Margo Howard | 06/29/2009 8:45 am
Margo Howard on the Aftershock of Michael Jackson's Death
Editor’s Note: A longtime journalist, Margo Howard went into the family business (her mother was the fabled Ann Landers) in the 1990s as Dear Prudence. Her broad experience and understanding of human nature provide answers for the troubled — and entertainment for everyone else. Margo’s advice column, Dear Margo, appears twice a week — on Thursdays and Fridays — on wowOwow.com.
I am in Paris, with Liza Minnelli and Usher. Well, not with, but we’re all in Paris. How do I know this? They are all over CNN International because Michael Jackson died, they were among his good friends and Larry King said they were in Paris.
It seems that all of Michael Jackson’s friends are being interviewed. Quincy Jones, the CEO of Ebony magazine, Miko Brando, Deepak Chopra, Michael’s sister (I cannot tell which one … Janet maybe?). Oh, and Mark Geragos, the lawyer who won him an acquittal in the California child molestation case. Geragos, in answer to Larry King’s question of whether or not people should, for now, "put aside any unpleasant aspects" of Michael’s life," said, "Definitely. Now is a time for mourning and appreciation." And of course we have seen a statement released by Elizabeth Taylor saying that "her heart is broken."
I have a question: Why did not any of these friends step in and insist he get help?
I am not even talking about the pedophile business; I doubt that a loving friend, or even the Kiddie-Interest wing of the Betty Ford Clinic could solve that one. I am talking about his addictions. I knew he was on something (or some things) and I didn’t even know him! It just strikes me as odd that all kinds of celebrities (let us not even count the throngs all over the world keeping "a vigil") are dumbstruck and shocked, shocked, that Michael checked out in the prime of life. Maybe when you’re super-famous no one dares to bring up the elephant in the room … or in Jackson’s case, apparently, a small herd. My guess is that "his own personal physician," a cardiologist, no less, may have much to answer for. The drugs so far mentioned in relation to Jackson all, in excessive amounts, take a toll on one’s heart. The toxicology screen, when it comes back in several weeks, will answer many questions.
I do want to say one positive thing about Deepak Chopra. Going against Geragos’s wish to leave aside the "unsavory aspects" of Jackson’s life for now, Chopra did volunteer that he had spoken to Michael about the danger of hanging out with people who would get you drugs. He went on to blame the docs "who attach themselves to the entourage." He said that whenever he began this discussion Michael "would change the subject."
One headline said that "Show business killed Michael Jackson." I would probably disagree with that statement. What probably is indisputable is that Michael Jackson is, for the first time in a long time, finally resting in peace.

























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I still don’t know how you get to blame the parents. As another example for you, it’s like a mugger telling the judge, "Well, she shouldn’t have worn her engagement ring in public."
There’s no reason for kids to lie about being abused, especially as they get older or are adults. It’s humiliating and embarrassing to do that, and abuse victims always know that there are going to be a lot of people who will accuse them of lying. It would take a sick, sick puppy to voluntarily do that to themselves.
We’re going to have to agree to disagree. If the alleged abuser voluntarily paid parents to shut them up, it was only because he was afraid that he was going to jail. If there was nothing for him to worry about, he would have told them to go ahead and file criminal charges and see what happened. People with money can and do use it like a weapon. I’m sure the parents were forced to sign a non-disclosure agreement, too.
Of course all of this ignores the fact that the KIDS were the victims here.
I dont ignore the fact that the kids were the victims. But your the parent, you should know better then to put your child in any situation that may cause them danger especially spending the night at a grown man’s house, I dont care if he is President Obama, you just dont allow that to happen.
We will have to agree to disagree b/c not all the blame, for me, lies on MJ, IF he did what they said he did then he should have been punished for it. I dont feel that his paying that family off shows guilt, it shows to me that he wanted it to go away, he bought their silence. If MJ was truly guilty why take the money, why not fight until he is behind bars, dont allow yourself to be bought. I would rather walk away knowing I did the right thing and stood up for my kid then take money to shut me up.
When you were a kid and your parents asked you do to something, you did it.
