Candice Bergen | 10/07/2009 12:00 am
Candice Bergen Defines 'Bravery'
In response to: What is the bravest thing you have ever done?
I’m not sure anything any of us has done can appropriately fall under the "bravery" banner when thousands of young kids have lost their lives in Iraq and Afghanistan.
But to me, bravery is doing something you are afraid of. Writing a book, in my case (and which I would never have finished had it not been for our Joni). Having a child. For some, it’s a relationship.

























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I would just love to commend all you women for having what it takes to be the "brave," strong women that you are! I think we, as women, participate in acts of bravery on a daily basis; just some more intense than others. Every day we make the choice to use our own voices to participate in the world around us. Maybe it’s through teaching our children how to be responsible, caring individuals. Maybe it’s through sustaining that career that some feel is not our place. Maybe it’s through the juggling act of taking control of all those aspects of our lives that create a sense of fulfillment and joy. And maybe, it’s through the simple act of shedding that protective layer, allowing someone to love us. Whatever it is that makes us ALL brave, it is meaningful and dynamic! Congrats out there to all you beautiful women!!
I believe bravery is a basic part to each person’s personality and character. Each person difines what requires a leap of bravery for them. Going solo against the norm of society may look brave to some but to the individual going solo it may be the only choice they have available. Bravery, therefore, is something that others see in a certain individual and that something is usually the thing they can’t imagine themselves doing.
Evil Knievel was brave because very few us viewers would ever consider doing what he did and he performed his stunts because he wanted to. That is the clearest definition of brave.
Courage, on the other hand, is the act of doing that which is extremely frightening.
The bravest act I ever witnesses was when I was barely 6 years olds. We went to visit my dad’s parents for a vacation. They had a dairy ranch in Texas. On morning all the penned animals began going wild and the dogs barking wildly. I ran out with my Grandmother and Daddy to also see what was happenin. The one and only bull had broken out of his coral and was running around in the open area between the house and the barn and the pens. He was attacking anything that caught his attention. At that time, my grandfather and uncle came out of the barn and the bull took off after my grandfather. I saw him thrown into the air and the bull then gore him on the ground. My Dad grabbed the broom from my grandmother’s hand, jumped off the porch and took off after the bull. He fought that bull off of my grandfather with a broom. Yes, my grandfather did survive, no, my dad was not hurt. The bull was shot the next day.
That is courage.
Years ago, as I was pulling into a parking space outside the local supermarket, I glanced into the car next to mine. In it was a man and a teenaged girl. Their windows were rolled up, but even through the glass, I could see that they were arguing, and that the girl, a slender blonde of about fourteen, was crying hysterically. Suddenly, as I exited my car, the girl flung her door open and started to run. The man pursued her and before she had gotten very far, he had grabbed her. By this time, the girl was completely hysterical, and as I headed toward them, her eyes met mine, and I saw the deepest fear I had ever seen in those blue, tear-filled eyes. So I yelled as loudly as my drama-club trained voice could, and told the man to let her go. He literally snarled at me, "Back off. This is my daughter, so back off or I’ll belt YOU."
That’s when I belted him. I don;t know where it came from, but I delivered a right cross that landed on his eye and sent him reeling. I put my arm around the girl, and hustled her into the market to safety, with the man shouting that he would kill me. When the police arrived, I was ready to be arrested for assault. I did go to the station, gave a statement, and no charges were ever pressed. I think I was fortunate to have escaped both the legal charges and physical harm, but frankly - I would do it again. Because the look in that girl’s eyes was a clarion call for help. And I was there.
Bravery to me is going through a medical procedure for the first time even though I get highly anxious and what I anticipate and my mind spins like you do when you go to a gym and sit on one of those spinning bicycles.
Bravery is being a Canadian soldier (or American) fighting for what, I’m not sure, except preventing another 9/11 on American soil and coming back home with PTSS.
Bravery would be giving my life up to save my spouse.