Read this book.  Why?  Because Isabel Gillies is as natural a writer, as honest a person, and the very style are her prose is so free-flowing that you have the feeling that Gillies is your friend, spilling all of her feelings as she realizes that her wonderful marriage-with-children has gone from one that was earth-shaking in its love to finding that her husband had found another woman.

All the feelings - and actions - one could go through spill out on the pages.  We find outselves drawn into her inner thoughts and how far she goes to get her husband back.  In this compelling memoir, those who have read it - like me - find that they could not put it down. 

Most of us would like to have a friend that we too could confide in, talk to, "spill anything" and have it understood.  Those women are rare and hard-to-find, and to find a young author who can bring us along on her journey, find parts of ourselves in her, tells us that this is going to be a book that we will take to our hearts and remember for a long long time.  The interview was great … the book stands alone. 

It’s good she has found peace with her past and is determined to build and to  live a productive and happy life for her and  her children.

Perhaps, in the future I’ll borrow the book from the library?

Good book review and post joan larsen.

WOW! I didn’t resognixe the name but when I saw her face, I said,"That’s Elliots Stabler’s wife!" I am definitly reading her book. It is a painful thing to gothrough I assume. My s-i-l is going through it ans I can only imagine what she is feeling. I am going to recommend this book to her, maybe for healing or for laughs or a way to cope with the now & realness of their divorce.

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It was a good interview, but painful experiences in life do leave people with the need to express them in some way, indicative of PTSD, which is not anything to shy away from but it takes outside expertise to resolve, and time.

With that in mind, those periods are best spent attempting to balance, and grow a new or renewed dedication to oneself, not necessarily publish a book on it, yet. Time comes when such may be quite in line, but until that time, self-healing (with help, or without as the case deems) comes first - and that takes as long as the relationship, plus more years.

It is always distressing. But the pain comes in different places, for different people. For me, the divorce was a relief, following years of unhappiness. I remember looking into the bathroom mirror when the last of his boxes left the house, and seeing a peaceful face. Me, but nothing I had seen in a long time. The distress came from the angry behaviors that came afterwards. 

Pamela Gwyn Kripke, http://likeasinglemom.wordpress.com

Divorce is destructive in so many ways.  It tears you down and shakes your self-esteem, even more so when there is infidelity involved.  It affects your children in so many ways.  After my husband returned to his military assignment in Germany and I remained in the States to care for my cancer-stricken mother I thought we would be together soon as he was to request a reassignment.  Imagine my surprise when I was served with legal separation papers.  I am not sure why I was devastated, when I was honest with myself I knew there were problems in our marriage, he wouldn’t come home and I was often alone with 3 young children.  So it was that he left and it took me two years to get over the loss of my "happily ever after" and then I filed the divorce.  I remained angry for a long time.  The anger wore me out, kept me as a shell of a person that I was.  I entered into another marriage still carrying the hurt from the first, big mistake.  I finally had to make peace with this loss not just for myself, but for my daughters.  Once I did an amazing transformation came over me and I had respect for myself again.  I felt empowered and it was then that I could take stock in myself and my current marriage.  My "then" husband was not able to adjust my coming out of the cocoon of self pity I had put myself in and we found that it was just not meant to be.  I realized that my daughters needed to know that their father and I could put aside our issues and spend that wasted energy on coming together for them.  We have chosen to show them that we loved each other enough to have children together and we can love each other in a different way to raise our daughters together yet apart from one another.