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Margo Howard | 07/07/2009 9:00 am

Today Is the Day, by Margo Howard

On the day of Michael Jackson’s funeral, our ‘Dear Margo’ reflects on the ‘surreal’ life — and death — of the iconic pop singer.
Margo Howard

Editor’s Note: A longtime journalist, Margo Howard went into the family business (her mother was the fabled Ann Landers) in the 1990s as Dear Prudence. Her broad experience and understanding of human nature provide answers for the troubled — and entertainment for everyone else. Margo’s advice column, Dear Margo, appears twice a week — on Thursdays and Fridays — on wowOwow.com.

This is a very delicate subject to write about, and I wavered, but I decided to do it because it is all so fascinating, in a loony kind of way, and says quite a bit about our country. I am talking about the aftermath of Michael Jackson’s death. It is becoming surreal, as perhaps was his life. (Let us stipulate that there is perhaps no one who does not think the man was an enormous and charismatic talent.) For one thing, the city of Los Angeles (along with the state it is part of, California) is flat broke, and the funereal circus coming to town is estimated to stick the city for two million bucks in services and overtime. The hotels, however, are getting a shot in the arm … forgive the infelicitous phrase in this particular discussion.

And then one wonders why all these fans feel the need to go to a memorial service where there will be more pushing and shoving than at a European soccer match. The need to be there is crowd hysteria; it is one thing to have admired an artist and to be sad he has died, but quite another to go to a stranger’s service. Some lottery winners (yes, there are tickets, which are actually spangly wristbands) have said they just needed to sign the book. I wonder who they think is going to read this book with thousands of names unknown to anyone. And I wonder if there’s ever been a memorial service for 20,000 people? (Never mind that there were 1,600,000 applications.) Perhaps an inducement was to see people such as Stevie Wonder, Mariah Carey, Usher, Lionel Richie, Kobe Bryant, Jennifer Hudson, John Mayer and Martin Luther King III … and maybe see them perform. Fifty theaters nationwide will be broadcasting the services. This is surely a first.

Jackson’s good buddy, Elizabeth Taylor, in this instance the exemplar of good taste, said she will be mourning in private. She said this on Twitter. "I just don’t believe that Michael would want me to share my grief with millions of others," she tweeted. "How I feel is between us."

Debbie Rowe, the mother (sort of) of two of Michael’s children, planned to come, then decided against it … I suspect for different reasons than Ms. Taylor.

There is nothing that is not news about Jackson’s demise. It was announced Monday that he will be buried without his brain. This is so that it can harden, allowing pathologists to do tests to that will reveal what substances the singer has taken over a period of time.

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Dennis Roberson
He is dead …. now let him go and move on.
By Dennis Roberson on 07/07/2009 8:28 am
Mary Catherine Headley

The most interesting thing I found during this hysteria over the death of Michael Jackson was, during the mass news coverage of just about every channel (though ABC and NBC had on stories about Farrah) was the complete LACK of coverage on MTV—-16 and Pregnant? When the King Of Pop just died at 50??

I didn’t know he was being buried without his brain. Let the jokes begin…

By Mary Catherine Headley on 07/07/2009 8:31 am
Diamond In The Rough
Mary…I wasn’t aware of that either…It will probably end up on ebay along with all the other memorabilia.
By Diamond In The Rough on 07/07/2009 9:47 am
Jim Martin

Margo, there is at least one "who does not think the man was an enormous and charismatic talent"—me. I thought he was silly and boring, but then I’m old anyway so nobody cares what I think.

And although I am a New Yorker and a lifelong liberal Democrat who would love to see Peter King replaced in Congress, I admire his guts in expressing his own very valid attitude toward Michael Jackson and the hysteria that has always swirled around him. The same goes for you too, except I would never want you replaced by anybody!

