The Liz Smith Column | 10/30/2009 5:00 am
Liz Smith: Jerry Hall – Mrs. Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss!
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Jerry Hall © PR Photos
"A lot happens at 50, the best thing being that you just don’t care anymore. At 40, you still care. At 30, you care way too much and your 20s are quite frankly a nightmare. Bring on 60, I say: just imagine the joy of having grandchildren!"
This is an irrepressible quote from an interview conducted by Celia Walden with the famous Texan Jerry Hall, once wed to Mick Jagger. (I have always loved Jerry. Why, she grew up in Gonzales, TX, a little town of 5,000 people, just 60 miles from San Antonio. It was Gonzales that sent most of its men to die in the Alamo.) My parents are both buried there. So Jerry and I have always been pals and have quite a connection. This gal has come a long way from Gonzales!
Jerry’s four children, ages 12 through 25, are all by Mick Jagger, so she remains entangled in the rock star’s peripatetic life. But now she has put the brakes on her rumored "explosive" memoir. Is this because she doesn’t want to dish her famed ex or is it because she just doesn’t have time to finish it?
Jerry has completed an Open University course in Humanities and the Enlightenment and she has been playing in the West End’s version of "Calendar Girls."
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Here are some Jerry Hall-isms, from a girl who was first discovered, at age 16, wearing a bikini on the beach at St. Tropez.
"I still like myself. That’s why it’s important to have interests – then you don’t get sucked into this culture of obsessing about yourself."
"I don’t actually think … people are mean (about photos showing physical inadequacies). I think it’s a bit of entertainment, and if it makes people feel better that I’ve got cellulite and so do they, why should I take it personally?"
"I’m not going to be pushed into messing about with myself (surgically). But the sad thing is that Hollywood and TV are very ageist. Once you get older, they can’t wait to get rid of you, so a lot of women feel they have to have things done to keep working and I think that’s a big mistake. It looks awful … There’s a lot of pressure in the fashion industry, too."
"My love of literature goes back to my childhood … I was obsessed with the poetry of Edgar Allan Poe, Emily Dickinson, Edna Saint Vincent Millay. I was quite nerdy at school."
"It could have been a disaster (speaking of when she ran away to France as a teenager). But I was incredibly lucky. Before long, I’d met Helmut Newton, done the cover of French Vogue, and my career was made."
These days, Jerry has become an ambassador for the Sony digital reader. "It doesn’t always pay for women to show up that side. People don’t like it. But I find strength through poetry … There’s also nothing like taking Proust to the beach and daydreaming along to it."
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Does fame corrupt men more than women? This is the question Celia Walden asked Jerry Hall.
The reporter was referring to Mick Jagger’s bandmate, Ronnie Wood, who left his wife for a 21-year-old girl. Here’s Jerry: "There is no way a woman would ever leave her family for a teenager like that. It’s about a fear of dying for men: they want to stay immortal … it’s just that women are deeply rooted in reality."
Jerry says she and Mick speak several times a week "And he is a very hands-on dad." Asked if she still loves him, she says, "Yes." Asked if he will turn out to be the love of her life, Jerry says, "God, I hope not!"
This is an irrepressible quote from an interview conducted by Celia Walden with the famous Texan Jerry Hall, once wed to Mick Jagger. (I have always loved Jerry. Why, she grew up in Gonzales, TX, a little town of 5,000 people, just 60 miles from San Antonio. It was Gonzales that sent most of its men to die in the Alamo.) My parents are both buried there. So Jerry and I have always been pals and have quite a connection. This gal has come a long way from Gonzales!
Jerry’s four children, ages 12 through 25, are all by Mick Jagger, so she remains entangled in the rock star’s peripatetic life. But now she has put the brakes on her rumored "explosive" memoir. Is this because she doesn’t want to dish her famed ex or is it because she just doesn’t have time to finish it?
Jerry has completed an Open University course in Humanities and the Enlightenment and she has been playing in the West End’s version of "Calendar Girls."
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Here are some Jerry Hall-isms, from a girl who was first discovered, at age 16, wearing a bikini on the beach at St. Tropez.
"I still like myself. That’s why it’s important to have interests – then you don’t get sucked into this culture of obsessing about yourself."
"I don’t actually think … people are mean (about photos showing physical inadequacies). I think it’s a bit of entertainment, and if it makes people feel better that I’ve got cellulite and so do they, why should I take it personally?"
"I’m not going to be pushed into messing about with myself (surgically). But the sad thing is that Hollywood and TV are very ageist. Once you get older, they can’t wait to get rid of you, so a lot of women feel they have to have things done to keep working and I think that’s a big mistake. It looks awful … There’s a lot of pressure in the fashion industry, too."
