Margo Howard | 07/07/2009 9:00 am
Today Is the Day, by Margo Howard
Editor’s Note: A longtime journalist, Margo Howard went into the
family business (her mother was the fabled Ann Landers) in the 1990s as
Dear Prudence. Her broad experience and understanding of human nature
provide answers for the troubled — and entertainment for everyone else. Margo’s advice column, Dear Margo, appears twice a week — on Thursdays and Fridays — on wowOwow.com.
This is a very delicate subject to write about, and I wavered, but I decided to do it because it is all so fascinating, in a loony kind of way, and says quite a bit about our country. I am talking about the aftermath of Michael Jackson’s death. It is becoming surreal, as perhaps was his life. (Let us stipulate that there is perhaps no one who does not think the man was an enormous and charismatic talent.) For one thing, the city of Los Angeles (along with the state it is part of, California) is flat broke, and the funereal circus coming to town is estimated to stick the city for two million bucks in services and overtime. The hotels, however, are getting a shot in the arm … forgive the infelicitous phrase in this particular discussion.
And then one wonders why all these fans feel the need to go to a memorial service where there will be more pushing and shoving than at a European soccer match. The need to be there is crowd hysteria; it is one thing to have admired an artist and to be sad he has died, but quite another to go to a stranger’s service. Some lottery winners (yes, there are tickets, which are actually spangly wristbands) have said they just needed to sign the book. I wonder who they think is going to read this book with thousands of names unknown to anyone. And I wonder if there’s ever been a memorial service for 20,000 people? (Never mind that there were 1,600,000 applications.) Perhaps an inducement was to see people such as Stevie Wonder, Mariah Carey, Usher, Lionel Richie, Kobe Bryant, Jennifer Hudson, John Mayer and Martin Luther King III … and maybe see them perform. Fifty theaters nationwide will be broadcasting the services. This is surely a first.
Jackson’s good buddy, Elizabeth Taylor, in this instance the exemplar of good taste, said she will be mourning in private. She said this on Twitter. "I just don’t believe that Michael would want me to share my grief with millions of others," she tweeted. "How I feel is between us."
Debbie Rowe, the mother (sort of) of two of Michael’s children, planned to come, then decided against it … I suspect for different reasons than Ms. Taylor.
There is nothing that is not news about Jackson’s demise. It was announced Monday that he will be buried without his brain. This is so that it can harden, allowing pathologists to do tests to that will reveal what substances the singer has taken over a period of time.

























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So now the LAPD is seeking donations for their efforts today. Estimated cost to LA - about $4M.
Personally, I think there should be a law that says that for every ticket sold __% goes to the law enforcement agency.
Originally it was estimated that there would be 1 million people crowding the streets, then, as each day passed, the estimate slid down the slope, Probably no more than 1,000 after all.
http://www.cnn.com/2009/US/07/07/michael.jackson.security/index.html
As I write this the I-10 freeway, probably the busiest in LA, has been closed down so the the Jackson family entourage can leave Staples. they could have gone in simple cars, not to cause attraction. But no, this is all a media event to promote further venues.
Such a waste of time, money, and resources.
And then there’s obama’s statement: "A crossover racial figure who created ‘comfort level’ for African American public figures "
Tell me again, please. Why is he African American and I’m just "American.’
One can only wonder what kind of tribute the next so-called legend will get when he dies.
I actually disagreed with King’s foundation that everyone should simply ignore every artistic and cultural contribution that Michael Jackson did before he became damaged and self-indulgent. He is a complicated person, and like many great contributors in history, he is extreme in both constructive and destructive ways. Allowing the public to say goodbye in a grand way to someone who has directly and personally affected their lives does NOT take away from the contributions that the military heroes are making in the Middle East.