By Jim Martin on 07/07/2009 8:40 am
Debbie Learman
no Jim…make that 2…O wait, my sweetie says make that 3! 
By Debbie Learman on 07/07/2009 11:35 am
Rachel F
Make it 4!!
By Rachel F on 07/08/2009 12:38 pm
Jeannot Kensinger
Let the circus be over with…..
By Jeannot Kensinger on 07/07/2009 8:47 am
Maizie James
Michael Jackson’s memorial service was NOT a circus.
By Maizie James on 07/07/2009 5:20 pm
Diamond In The Rough
It was a prelude to the circus that will be there tomorrow!
By Diamond In The Rough on 07/07/2009 6:33 pm
Yvette Niesel

I think you should have dropped the subject after your first post about MJ.  At this point, it looks like you’re either beating a dead horse or trying to drum up ratings.  With all the media "circus," you’re just jumping on the bandwagon, I guess.

By Yvette Niesel on 07/07/2009 8:48 am
Margo Howard
If you are addressing me, you are confused. I have not written about MJ before. And I can assure you the horse is not dead. Just turn on your television today, or read a newspaper, or go to a news outlet on-line. And tomorrow. And the next day, etc.
By Margo Howard on 07/07/2009 8:59 am
Andrea Brandon

Margo,

And what, pray tell, was the article "Margo Howard on the Aftershock of Michael Jackson’s Death" all about? Published on 06-29-2009.

http://www.wowowow.com/entertainment/margo-howard-aftershock-michael-jacksons-death-327058

I am in Paris, with Liza Minnelli and Usher. Well, not with, but we’re all in Paris. How do I know this? They are all over CNN International because Michael Jackson died, they were among his good friends and Larry King said they were in Paris.

It seems that all of Michael Jackson’s friends are being interviewed. Quincy Jones, the CEO of Ebony magazine, Miko Brando, Deepak Chopra, Michael’s sister (I cannot tell which one … Janet maybe?). Oh, and Mark Geragos, the lawyer who won him an acquittal in the California child molestation case. Geragos, in answer to Larry King’s question of whether or not people should, for now, "put aside any unpleasant aspects" of Michael’s life," said, "Definitely. Now is a time for mourning and appreciation." And of course we have seen a statement released by Elizabeth Taylor saying that "her heart is broken."

I have a question: Why did not any of these friends step in and insist he get help?

I am not even talking about the pedophile business; I doubt that a loving friend, or even the Kiddie-Interest wing of the Betty Ford Clinic could solve that one. I am talking about his addictions. I knew he was on something (or some things) and I didn’t even know him! It just strikes me as odd that all kinds of celebrities (let us not even count the throngs all over the world keeping "a vigil") are dumbstruck and shocked, shocked, that Michael checked out in the prime of life. Maybe when you’re super-famous no one dares to bring up the elephant in the room … or in Jackson’s case, apparently, a small herd. My guess is that "his own personal physician," a cardiologist, no less, may have much to answer for. The drugs so far mentioned in relation to Jackson all, in excessive amounts, take a toll on one’s heart. The toxicology screen, when it comes back in several weeks, will answer many questions.

I do want to say one positive thing about Deepak Chopra. Going against Geragos’s wish to leave aside the "unsavory aspects" of Jackson’s life for now, Chopra did volunteer that he had spoken to Michael about the danger of hanging out with people who would get you drugs. He went on to blame the docs "who attach themselves to the entourage." He said that whenever he began this discussion Michael "would change the subject."

One headline said that "Show business killed Michael Jackson." I would probably disagree with that statement. What probably is indisputable is that Michael Jackson is, for the first time in a long time, finally resting in peace.

By Andrea Brandon on 07/07/2009 10:40 am
Yvette Niesel
Thank you, Andrea.
By Yvette Niesel on 07/07/2009 10:46 am
Diamond In The Rough
Andrea……Thank you, Thank you!!!!!!!
By Diamond In The Rough on 07/07/2009 10:48 am
Libra Lady
Andrea….spot on as always!!!!  Oh, maybe it has been removed and forgotten!!!!  wink wink
By Libra Lady on 07/07/2009 10:53 am