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Conversation | 03/08/2008 11:51 am

Diane von Furstenberg: 'Fear is Not an Option'

Courtesy of Diane von Furstenberg

International Women’s Day was born on March 8, 1908, when fifteen thousand sweatshop workers, all women, took to the streets of New York to protest appalling working conditions and demand the right to vote. Their slogan was “Bread and Roses” — bread for decent pay, roses for a better life.

One hundred years later, International Women’s Day is celebrated across the world. Special attention is paid to helping women in developing countries achieve the rights that those garment workers fought for in 1908.

The designer Diane von Furstenberg, an immigrant garment worker herself, is collaborating with the N.G.O. Vital Voices, which trains and equips women around the world to run for political office, start businesses and succeed.

We at wOw talked to the legengdary fashion designer this week about her life and work on the occasion of Women’s Day:


JOAN: What does International Women’s Day mean to you?

DIANE: I enjoy working with women. In my company we are 97% women, they could all be my daughters. I love that feeling. Being with young people does not make me feel old. I don’t feel much different from them, just more experienced and therefore more secure.

JOAN: When you were 40, you said, “Now it’s time to become a myth.” What did you mean?

DIANE: At 40, you can no longer just count on your beauty or on your seduction power…I always joke and say that it is time to become a myth!!! Meaning stand for something…be the best at making apricot jam or whatever!!!

JOAN: What frightens you most?

DIANE: Fear is not an option.

JOAN: What is the biggest lesson you have learned?

DIANE: Don’t be afraid of your own strength.

JOAN: Which do you prefer attending, weddings or funerals?

DIANE: Weddings, of course. But what I like about funerals is that people are more vulnerable and sincere.

JOAN: Does New York nightlife hold any fascination for you at this stage in your life?

DIANE: Going out in New York is about witnessing something new…a play, a show, a movie, a book!!! New York is a center for culture.

JOAN: Have you ever thought about cutting your hair short, dyeing it?

DIANE: I did cut my hair very, very short in 1984. I needed a change, and a change I got. Not just the hair, but I moved to Paris and fell in love with a new man.

JOAN: What’s the secret?

DIANE: The secret is to enjoy being you. I love the role of senior.

JOAN: How do you and Barry Diller stay so tight? What makes your marriage tick?

DIANE: Barry has been a lover, a friend, a husband…and he is good at all the roles. He loves me unconditionally and has taught me to do the same.

JOAN: You work with Nathan Jenden. How did you find him? How do you work together?

DIANE: I trust, respect and love Nathan. I think he feels the same about me, which is why we communicate so well. I have a huge design Studio now. Nathan is the Creative Director, but I have a huge team and some are very talented. To improve the Studio, to find constantly new and young talent, is something I want to focus on in the next year. The Studio is truly becoming a lab for young talent. I am very involved with the schools and in setting up competitions.

JOAN: Will you ever design for men?

DIANE: I ONLY design for women!

JOAN: Any women artists you particularly admire?

DIANE: All women inspire me. Ahn Duong is my friend artist. She is a great painter and even a better sculptor.

JOAN: What’s your most common saying? (Is it still “Do you love me?”)

DIANE: Do you love me is a way to say…I love you!

JOAN: Who is your best friend (besides Barry)?

DIANE: My children, Alexandre and Tatiana are by far my best friends.

JOAN: What is the motto you live by?

DIANE: Go for it!!!

JOAN: What computer do you use?

DIANE: Vaio…but I may switch to Mac!!!

JOAN: I know you give back all the time — specifically, now, what?

DIANE: I prefer giving to receiving. It is a privilege to be able to share, to make a difference.

JOAN: Plastic surgery: yes, no, if not, why not, if not, what else?

DIANE: I know women wonder why I have done nothing to my face. I don’t even know myself. I would love to resist it — always. I don’t feel very beautiful, but I feel fulfilled. These days don’t have enough hours, because I get into so many things. I feel very engaged – I love it!!!