Why did the parents take the money? Well, let’s see, while acknowledging that we’re entering the realm of insane speculation - except as far as I know a girl who was violently raped in university, took the money and switched schools after she recovered from the multiple surgeries that were required to repair or at least alleviate some of the damage her rapist caused.
She was told what many victims were told. Essentially:
"Yes, you can go ahead and lay charges. We will hire some very expensive lawyers and by the time they’re done with you, you’ll look like you a complete bimbo who happily has sex with anyone who asks. We’ll make sure that the jury thinks you were on your knees begging to be kicked in the face. You go on the stand, and you will unemployable, no graduate school will take you, and you will never hold your head up in public again.
In the meantime, our sonny-boy will sit in the dock looking like butter wouldn’t melt in his mouth. We will have a pretty, well-dressed smiling girlfriend sitting in court every day, strategically weeping at the tragedy of it all. Sonny-boy will never take the stand, we’ll concentrate on making you look bad."
In Michael’s case, I’m sure that the threat included exactly what you assume is true. Instead of the case focussing on a child who suffered terrible abuse, the parents would be on trial and the logic would be like your logic, "Well, he didn’t do it, but the parents were asking for it anyway."
Now what would you do? Probably the same thing those parents did; take the money to pay for the therapy that their child is going to need for the rest of his life and try to shield him from being thrown to wolves who think that just because someone is famous, they deserve to get away with crimes that would most assuredly put him in prison for a very long time if he didn’t have a good press agent.
Messy ONE….great posts…absolutely right.
Jackson admitted sleeping with young boys…how can ANYONE defend that? Why are Americans so impressed with celebrity? What is it that can make them suspend their God given logic and ignore common sense? Jackson was a great musician and entertainer….
…and he just happened to be a twisted soul. They are not mutually exclusive.
Your attitudes are only a sign that black Americans and other races are making head ways within society and some of you white flocks are scared to death that you will no longer have a voice or the power which you once exercise on others. Dam your hearts to hell.
Only God was a witness to all of Michael Jackson’s actions and intentions and he will deal with him appropriately. Our God is righteous and forgiving and only he has the right to judge. in the mean time you and your followers should focus on yourself and your actions when it comes to God’s love, because based on what I have been reading here you and others will need it.
There going to be so much coming out about this for weeks to come…people saying this or people saying they tried to do this or that…I am sure none of them tried to do anything to help as they were busy with their own lives and their own drug addictions…This is their way of dealing with his death b/c they didnt step in and do anything about it.
I worry for his 3 kids and pray MJ’s father doesnt get a hold of them and ruin them…I pray they aren’t drug through some nasty custody battle.
I haven’t been following this, but I am aware that the father was a physical and emotional abuser to his kids. The mother stayed with him all these years.
I am assuming Michael Jackson had no ironclad legal document that specifically calls out the guardianship of his children. If this is true, and given his father’s known background, then shame on Michael Jackson.
Andrea, you would think that he would have something for his kids in case of his death…I know we do and were not even celebrities, thankfully.
I really truly feel sorry for his kids. They were there when he died, they say it all…I truly hope the 2 oldest Mother will stay out of it and try not to get custody and the youngest was a surrogant so I dont know how that will work out…These kids just lost their father and they dont need anymore to deal with. They now have to hear all the good, bad and ugly about him…
I, too, feel very sorry for his kids. Whether Jackson was a good father or a pervert, he was their father.
I do think it’s despicable that the grandfather has dollar signs glowing from his eyes.
Back in 1958 Marlene Dietrich, who was a good friend of Nöel Coward, wrote this about Elizabeth Taylor: "Liz [Mike Todd’s widow] went to the funeral with a party of six: her doctor, her dressmaker, hairdresser, etc. The intimate "family circle" the family wanted! And Mike would have been furious that I was not invited. So I sit here and read in the newspapers how hysterical she was and I think of the time Jimmy Dean died and she went hysterical and behaved like a bereaved wife right in front of our Michael [Wilding]––and then when Monty Clift had the accident leaving her house, again she went hysterical and behaved the same way. Now it is real and I wonder if she can tell the difference?"
And now we again have the many people weighing in on another one of Liz’s close friends and life goes on.