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A Friend Stopped By | 07/23/2009 11:00 pm

The Lessons on Beaches, Big and Small, by Mary Jane Clark

By Mary Jane Clark
© Mary Jane Clark

Editor’s Note: Mary Jane Clark is a former CBS News producer and The New York Times bestselling author of twelve novels. Her newest book, Dying for Mercy will be published July 28. Visit the author’s website at maryjaneclark.com. To take a peek inside Dying for Mercy, click here.

It was a sunny, clear afternoon and I was walking along the shoreline, forcing it. Sadness over a chronic personal situation had, frankly, left me feeling sorry for myself, but I knew that exercise would help me feel better.

Taking long strides and deep breaths, I traveled up and down the beach, estimating that 12 laps would equal two miles. At lap eight, it happened.

"I used to be able to walk like that."

Turning toward the sound of the voice, I saw a blonde, tanned woman wearing a hot-pink, form-fitting bathing suit and a wide-brimmed straw hat. I estimated she was in her 80s, but this was no frail and elderly female. She stood erect, proud and smiling.

She pulled her knee up toward her chest, trying to work out the stiffness in the joint. "I used to take long, quick steps like you," she said. "But these legs don’t do that anymore."

I smiled, though my first thought was keep going, keep going. You haven’t reached the two-mile mark. Yet, I stopped, readjusted my gait and began to walk along beside her. It turned out she was from the New York area too, and when she heard that I had worked at CBS News her face lit up.

"On 57th Street?" she asked with a delighted smile. "My dentist was on 57th Street."

I didn’t quite get why she would be so happy at making the connection with her dentist, but more conversation revealed that her dentist had introduced her to his best friend from dental school, the man who became her husband.

"We had a wonderful life together," she said.

"Children?" I asked.

"One son. You?"

"Two. Grown. My daughter is an actress living in Manhattan and my son is away at school."

"He’s at university?"

"No, David is mentally impaired. It’s a boarding school for people with disabilities. But he thinks he’s going to college, just like his sister did."

She looked puzzled. "Well, if he’s in college, he must be all right," she said.

"No, he thinks his school is college. He doesn’t read or write."

"Oh." She nodded with understanding. "That’s very difficult for the mother," she said.

"Yes."

We continued strolling, our feet making tracks in the sand. She shared that she had lost her husband seven months before.

"We were married for 52 years," she said, her face registering pure pleasure at the thought. "We had a wonderful life together."

"Oh, I’m so sorry. It must be very hard for you now without him."

"I miss him, but his last few years were quite difficult. Alzheimer’s."

"That’s rough, really rough," I said.

"Yes, but what are you going to do? I know I have to keep going."

There was no self-pity in her voice. She was just stating the fact.

We had immediately gotten to the point where we were revealing personal information, the way you do sometimes with a stranger sitting beside you on a plane. We didn’t even know one another’s names yet we were recounting private things.

"Where did you live before you came to the United States?" I asked. Her accent was slight, but detectable.

"In what we called the border region," she said. "Where Czechoslovakia, Hungary and Austria met."

"Did you come to America before or after World War ll?"

"After."

"And where were you during the war?" I asked.

She stopped walking and hesitated before speaking. Finally, she said, "In the most horrible place."

14 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

KatyDid Wells

What a remarkable and inspirational woman you met that day.  Thanks for sharing your walk with us!

By KatyDid Wells on 07/24/2009 1:09 am
Lucinda Herbert
Sometimes when we are at a personal low, God sends us a gift like that. She may well have considered the time spent with you to have been a gift of sorts too because after all, suffering over children is among a mother’s worst heartaches - which she acknowleged out loud and may have thought privately to herself that thankfully it wasn’t something she had had to bear. I believe making a choice to triumph is important, but if we open our hearts and our ears, we’ll find that we can help each other along the way.
By Lucinda Herbert on 07/24/2009 5:04 am
Green Tears
I agree, Lucinda, God sent an angel in a pink swimsuit! Isn’t it amazing how such wonderful encounters occur when they are most needed? The important thing is to realize the gift that has been given.
By Green Tears on 07/24/2009 6:55 am
jeann brick
Thank you for sharing your story of your encounter on the beach. It touched me deeply.
By jeann brick on 07/24/2009 7:07 am
Denise Wexler

God bless angels in pink swimsuits!!!

 

By Denise Wexler on 07/24/2009 10:09 am
Rita@ Goldivas
Very nice story! And I always enjoy Mary Jane’s books, she is an excellent writer.
By Rita@ Goldivas on 07/24/2009 10:32 am
Ellen Bergstrom

We all seem like such "spoiled children" here in the USA, crying about spilt milk when you hear about these kinds of things.  Yet "these kinds of things" are still very much going on right now in 3rd world countries.  But we continue to feel so bad because we have to stop shopping at the higher priced stores, yet we still are a very overweight, fat bunch here.  We are not starving.  We feel a "burden" over having to clean out our refrigerators, overflowing with the spoiled food others would have worked hard to get. 

Will we ever learn how to be abundant with wisdom instead?  Inspired by all of these kinds of thoughts, I wrote an article about the posiiblity of new kind of prosperity, one of wisdom as well.  What would that look like?  Did it ever happen before?  Check out my article on my blog at: http://greanwitch.spaces.live.com/blog  And let me know what you think.

By Ellen Bergstrom on 07/24/2009 3:10 pm
J Holmes
Thank you, thank you for this lovely, wonderful beach encounter.  You never know…
By J Holmes on 07/26/2009 3:17 pm
Pdr de
Every person you meet - particularly older people, have a book in them, a story to tell.  It makes every day problems pale in significance.  What a beautiful woman and how lovely of the writer to share the story which impacts everyone who reads it.  Thank you!
By Pdr de on 07/27/2009 8:39 am
M C
Thank you so much for sharing this with us!
By M C on 07/27/2009 3:19 pm
Kris Phillips
Thank you.
By Kris Phillips on 07/29/2009 3:38 pm
Margie Goforth
Thank you for sharing this story with us and for sharing the lady in pink, as well.  I like what she said about not giving anymore of herself to what happened to her.  While my life can never compare to what this woman went through, sometime I find myself giving too much of myself to others or to an issue I’m struggling with and I don’t know when to stop.  What a nice, gentle reminder, that it is okay to say enough to whatever it is I am struggling with and move on.
By Margie Goforth on 07/30/2009 3:39 pm
Elizabeth Parrish
What an extraordinary woman. She makes the decision to go forward in the face of what, for most of us, would seem unsurmountable odds. Thank you for sharing with us.
By Elizabeth Parrish on 08/12/2009 2:41 pm