Believe it or not, there IS room for both. And not all our "heroes" need to be perfect paragons of moral virtue. AND, just because Jackson settled lawsuits to make accusers go away rather than have damaging trials that left the entire world convinced of his guilt, even though there was not enough evidence to show that anything bad ever really happened in a court of law. Unless you are going to replace our entire justice system with a trial-by-media model, we need to give at least some credence to the fact that our justice system is a centerpiece of our democracy, and everyone is innocent until proven GUILTY. And he wasn’t.
Wouldn’t you pay off someone who only wanted $20 Million when a public examination and permanent suspicion resulting from a trial would really cost $Billions in lost income? Many people insist that the settlement was proof enough of guilt. But in the economics of the superwealthy, I can easily see how that calculation would make sense.
In our own towns, many young, indigent people plead guilty to some petty version of a crime they are charged with to avoid the almost certain conviction of the bigger crime, and get a lesser sentence. Even pleading complete innocence the entire time. It’s cheaper and more expedient, and powerless and penniless, they have no resources to fight it. Imagine if they had $20 Million to hire a good lawyer and actually pay for the forensic investigation that would prove their innocence?
I’m not willing to convict a man that a jury of 12 people in direct contact with the actual evidence acquitted. I refuse to accept the argument that an abundance of rumors and accusations amounts to the truth when so many people were offering to have their silence purchased. It’s just not clean enough for me to be convinced. (And yes, I actually know a child molester, so I’m not ignorant of the signs and behaviors… they were not a match.)
In a democracy, I am not willing to abdicate our legal decisions of guilt or innocence to a media that is being corrupted by the infiltration of opinion and deviating from the kind of rigorous fact-checking that was once required. Accusations without consequences has discolored the mood of this nation egregiously over the last few years. I tend to respect the burden of proof required by the courts before I’ll take the word of a ranting, self-aggrandizing, attention hound like that congressman.
I don’t care, I like your posts, Margo. I’m a fan of Michael’s, not a fan of the ‘whoopla’ as I read Diana Ross called it (also preferring to mourn in private).
sorry to be petty, but i think that Elizabeth Taylor was the one who wanted to avoid the "whoopla" and mourn in private, and she definitely posted it via Twitter, which is kinda awesome in its own way.
Diana Ross also said that she wanted to mourn in private, i believe, but ET was the one who gave us the word "whoopla."
I applaud you Margo and I agree with you 100%. I also agree with what Peter King said but not "how" he said it. But the message, especially as it relates to any child in my life, I would NEVER have trusted Michael Jackson with my little nephew.
No one is being sympathetic to the young boys who have levied accusations against Michael. Everyone is using the justification that he was never convicted as proof that he is not guilty of pedophilia. How ridiculous is that. There are thousands of men in this country who have molested little boys and have never been caught. Countless fathers, boyfriends, neighbors, etc. that have fondled and more….little boys under their care, and the women in their lives either don’t know, don’t believe the boys or (as is the case of Debbie Rowe in my opinion) are complicit with what is taking place.
I get the vast media coverage, because indeed this is not a case of which came first the chicken or the egg. Which came first the media hype, or the throng of attention from his fans? Both are at play and feeding off one another. But I for one will not allow myself to grieve or get worked up over a man (not a fragile boy as many are attempting to portray him) a man who in my opinion molested young boys. Any intelligent man or woman who viewed the Martin Bashir interview with Michael Jackson knows 100% that he had inappropriate behavior with young boys. And worst of all he was encapsulated with people who protected his vile deeds.
Libra….I don’t think they’ve buried him yet…….you can plan on a few more days of the circus!
Deber, I think we have a tendency to overdo just about everything in our culture. We (and by "we" I mostly mean the media) go way overboard with the accolades and then eventually turn viciously on the very object of our affection. To a lesser extent, we recently saw the same thing with Susan Boyle. Everyone was positively singing her praises. Then, sure enough, they began cruelly picking at her appearance, mental state, etc…
Michael Jackson is an extreme example, because he was so extreme, but it’s much the same thing.