"My love of literature goes back to my childhood … I was obsessed with the poetry of Edgar Allan Poe, Emily Dickinson, Edna Saint Vincent Millay. I was quite nerdy at school."
"It could have been a disaster (speaking of when she ran away to France as a teenager). But I was incredibly lucky. Before long, I’d met Helmut Newton, done the cover of French Vogue, and my career was made."
These days, Jerry has become an ambassador for the Sony digital reader. "It doesn’t always pay for women to show up that side. People don’t like it. But I find strength through poetry … There’s also nothing like taking Proust to the beach and daydreaming along to it."
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Does fame corrupt men more than women? This is the question Celia Walden asked Jerry Hall.
The reporter was referring to Mick Jagger’s bandmate, Ronnie Wood, who left his wife for a 21-year-old girl. Here’s Jerry: "There is no way a woman would ever leave her family for a teenager like that. It’s about a fear of dying for men: they want to stay immortal … it’s just that women are deeply rooted in reality."
Jerry says she and Mick speak several times a week "And he is a very hands-on dad." Asked if she still loves him, she says, "Yes." Asked if he will turn out to be the love of her life, Jerry says, "God, I hope not!"
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I think I’m surprised fashionistas haven’t rediscovered gloves!
I’d never paid much attention to Jerry Hall. I always thought that the woman who stayed with Mick Jagger all those years had to be… well… rather vacant. This woman is certainly not vacant. She sounds way to smart and interesting to have stuck with that man all those years and put up with his crap.
Oh my Lord, a name from the past. Jerry Hall, I always loved her, she is such a pistol.
Although I must say the opening quote about being 50 and not having to care anymore is not something to admit to because that is sad. I think it is just the opposite. When you’re in your 20’s, 30’s and 40’s you go through life with no clear direction, simply making it up as you go along. Now that I am a year away from the big 5-0 I see more purpose in my life more than ever. I care far more now about who I am, how I relate to others, what legacy I want to leave…when I speak now, I care about what I say and what affect it will have on those listening.
But then again I guess I’m a different breed.
i just turned 50 last july. it was a turning point for me too. but some wouldn’t consider it a good one. with all that have been going thru retiring for medical reasons is not what i was looking for, especially without a pension (i’m jealous of my grandson’s other grandmother who is retiring after 32yrs and has a damn fine pension and a husband working in trucking to fall back on). but i will keep on striving to get better so that maybe after i got some social security disability i can go back to work part time, but still have medicaid.
we are all different breeds. they say that men married for many decades who lose their wives to death or divorce, often remarry within the first year or they die. but most women that lose a husband those ways usually live a much longer life single. so jerry hall might be talking about that when she says she doesn’t care at 50. because frankly i do not care about getting tangled up with some man again. dating just makes me sick. they will date their own age, but really want your grown daughter. it’s too much. she still looks good and probably can get any man she wants, just as you do belinda. but sometimes we just don’t want them even if we could get them. as bad as i look i still get guys flirting with me and looking at me. but i never tempt them anymore because i’m just too tired. so hopefully that is all she meant by not caring.
If you are happy with your life Nancy, I say you have not given up and are living what I define as a full life.
But if you are lonely and wish you had love, lust, passion and desire in your life, but as you said are "just to tired" to pursue those desires, you are selling yourself short. How many women on this site and in your own personal life you know substitute the love of a man (or woman dependent on their sexuality) with animals, their grandkids, work or hobbies?
How many women have given up on attempting to care for their hair, nails, body and skin because they consider it to be "not worth the trouble" never once stopping to think they should be doing this to feel better about themselves first and what men and others think, last.
I don’t know what Jerry meant by her statement, but I get such joy in seeing women live life to their fullest. Not settle or simply get by, counting down the days until they die. Placing artificial benchmarks about what is ordinary. "Well, I’m almost 60 so I don’t need sex and love anymore…been there done that" Really? Yet these very women sit night after night in quiet homes wishing there was someone there to talk to, hold hands with or go for long walks.
Only you know if you are happy and fulfilled. But I would say if you’re not, now is the time to make a change. Your post sounds like a woman that has given up, and that breaks my heart for you.
"It is unrealistic to expect most people to sustain love and interest in each other for such long periods, especially if their children have grown up and moved out."
Sure, I guess that could be true if your only reason for getting married was to have children. But if you marry someone because, shockingly, you actually love them and like being with them it is possible. I’ve seen it happen.