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Conversation | 03/08/2008 11:51 am

Diane von Furstenberg: 'Fear is Not an Option'

Courtesy of Diane von Furstenberg

International Women’s Day was born on March 8, 1908, when fifteen thousand sweatshop workers, all women, took to the streets of New York to protest appalling working conditions and demand the right to vote. Their slogan was “Bread and Roses” — bread for decent pay, roses for a better life.

One hundred years later, International Women’s Day is celebrated across the world. Special attention is paid to helping women in developing countries achieve the rights that those garment workers fought for in 1908.

The designer Diane von Furstenberg, an immigrant garment worker herself, is collaborating with the N.G.O. Vital Voices, which trains and equips women around the world to run for political office, start businesses and succeed.

We at wOw talked to the legengdary fashion designer this week about her life and work on the occasion of Women’s Day:


JOAN: What does International Women’s Day mean to you?

DIANE: I enjoy working with women. In my company we are 97% women, they could all be my daughters. I love that feeling. Being with young people does not make me feel old. I don’t feel much different from them, just more experienced and therefore more secure.

JOAN: When you were 40, you said, “Now it’s time to become a myth.” What did you mean?

DIANE: At 40, you can no longer just count on your beauty or on your seduction power…I always joke and say that it is time to become a myth!!! Meaning stand for something…be the best at making apricot jam or whatever!!!

JOAN: What frightens you most?

DIANE: Fear is not an option.

JOAN: What is the biggest lesson you have learned?

DIANE: Don’t be afraid of your own strength.

JOAN: Which do you prefer attending, weddings or funerals?

DIANE: Weddings, of course. But what I like about funerals is that people are more vulnerable and sincere.

JOAN: Does New York nightlife hold any fascination for you at this stage in your life?

DIANE: Going out in New York is about witnessing something new…a play, a show, a movie, a book!!! New York is a center for culture.

JOAN: Have you ever thought about cutting your hair short, dyeing it?

DIANE: I did cut my hair very, very short in 1984. I needed a change, and a change I got. Not just the hair, but I moved to Paris and fell in love with a new man.

JOAN: What’s the secret?

DIANE: The secret is to enjoy being you. I love the role of senior.

JOAN: How do you and Barry Diller stay so tight? What makes your marriage tick?

DIANE: Barry has been a lover, a friend, a husband…and he is good at all the roles. He loves me unconditionally and has taught me to do the same.

JOAN: You work with Nathan Jenden. How did you find him? How do you work together?

DIANE: I trust, respect and love Nathan. I think he feels the same about me, which is why we communicate so well. I have a huge design Studio now. Nathan is the Creative Director, but I have a huge team and some are very talented. To improve the Studio, to find constantly new and young talent, is something I want to focus on in the next year. The Studio is truly becoming a lab for young talent. I am very involved with the schools and in setting up competitions.

JOAN: Will you ever design for men?

DIANE: I ONLY design for women!

JOAN: Any women artists you particularly admire?

DIANE: All women inspire me. Ahn Duong is my friend artist. She is a great painter and even a better sculptor.

JOAN: What’s your most common saying? (Is it still “Do you love me?”)

DIANE: Do you love me is a way to say…I love you!

JOAN: Who is your best friend (besides Barry)?

DIANE: My children, Alexandre and Tatiana are by far my best friends.

JOAN: What is the motto you live by?

DIANE: Go for it!!!

JOAN: What computer do you use?

DIANE: Vaio…but I may switch to Mac!!!

JOAN: I know you give back all the time — specifically, now, what?

DIANE: I prefer giving to receiving. It is a privilege to be able to share, to make a difference.

JOAN: Plastic surgery: yes, no, if not, why not, if not, what else?

DIANE: I know women wonder why I have done nothing to my face. I don’t even know myself. I would love to resist it — always. I don’t feel very beautiful, but I feel fulfilled. These days don’t have enough hours, because I get into so many things. I feel very engaged – I love it!!!

