Dedicated Book Spotlight | 06/08/2009 11:00 pm
Excuses Begone! By Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

The following is an excerpt from Excuses Begone!, the latest
book from Dr. Wayne Dyer, an internationally renowned author and
speaker in the field of self-development. Follow along as he teaches
you how to change lifelong self-defeating thinking habits. To read the
entire book, click here to purchase.
In my role as a counselor, teacher and parent, I’ve heard many reasons
that people use to explain an unhappy existence … and almost all of
them inevitably fall into one huge category, which I call "excuses."
For example: Excuse, "I Can’t Afford It"
It’s a rare day when I don’t hear some variation of this excuse,
including: "I didn’t go to college because it was too expensive," "I
haven’t been able to travel because I never had the funds" and "I
couldn’t go into the business I wanted because I had to stay where I
was and earn money to pay the bills." I call this belief lame and a
cop-out, yet there seems to be almost universal agreement for its
existence.
You originated in a world of abundance, which you unquestionably have
the ability to access. Whenever you discourage yourself with thoughts
that your financial situation is preventing anything from appearing,
that’s an excuse. If you instead decide to bring abundance and awareness
into your consciousness, you’ll shift your thoughts from "I can’t
afford it" to "Whatever I need in the form of assistance to guide me in
the direction of my life is not only available, but is on its way."
You’ll then consciously watch for the necessary funding to show up, but
you’ll also be reminding yourself to believe that you have the ability
to use abundance to elevate your life.
Encourage yourself by realizing that you have the capacity to create a
space within you that’s filled with peace and joy, an inner island of
contentment that has nothing to do with money. Practice gratitude for
the essentials of life, which are yours to enjoy virtually free of
charge. These include air, water, fire, the sun and the moon; the very
ground you walk on; the continuous beating of your heart; the inhaling
and exhaling of your lungs; your food digesting; your eyes and ears;
and so on. Be utterly grateful for all that you have naturally, which
is beyond the scope of what’s "affordable." As that endeavor
strengthens, assess what you’d truly like to do, where you’d like to
live and what creature comforts you desire.
When I made the decision to attend college after spending four years in
the military, for instance, I knew in my heart that money wasn’t going
to be the thing that prevented me from reaching my goals. I understood
the costs involved, and I didn’t act on my fear of shortage or what I
couldn’t afford — I acted on my internal knowing that I indeed was
going to attend the university. This knowing prompted me to investigate
financial assistance from the government as a veteran, open a savings
account designated for tuition and books, talk with the financial-aid
people at the university and make alternative plans to attend community
college, if plan A were not to materialize. I had a certainty inside of
me that the "I can’t afford it" reasoning is an excuse that many people
who aren’t considered wealthy employ as a means for exonerating
themselves when the need a rationalization for why they’re stuck where
they are in life.
Oscar Wilde made this wry observation in 1891: "There is only one class
in the community that thinks more about money than the rich, and that
is the poor. The poor can think of nothing else." I’d add that such
thinking includes lamenting the fact that they’ll never have the money.
I advise tossing out this meme, and instead rewriting thoughts to
connect with what’s intended to manifest, regardless of your current
financial status.
Whatever you feel is your dharma, and no matter how hard that calling
seems to be pulling you, if you maintain the belief that you can’t
manage to pull it off, I can assure you that you’re right. To
paraphrase Henry Ford, whether you believe you can afford to do a thing
or not, you’re right.























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Anything desperately wanted is worth making sacrifices in order to achieve it. "No pain, no gain.
beleive with all my heart and soul." I’ve worked for EVERYTHING I have now or in the past. If you want it you have to work to get it, be it physical or emotional. You want a house but you don’t have the money, then get a second job if you have too. That was for singles out there. I can’t understand how a married couple between the two of them have to worlk 3 and sometimes 4 jobs just to keep the family going.
No pain No gain, is the truest statement I’ve seen here.
Deniseann,
I’ve found it true my whole life.I remember my father’s words of advise when my husband and I bought our first house, "Make your payments high enough so that you sweat." He meant you should struggle to make the payments [i.e., go without "luxiries" such as going to the movies]. The problem today is that far too many young people have a sense of entitlement. There’s going to be a rude awakening for them.
