Dedicated Book Spotlight | 06/08/2009 11:00 pm
Excuses Begone! By Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

The following is an excerpt from Excuses Begone!, the latest
book from Dr. Wayne Dyer, an internationally renowned author and
speaker in the field of self-development. Follow along as he teaches
you how to change lifelong self-defeating thinking habits. To read the
entire book, click here to purchase.
In my role as a counselor, teacher and parent, I’ve heard many reasons
that people use to explain an unhappy existence … and almost all of
them inevitably fall into one huge category, which I call "excuses."
For example: Excuse, "I Can’t Afford It"
It’s a rare day when I don’t hear some variation of this excuse,
including: "I didn’t go to college because it was too expensive," "I
haven’t been able to travel because I never had the funds" and "I
couldn’t go into the business I wanted because I had to stay where I
was and earn money to pay the bills." I call this belief lame and a
cop-out, yet there seems to be almost universal agreement for its
existence.
You originated in a world of abundance, which you unquestionably have
the ability to access. Whenever you discourage yourself with thoughts
that your financial situation is preventing anything from appearing,
that’s an excuse. If you instead decide to bring abundance and awareness
into your consciousness, you’ll shift your thoughts from "I can’t
afford it" to "Whatever I need in the form of assistance to guide me in
the direction of my life is not only available, but is on its way."
You’ll then consciously watch for the necessary funding to show up, but
you’ll also be reminding yourself to believe that you have the ability
to use abundance to elevate your life.
Encourage yourself by realizing that you have the capacity to create a
space within you that’s filled with peace and joy, an inner island of
contentment that has nothing to do with money. Practice gratitude for
the essentials of life, which are yours to enjoy virtually free of
charge. These include air, water, fire, the sun and the moon; the very
ground you walk on; the continuous beating of your heart; the inhaling
and exhaling of your lungs; your food digesting; your eyes and ears;
and so on. Be utterly grateful for all that you have naturally, which
is beyond the scope of what’s "affordable." As that endeavor
strengthens, assess what you’d truly like to do, where you’d like to
live and what creature comforts you desire.
When I made the decision to attend college after spending four years in
the military, for instance, I knew in my heart that money wasn’t going
to be the thing that prevented me from reaching my goals. I understood
the costs involved, and I didn’t act on my fear of shortage or what I
couldn’t afford — I acted on my internal knowing that I indeed was
going to attend the university. This knowing prompted me to investigate
financial assistance from the government as a veteran, open a savings
account designated for tuition and books, talk with the financial-aid
people at the university and make alternative plans to attend community
college, if plan A were not to materialize. I had a certainty inside of
me that the "I can’t afford it" reasoning is an excuse that many people
who aren’t considered wealthy employ as a means for exonerating
themselves when the need a rationalization for why they’re stuck where
they are in life.
Oscar Wilde made this wry observation in 1891: "There is only one class
in the community that thinks more about money than the rich, and that
is the poor. The poor can think of nothing else." I’d add that such
thinking includes lamenting the fact that they’ll never have the money.
I advise tossing out this meme, and instead rewriting thoughts to
connect with what’s intended to manifest, regardless of your current
financial status.
Whatever you feel is your dharma, and no matter how hard that calling
seems to be pulling you, if you maintain the belief that you can’t
manage to pull it off, I can assure you that you’re right. To
paraphrase Henry Ford, whether you believe you can afford to do a thing
or not, you’re right.























65 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment
Yep. Agree.
…and pray tell Mike…about your photo: WHY is your head in the refrigerator?
You are funny…now and then maybe we all live in the state of paranoia :-) but my other state is Missouri in that city with a big Arch and the Cardinals. Wierd spring here with a ton of rain and floods, now HOT and HUMID as hell. I’m off to stick my head in the fridge again cause I’m too stubborn to turn on the AC.
How is it that a guy like you hangs out at Women on the Web? Curious… ?
A "guy like me"? Well, as many on wOw know, I’m crazy about Marlo Thomas. And when I heard she was posting to this site, I had to check it out. It was an election year in ‘08, and I couldn’t help adding my two cents (sorry, I was broke). I hit it off with many of the women, and discovered that I could use my professional journalistic background to pontificate even further. Many of us have become quite chummy over time.
Also, I am a loner, not by design. It’s called "atypical depression". I receiving treatment for social anxiety. But 99% of my anxiety is around women to whom I’m attracted. I’m not anxious in almost any other regard. And I have some avoidant-personality characteristics. So now you know my psychological profile. Eventually, I’m hoping to overcome the anxiety, meet someone and fall in love (again). Cheers.
like "Dr. Dyer, I was going to continue dancing all of my life .. by the age of 10 I was teaching tap and ballet at my dance school in Grosse Point - until that October I was hit by Polio. Now, tell me how to fulfill those plans, and dreams!
A current dream is to bite you in your knee caps for your pompous arrogance."