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Candice Bergen | 03/22/2009 1:25 pm

Candice Bergen Reflects on Natasha Richardson's Death

Candice Bergen
Natasha Richardson’s tragic death seems to have hit everyone so terribly hard. Even those who didn’t know her. And for those who did — it is unbearable. Heartbreaking. She was the most vibrant, beautiful, gracious presence. And such talent. But she was not born a beauty. Her sister, Joely, was the tall, slim, blonde stunner and Natasha was the chubby, shorter girl. It was Natasha who cooked during the summers at her father’s house in the south of France. She cooked while the houseguests went down the hill to the beach. And she cooked beautifully. She was a natural. But she had to make a choice to become beautiful. To get that fantastic figure. To sing in a musical, "Cabaret", when she wasn’t a trained singer and then to win a Tony for her performance in it. A performance which was heartbreaking. She made such an impact personally on people. There was something electric about her. And the love she shared with her dear, handsome, talented husband. The connection between them. I never met her boys. But they will suffer this for the rest of their lives. And spend the rest of their lives trying to make sense of her absence where there is none. It has shocked us all into realizing, once more, how fragile it is. That this is all a gift. An incalculable, overwhelming, precious gift that we must never take for granted. I agree with Julia on what I would like to focus on for spring. That we are all on borrowed time and should not squander a second.

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Ann Burke
Cb’s remarks are Catty. Leave Narasha alone. She is one of thevmostvbeautiful women who ever lived.
By Ann Burke on 04/26/2009 5:42 am
Terrie Coles

I think you are taking the comment the wrong way TJ.  Seems a little personal. 

What I got from it was that Natasha decided what she wanted, knew what it took to get it and went for it.  Which is what this life gives us.  We are blessed to be able to make decisions and changes in our lives, to live life and not let it live us.  Natasha was a good mother, wife, actress, and genuine human being is what I hear.  And Candice’s memorial took nothing from that.

Chill!

By Terrie Coles on 03/23/2009 10:58 am
K F
I’m with TJ Trell. The comments, however well intended, came across shallow and unnecessary.  The simple fact Natasha had low self esteem and struggled with those issues, is not cause for Candice Bergen to confirm whatever reasons Natasha may have had for feeling less than beautiful, for feeling chubby and shorter than her sister — and to compare this lovely woman to her sister was simply in poor taste.  Being chubby did not make her less attractive, being shorter than her tall sister did not make her less attractive, and Candice Bergen suggesting she had to overcome those issues in order to feel more beautiful, was an unnecessary element to this memorial, no matter what Natasha may have thought herself. She was beautiful, she was wrong about her issues, and she didn’t need another celebrity to remind of those issues.  TJ, I agree, it was disturbing.   God bless all the beautiful, short, chubby girls.
By K F on 03/24/2009 11:26 am
DeBúrca obj
I never saw one of her movies nor any of her interviews. But I have always loved her husband, his work, and his sweet personality and after all I’ve seen and read these past few days about Natasha Richardson and her family, I have not been able to get it completely out of my mind. I saw a video of her casket being carried and it had a Claddagh carved into the side that just broke my heart. Such a sad turn of events but at the same time I can’t help but think this woman was very blessed with so much love surrounding her and that her family was blessed with her vibrant spirit which seems to be touching us all at this time.
By DeBúrca obj on 03/23/2009 9:52 am
Chrome Toe
Deburca - whats a claddagh?
By Chrome Toe on 03/23/2009 10:12 am
DeBúrca obj
A Claddagh is and Irish symbol where 2 hands hold a heart which is topped by a crown. The hands symbolize faith, the heart symbolizes love and the crown symbolizes loyalty and fidelity. 
By DeBúrca obj on 03/23/2009 10:32 am
DeBúrca obj
typo: ‘AN’ Irish symbol
By DeBúrca obj on 03/23/2009 10:34 am
Chrome Toe
I think that vibrancy and electricity that you talk about is what people like me… who didn’t know her… responded to so deeply. I looked at photos of her and remembered a couple of her films and thought "she’s just so ALIVE" how can she all the sudden be gone like that. I and maybe others responded to this feeling that her family had just lost a huge amount of color in their lives. something so big and irreplaceable that we as a country of people felt it.
By Chrome Toe on 03/23/2009 10:12 am
Helen O'Reilly
Chrome Toe, as long as you’re on the computer, why not Google it?
By Helen O'Reilly on 03/23/2009 10:34 am
Carl Monroe

Thanks CB. Your blogging has been such a revelation, she had to make the choice to be beautiful you never had to make and she went suddenly, different from your struggling with the death of Louis Malle. Still, tragic all the same. Odd Vanessa wore white at the funeral. Dean

By Carl Monroe on 03/23/2009 10:39 am
Suzanne de Cornelia
It isn’t odd that Natasha’s wonderful, legendary mother chose to wore white at the funeral, but odd that you mentioned it. People need to grieve in their own way, in many cultures white is worn at funerals, and it can symbolize birth into eternal being. As a mother so horribly striken by her beautiful daughter’s death…it is up to her to deal with and characterize her daughter’s tragic death as she needs to. 
By Suzanne de Cornelia on 03/23/2009 11:57 am
DeBúrca obj
I read somewhere that Vanessa Redgrave sang a lullaby to her daughter on her deathbed. How ANYONE would know that, is beyond me, so I’m not so sure it’s fact, but it was heartbreaking to read, nonetheless.
By DeBúrca obj on 03/23/2009 12:12 pm
Suzanne de Cornelia
I read the same thing too and it sounded in character and very sweet to me. Nathasa loved watching her mother in ‘Camelot’ and this too early tragic death had the awful irony of myth about it. The beautiful princess hurt in a fairytale location and her prince racing to her side, too late.  
By Suzanne de Cornelia on 03/23/2009 4:02 pm
DeBúrca obj
I had forgotten that only a few years ago it was SHE rushing to him in the hospital when he had his motorcycle accident and they didn’t know if he would survive.
By DeBúrca obj on 03/23/2009 5:07 pm
Lizzie R.
I wore white at my son’s funeral, and probably got criticized because of it. I didn’t have anything black and could not go shopping for an appropriate outfit, so white it was. I now have funeral black in my closet.
By Lizzie R. on 03/23/2009 6:31 pm