Andrea, seven yrs ago I got divorced. I had already been approved for 100% disablity from the Navy and Social Security. My x@@@husband stopped making the house payments and car payments and my son and I were then homeless, he was a senior in high school and I could no longer work. They forclosed on my home and took my car in the middle of the night and the x@@@@husband was sitting pretty in NC where he’d been stationed for a few years. He knew when he got orders to LeJune he was never coming back to our family, only problem was we didn’t know this. I found out he’d been cheating on me since 1991, we were divorced in 2002. I had a breakdown, I didn’t know how I was going to support my son let alone me. My son moved in with his older sister and I went to Buffalo where I grew up. That was the BIGGEST mistake I had ever made. I went back to college to become a Minister and in the second semister I discovered I had breast cancer. Once agin I was fighting for my life, literally (excuse misspelling :) ) My older sister took it on herself to make my life pure hell. She went around telling everyone I didn’t have cancer I shaved my head for attention. She and I haven’t talked since our mother passed away the following year.
The point of my statement is that no matter what’s been thrown at me I find a way to get over it and keep on going. If you don’t you might as well just lay there and die.
My children learned through all I’d been through and are extremelly productive members of society. They too worked for what they wanted. I spoiled them rotten, but only after they accomplished what ever it was at the time. Then the reward was worth the work. Most kids today the generation coming to age have been giving the world on a platter, and have no idea what it means to work for what you get.
Remember when TV Dinners first came out, or when TV went to color. I do, my Mom might have been a drunk but she did make sure we had food on the table and were clothed. She worked hard for the first 10 yrs of my life, but she had already instilled in me that NO PAIN NO GAIN is the truth for everyone. Even the Rich had to work for it, not everyone of the Rich in this country is a trustfund baby.
We have to just keep doing what needs to, to get the job done
Deniseann,
You are a total inspiration.
I think one of the reasons that I do so well with my autoimmune arthritis is that I’ve seen people with problems a zillion times worse than mine.
My parents were kids during the depression and really knew the value of a dollar. Each worked their tails off and separately became successful. When they got married my brother and I learned the same lessons even though they could have just handed us the money instead. Not my folks. We had to start from scratch, too.
Responsibility and accountability seem to be lost on most young kids nowadays. No one said life was fair or easy and the sooner they learn this, the better off they’ll be. You’re right - you’ve just gotta’ do what has to be done. Where there’s a will there’s a way. Always.
Thanks for being my inspiration today, Deniseann.
Andrea, I must tell you and the world how I got through the crap as a kid. It was the hope of being able to see my biological father. I use to make up stories about my dad and brag that he was in the FBI, or on a secret mission for the Marines, I can remember the pain of not being able to see him. and the lies my mother would tell about him. When we finally found eachother I was 15, and we just happened to be in the same place at the same time, I was at a restruant w/ my best friend and he came in to get lunch, I had been going to the same restraunt for yrs with Donna and he worked right next door. I even knew people he worked with because my bike got a flat and I needed help getting it fixed so I went in to firestone where he worked and this man J D fixed it for me.
When it’s ment to be it happens, no sense trying to hurry the process, that could lead to disapointment or failure, do what needs to be done and you will reap your reward what ever it is when the time is right.
There are a lot of kids in my childrens generation who have had pretty tough lives. But I’ve ben watching them over the years come to grips with the bad and stepping on it and keep on going.
The Gulf War, 9/11, and the current situation overseas has left a lot of children without a parent. Being a VET, and a military wife for over 20 years I have seen so many families try to cope with what has happened and what is still happening. So many children without a parent or a spouse left to raise the kids alone.
This is the first time in the history of our country that the military would take both parents and leave the kids in the hands of other family members. Before Bush and this war, they would never take both parents, what could happened - happened both parnets killed, or one, or loss of a lim. This generation of kids are now the newbees in the military and they know what to look for because they already saw it first hand.
Andrea, my Prayers are with you, hope don’t mind I put you on my prayer list. God Bless
Chrome Toe, are you referring to Dr. Leo Buscaglia of USC? He’s been dead a while, but he really drew the students to his classes. A very sweet and kind man who understood a lot about life.
Chrome Toe you made me laugh! I agree and wonder why there are so many of them. If they have all the answers, why is there a need for more experts? Being a fly on the wall in their live would be fun…for a little while anyway.