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Dedicated Book Spotlight | 06/08/2009 11:00 pm

Excuses Begone! By Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Sponsored by Hay House

The following is an excerpt from Excuses Begone!, the latest book from Dr. Wayne Dyer, an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development. Follow along as he teaches you how to change lifelong self-defeating thinking habits. To read the entire book, click here to purchase.

In my role as a counselor, teacher and parent, I’ve heard many reasons that people use to explain an unhappy existence … and almost all of them inevitably fall into one huge category, which I call "excuses."


For example: Excuse, "I Can’t Afford It"

It’s a rare day when I don’t hear some variation of this excuse, including: "I didn’t go to college because it was too expensive," "I haven’t been able to travel because I never had the funds" and "I couldn’t go into the business I wanted because I had to stay where I was and earn money to pay the bills." I call this belief lame and a cop-out, yet there seems to be almost universal agreement for its existence.

You originated in a world of abundance, which you unquestionably have the ability to access. Whenever you discourage yourself with thoughts that your financial situation is preventing anything from appearing, that’s an excuse. If you instead decide to bring abundance and awareness into your consciousness, you’ll shift your thoughts from "I can’t afford it" to "Whatever I need in the form of assistance to guide me in the direction of my life is not only available, but is on its way." You’ll then consciously watch for the necessary funding to show up, but you’ll also be reminding yourself to believe that you have the ability to use abundance to elevate your life.

Encourage yourself by realizing that you have the capacity to create a space within you that’s filled with peace and joy, an inner island of contentment that has nothing to do with money. Practice gratitude for the essentials of life, which are yours to enjoy virtually free of charge. These include air, water, fire, the sun and the moon; the very ground you walk on; the continuous beating of your heart; the inhaling and exhaling of your lungs; your food digesting; your eyes and ears; and so on. Be utterly grateful for all that you have naturally, which is beyond the scope of what’s "affordable." As that endeavor strengthens, assess what you’d truly like to do, where you’d like to live and what creature comforts you desire.

When I made the decision to attend college after spending four years in the military, for instance, I knew in my heart that money wasn’t going to be the thing that prevented me from reaching my goals. I understood the costs involved, and I didn’t act on my fear of shortage or what I couldn’t afford — I acted on my internal knowing that I indeed was going to attend the university. This knowing prompted me to investigate financial assistance from the government as a veteran, open a savings account designated for tuition and books, talk with the financial-aid people at the university and make alternative plans to attend community college, if plan A were not to materialize. I had a certainty inside of me that the "I can’t afford it" reasoning is an excuse that many people who aren’t considered wealthy employ as a means for exonerating themselves when the need a rationalization for why they’re stuck where they are in life.

Oscar Wilde made this wry observation in 1891: "There is only one class in the community that thinks more about money than the rich, and that is the poor. The poor can think of nothing else." I’d add that such thinking includes lamenting the fact that they’ll never have the money. I advise tossing out this meme, and instead rewriting thoughts to connect with what’s intended to manifest, regardless of your current financial status.

Whatever you feel is your dharma, and no matter how hard that calling seems to be pulling you, if you maintain the belief that you can’t manage to pull it off, I can assure you that you’re right. To paraphrase Henry Ford, whether you believe you can afford to do a thing or not, you’re right.