THE END

41 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

TANGA ANDERSON
I love this article! I am truly just learning this mantra and exercising to my advantage. We have so much power, but we are sometimes afraid to use it for fear of hurting someone else’s feelings or egos. Courage comes from within, and that’s where we should look for our power. For years, I was the quiet one who never expressed my feelings. When I would express them, they would come out so bright and bold, that I would almost scare myself. Strangers come up to me in public and just start talking, telling me their problems, or just talking about the weather. Then when a couple people told me that they were intimidated by me, I asked them why. They said that my presence and voice was so strong, yet soothing enough to truly confide in. A bright light went off, and I decided to become a mentor and life coach. My uncle, before he passed, always used to tell me - “You always have a choice, with anything, you always have a choice. ” Whether or not you use it, is up to you.
By TANGA ANDERSON on 03/10/2008 10:08 am
Nancy Hamilton
Love the wrap dresses! One of the few designs/designers that make me feel age-appropriately cool, professional, and just a little bit dangerous!
By Nancy Hamilton on 03/10/2008 10:43 am
K. F.
Nice to know that even a women of privileged background can advance in age and wisdom, and learn the truth of love and beauty. Thank you for this interview.
By K. F. on 03/10/2008 10:57 am
gromyt the dog
If a dog could chuckle, then I’d chuckle. Because I never would’ve thought to describe Diane Von Furstenberg as an “immigrant garment worker.” Bet she’s never been locked in a warehouse against fire code laws or asked to do piece work for pennies each with no health insurance, benefits, 401k plan, or even guarantee of a lunch hour or minimum wage. Bet the ears of those real “immigrant garment worker” ladies in Chinatown and the Mariana Islands are burning.
By gromyt the dog on 03/11/2008 12:22 am
Eileen Keane
Very nice interview but too short. I’d also have liked to see a recent/closeup picture of Diane.
By Eileen Keane on 03/12/2008 8:15 am
Gina Lancellotti
Fear paralyzes, teaches and moves us into action. It may not be an option or a choice but it affects us every day in different ways. It affects soldiers, parents, seniors, children and even politicians. It is sometimes because of fear that we can appreciate the wonderful things in life. I wish you much success with this website. Good luck!
By Gina Lancellotti on 03/12/2008 8:26 am
E S
Fear is not an option!!! This is actually going to be my new motto. I am a 42 year old mother of 4. I put my education on the hold to have and take care of my family. My husband have encouraged me to go back but I kept coming up with excuses. I recently decided to go back to school finish my degree and move on to my self. This and the conversation from GMA made me realize I have been afraid is why I did not continue and this has cause a stunt in my growth. I have been afraid of success for what It might do. I decided that this is no longer going to hold me back. I am going to put myself out there and conquer this. Watch out world because I am coming out.
By E S on 03/12/2008 8:38 am
Janelle H
Go for it E.S.! I am 35 and back in college after my husband suffered TWO strokes! The school is too far from home to drive, so I live on campus during the week and he stays home with our daughter. I agree with Diane, “Fear is NOT an option!” We should never “be afraid of our own strength.” Going back to school has given me a new understanding of who I am as a woman in my own right. Some days I glimpse what I can become, and the effect is intoxicating! Excuses that hold us back are grownup versions of monsters in the closet. Good Luck!
By Janelle H on 03/12/2008 9:10 am
Ms Karen S
The statement “I don’t even know myself” - fabulous. There is always something new to learn about yourself, making changes to your body via plastic surgery will alter the lesson. Wonderful interview…
By Ms Karen S on 03/12/2008 9:29 am
RM Talbot
As a Hispanic women who was taught to stay on the sidelines, I had to tell myself on countless occasions, not to be afraid to move away from the sidelines in order to try something new. “Fear is not an option” are wonderful, inspiring words, even now as I face my mid-fifties and wonder what else I can overcome. Loved the interview!
By RM Talbot on 03/12/2008 9:55 am
Kay Sara
Diane’s wrap dress in 1977 was the first dress I owned since the hippy age of torn jeans and pant suits. That wrap dress with my first pair of heels were worn on my first job interviews after college. She brought feminine beauty back to women’s clothing.
By Kay Sara on 03/12/2008 10:58 am
Rose-Marie McGuire
I saw the GMA spot what a surprise. A place to tell it like it is. First thought is that girls were taught to look for a man. In 1958 at CC then (now CAU) in Atlanta the Dean of Women suggested we Ladies find our dreamboat. Later would harder. My experience with my fish was, loved everything about me. After marriage told had to follow him, so why did I suddenly become the dummie in this card game of life. On my own back to listening to my creater. Now CEO of The Pettie House Gallery, where I exhibit my paintings and those of my students. This is the second year for me. Already you have helped me HANG ON IT WILL COME. Thank you. Peace to you all, Rose-Marie
By Rose-Marie McGuire on 03/12/2008 11:37 am
Lynne Guist
Wow Mary what a great insight! So many great women here with great strengths to share. I was brought up by a strong woman who always said, ” You can do whatever you set your mind to” she is right. There is nothing we can’t do when we believe in us and each other, and stay strong, and share. I’ve been divorced for a long time and was in the corporate world for awhile before I started Client Connector a business of my own! “Fear is not an option” for me either. But SSSsssshhhhh sometimes……I have it. lol My mom was and still is a strong support for me. She continues to show me her strength and teaches me that sometimes life throws us curve balls, but it’s how we re-act to them that makes us who we are. Mom has been battling terminal colon cancer this past year, and through it all she has remained strong, knowing we only have what time God has planned, so we might as well make the best of it. She has been given just a few more months if that. I can’t change what is happening and is going to happen with regards to my mom, but I know I can be strong, and know that I will be ok. What a great story this was! Thank you!!
By Lynne Guist on 03/12/2008 12:20 pm
Sandra  Guenther
Please Lynne, say “battling colon cancer” not “battling terminal colon cancer” Even though it may be terminal, more positive words can make a huge difference in how you and others react to the illness and to everyone concerned. The end of life is a precious time for all of you and don’t let fear be an option! Sandie
By Sandra Guenther on 03/12/2008 3:14 pm
Julie Kay
What is the opposite of love? I say it’s fear not hate. Fear DRIVES hate, not to mention jealousy, anger, and frustration. So, be brave ladies, and forge ahead with compassion, comfort!
By Julie Kay on 03/12/2008 4:36 pm