or whatever. Of course there’s luck involved. But honestly, without the hard work and determination, the accomplishment and ability to achieve that, you know, you can’t turn the luck into anything but —

LIZ: Oh, well, let’s face it. I had a lot of charm and … and I was very cute when I was young.

MARY: When I started in work, everybody I worked for was a woman.

CYNTHIA: You had female bosses?

MARY: I went to New York to school and then everybody I worked for in New York and New Jersey, they were all women.

LESLEY: I thought you were the first woman boss in advertising.

MARY: No. No, I was the first woman that ever took an advertising agency public. I’m the first woman that ever was on the New York Stock Exchange. But there were lots of women in advertising.

LIZ: Mary, it was you who broke the glass ceiling, really, for all times.

MARY: That may be. But the women I worked for were tough babes and they were smart and they were really, really forceful. The woman running Macy’s, the woman running McCann Erickson, the woman running Doyle Dane Bernbach under Bill Bernbach. I mean, they ran the show. They were fabulous. They were great.

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Patsy Dee
High School was great. Had a boyfriend and a group of girls and guys that stayed in touch for more than 30 yrs. It was a large puplic school. Most of us knew each other since we were in grade school. Friday night rec. with a local bands. We had great teachers and some great counselors. From the time you entered the school in the 10th grade you thought about becoming a senior and getting to go out on the senior patio and eat lunch, read a book, study for a test or just hang out. As long as it was during a study hall period. Now to answer the question. No I hope I have grown as a person and learned more. I had no cares or responsiblity back than. Life was much easier. Today their are house payments and college tuitons. Still I have those great memories. That will stay with me forever.
By Patsy Dee on 08/06/2008 7:34 pm
Patsy Dee
Still reading the conversation, but hd to stop and respond. Portions of all your stories I can relate to. No babysitting, never was taught to boil water. Never made a bed. I was sandwiched in between two brothers. I was the baby for more than 7 yrs. before the second son of Italian parents. Even though they were first generation they had very diffeent ideas for there daughter. Oh yea wasn’t allowed to sleep overs either. My Dad used to say “why did someone steal your bed that you have to sleep over Carole’s house” Very strict in some ways, but in others not at all. So when I got married I didn’t know how to cook clean or do anything. Thank Goodness I had a career.
By Patsy Dee on 08/06/2008 7:54 pm
Kathy S.
I really enjoyed your conversation. I agree with Mary, in that I had a very primary work experience with women that was wonderful. I also had one after that that was terrible. The difference? When you work with women who are self-assured, know their power, and feel free to express their potential, it makes all the difference. Then you can develop a very supportive environment and this in itself is enormously empowering and nurturing. I began this job at a very difficult time in my own, young life. Talk about luck! When all these fabulous women began to rely on me, listen to my opinions and generally believe in me and trust my efforts, how could I let them down? It propelled me straight out of a serious depression and into a new world where creativity and productivity was possible. 30 years later we are still friends. The later, negative experience I had with another group of women was I think because they did not see their work as a career, but, just as a job. They had no autonomy or power and consequently took a very narrow view of the company goals. Consequently, there was the stereotypical backbiting, and manipulative, passive-aggressive behavior on a daily basis. I got out of there -fast! Working with men I always found too entangled with underlying sexual tensions - if it wasn’t right out there on the table! I admire courageous, creative women with opinions who are not afraid to speak up. You guys are a great group. Kathy S.
By Kathy S. on 08/07/2008 6:48 pm