THE END

41 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

Char Star
Diane has been one of my very personal heroes all my life!—along with Katherine Hepburn & Natalie Wood. She’s beautiful, has style, talent, & grace—plus good business sense. I saved & bought myself one of her wrap dresses back in the day & I always felt good in it, got compliments, & it was comfortable & easy care. I admire her confidence & her qualities so much. Thanks for being you, Diane….what an inspiration.
By Char Star on 03/12/2008 7:14 pm
susan neckman
met my daughter for lunch yesterday she is a freshman in College and the comment about fear not being an option is one that I wanted and did share with her. As a young woman I had a similar quote although mine was something to the tune of ” face your fear and it will disappear”. I shared both quotes with her and wanted to thankyou for refreshing my thoughts which ultimately led me to sharing them with my daughter. It is such a valuable piece of advice to share and one that would have easily been overlooked had I not read your comments. Fear is not an option in this world especially as a woman. Keeping ones thought clear in situations where the emotion of fear is present can also be life saving in many ways.
By susan neckman on 03/13/2008 7:54 pm
yismeily de jesus
DIANE YOURE RIGHT ABOUTFEAR IS NOT AN OPTION”. I ACTUALLY MADE A POSTER AND POST IT UP IN A PUBLIC PLACE SO EVERYBODY COULD SEE YOUR INTELLIGENCE.
By yismeily de jesus on 03/14/2008 10:53 am
Laura Greenawalt
Wish more Hispanic women would have the opportunity to listen to you and understand the deep meaning of “facing fear”. Fear is deeply ingrained in our culture, not empowering women to grow and be more independent. Will pass on your advice to as many as I can.
By Laura Greenawalt on 03/14/2008 9:44 pm
Pamela Rosenthal
Fear is not an option.” What a great concept. After all, women are smart, savvy, and infinitely creative and resourceful. Eliminating fear from the equation allows us to lighten our load and soar to new levels of achievement in both our personal and professional lives.
By Pamela Rosenthal on 03/15/2008 12:03 pm
Suzanne Frazier
Fear is not an Option. I can hear that phrase becoming part of the buzz. As a young woman, fear was the juice that kept me moving forward, like a tiger following me and ready to pounce but I kept one step ahead. And as a result, I moved ahead. Now that I’m in my sixties, I find that fear doesn’t exist. I may have had enough life experience to understand that fear is only in the mind and not a tiger crouched to pounce. Fear is no longer the juice to keep me going. Fear is just not an option any longer. Thank goodness!
By Suzanne Frazier on 03/15/2008 4:59 pm
floie martin
the fear of fear is what keeps me moving, facing the unknown. I know if we let the fear take over, we will never allow for anything new to inter our lives.
By floie martin on 03/16/2008 7:01 pm
Teresa Proctor
Fear is not an option, but for many we fall back into our old stories which prevent us from connecting to our true brilliance! If every Woman in the World lived by those few simple words this would be a different planet. Can you imagine if the world of Women connected to the hearts and spoke their truth. Where would the children be? Would there be War? Would there be poverty? Would we be part of a World driven by greed and EGO? What would be possible if we all connected to our hearts and spoke our truth? What impact could we as Women have on the planet? Interesting…
By Teresa Proctor on 03/17/2008 2:31 pm
Buh-Bye Hillary Hillary Buh-Bye
Fabulous interview. Fear is the dark side. Go to the light. and Yes, Jane Macs do rule!!! and here’s a great pix of the beautiful Diane, Christine…(just go to Google images and key in your search) http://www.monmouth.army.mil/holocaust/images/pix/dianevf.jpg
By Buh-Bye Hillary Hillary Buh-Bye on 03/23/2008 6:06 pm
Charles Dance
Our 40’s are our BEST YEARS…around 55, perhaps a little later.. not as good.
By Charles Dance on 03/28/2008 8:05 pm
IRINA 11-11
Fantastic interview, very inspirational. As an entrepreneur heading for a much bigger scale and growth, this was a perfect thing to read. Thank you
By IRINA 11-11 on 04/12/2008 3:20 am