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James the Game
There’s a lot of truth to what Dr. Dyer says. But there’s also some degree of, "I’ve got mine, so you must be excuse-making if you don’t have yours."
By James the Game on 06/01/2009 11:41 am
phyllis Doyle Pepe
I’m always skeptical of these talking gurus who write books, go on speaking tours, be on television specials and tell us how to think, and how to live our lives and if we follow their suggestions, or advice we will find that big bundle of happiness at the end of the rainbow. If I needed  that kind of help in my life, I certainly wouldn’t cotton to someone who speaks universally as though everyone’s problems and solutions are the same. I would want individual therapy. I have seen Dyer in passing on a TV special––what struck me was the audience––mostly women looking up almost in rapture at what this man was saying. Gave me the creeps.
By phyllis Doyle Pepe on 06/02/2009 10:22 am
georgia fatwood
Hi phyllis….I paid attention when he first came on my radar….and probably will again when he comes on TV during pledge week….(well…nah….) But your comment reminds me of my favorite bumper sticker: "Enlightenment doesn’t care how you get there…" I would suggest a new one…"Enlightenment is not One Size Fits All.." or somesuch……I know what you mean about the audience’s demeanor…..Not so much a critic as just not a fan….
By georgia fatwood on 06/04/2009 4:02 pm
georgia fatwood
Hi James….I think we hear a lot in that "tone of voice" these days…("I’ve got mine, so you must be excuse-making if you don’t have yours..") That’s just a quick hop, skip and a jump to "I’ve got mine, don’t you DARE try to get yours…" Do you know what/who I’m talking about?
By georgia fatwood on 06/04/2009 3:55 pm
James the Game
Yep
By James the Game on 06/04/2009 5:25 pm
Christine Cline
I agree. Let him spend a year in my shoes. Then if he is still alive; much less can acheive his dreams, I will do anything he says.
By Christine Cline on 06/10/2009 7:09 pm
Carol Ross

Yep.  Agree.

…and pray tell Mike…about your photo:  WHY is your head in the refrigerator?

By Carol Ross on 06/18/2009 10:48 am
James the Game
James is my name, Carol. And it’s in the refrigerator because I’m a vegetable. No, last summer wOw asked readers to send photos of them and their refrigerators. Apparently, no one other than myself and a few of the celebrities (like Joni & Cynthia) complied. So, the photos never ran. I decided to post mine, anyway. Cheers.
By James the Game on 06/18/2009 11:11 am
Carol Ross
Oops…Sorry James that I have challenges with names.  It is SO SO hot here today that I’m thinking that’s a good way to keep the heat at bay.  Miles of smiles from Carol
By Carol Ross on 06/18/2009 11:28 am
James the Game
It’s been a pretty cool spring in Michigan, but supposed to get back into the 80’s in a couple days. have sunshine today, after a couple days of drizzle and clouds. What state do you live in? (don’t say, "paranoia"!)
By James the Game on 06/18/2009 11:41 am
Carol Ross

You are funny…now and then maybe we all live in the state of paranoia :-) but my other state is Missouri in that city with a big Arch and the Cardinals.  Wierd spring here with a ton of rain and floods, now HOT and HUMID as hell.  I’m off to stick my head in the fridge again cause I’m too stubborn to turn on the AC.

How is it that a guy like you hangs out at Women on the Web?  Curious… ?

By Carol Ross on 06/18/2009 12:01 pm
James the Game

A "guy like me"? Well, as many on wOw know, I’m crazy about Marlo Thomas. And when I heard she was posting to this site, I had to check it out. It was an election year in ‘08, and I couldn’t help adding my two cents (sorry, I was broke). I hit it off with many of the women, and discovered that I could use my professional journalistic background to pontificate even further. Many of us have become quite chummy over time.

Also, I am a loner, not by design. It’s called "atypical depression". I receiving treatment for social anxiety. But 99% of my anxiety is around women to whom I’m attracted. I’m not anxious in almost any other regard. And I have some avoidant-personality characteristics. So now you know my psychological profile. Eventually, I’m hoping to overcome the anxiety, meet someone and fall in love (again). Cheers.

By James the Game on 06/18/2009 6:10 pm
Maggie W
If all the moons are in perfect alignment, this advice may be true.  However, there are always outside forces that throw a blockade.  That may be family commitments or restraints.  It could be long term illness.  It could be that often people set totally unrealistic goals to begin with.
By Maggie W on 06/01/2009 3:17 pm
C jay

like "Dr. Dyer, I was going to continue dancing all of my life .. by the age of 10 I was teaching tap and ballet at my dance school in Grosse Point - until that October I was hit by Polio. Now, tell me how to fulfill those plans, and dreams!

A current dream is to bite you in your knee caps for your pompous arrogance."

 

By C jay on 06/08/2009 12:43 am