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Margo Howard | 07/07/2009 9:00 am

Today Is the Day, by Margo Howard

On the day of Michael Jackson’s funeral, our ‘Dear Margo’ reflects on the ‘surreal’ life — and death — of the iconic pop singer.
Margo Howard

Editor’s Note: A longtime journalist, Margo Howard went into the family business (her mother was the fabled Ann Landers) in the 1990s as Dear Prudence. Her broad experience and understanding of human nature provide answers for the troubled — and entertainment for everyone else. Margo’s advice column, Dear Margo, appears twice a week — on Thursdays and Fridays — on wowOwow.com.

This is a very delicate subject to write about, and I wavered, but I decided to do it because it is all so fascinating, in a loony kind of way, and says quite a bit about our country. I am talking about the aftermath of Michael Jackson’s death. It is becoming surreal, as perhaps was his life. (Let us stipulate that there is perhaps no one who does not think the man was an enormous and charismatic talent.) For one thing, the city of Los Angeles (along with the state it is part of, California) is flat broke, and the funereal circus coming to town is estimated to stick the city for two million bucks in services and overtime. The hotels, however, are getting a shot in the arm … forgive the infelicitous phrase in this particular discussion.

And then one wonders why all these fans feel the need to go to a memorial service where there will be more pushing and shoving than at a European soccer match. The need to be there is crowd hysteria; it is one thing to have admired an artist and to be sad he has died, but quite another to go to a stranger’s service. Some lottery winners (yes, there are tickets, which are actually spangly wristbands) have said they just needed to sign the book. I wonder who they think is going to read this book with thousands of names unknown to anyone. And I wonder if there’s ever been a memorial service for 20,000 people? (Never mind that there were 1,600,000 applications.) Perhaps an inducement was to see people such as Stevie Wonder, Mariah Carey, Usher, Lionel Richie, Kobe Bryant, Jennifer Hudson, John Mayer and Martin Luther King III … and maybe see them perform. Fifty theaters nationwide will be broadcasting the services. This is surely a first.

Jackson’s good buddy, Elizabeth Taylor, in this instance the exemplar of good taste, said she will be mourning in private. She said this on Twitter. "I just don’t believe that Michael would want me to share my grief with millions of others," she tweeted. "How I feel is between us."

Debbie Rowe, the mother (sort of) of two of Michael’s children, planned to come, then decided against it … I suspect for different reasons than Ms. Taylor.

There is nothing that is not news about Jackson’s demise. It was announced Monday that he will be buried without his brain. This is so that it can harden, allowing pathologists to do tests to that will reveal what substances the singer has taken over a period of time.

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Washington  Cube
Fire up the calliope and cover the children’s eyes from the hoochie coochie girls.
By Washington Cube on 07/07/2009 9:46 am
Barbara B
Enough already this country needs to focus on reality.  MJ sad story, sorry he is dead now stop the madness.  Sometimes I question peoples priorities in life.
By Barbara B on 07/07/2009 9:53 am
Maggie W

As for Peter King, there are many people with the same sentiment.  But is it really necessary to make such a comment now?  Love or hate Michael Jackson, he has a family and a very distraught elderly mother.  Why dump this on them?  Does King need attention so badly?  Haven’t the Republicans had enough controversial limelight lately?

With Michael Jackson’s death, an era in music has died ,too.  That is what people are mourning.  We know that he was planning a big tour.  People also like a fighter who is willing to go one more round and take that big gamble and at age 50, prove he could still dance as well as his 20 year old back-up dancers.  They are mourning that as well.   For many people, it is specific music they identify with during past good times and bad.  Certain songs seemed written just for them.  They need to celebrate his death with those memories.   Others just want to be where the action is.  

This too shall pass.  Meanwhile, seething over it and ridiculing the man serves no real purpose.  If California hotels are at capacity, there there is a spark of good news for California.

By Maggie W on 07/07/2009 9:53 am
C Hardy

I have long turned the tv to another station or off when I hear MJ’s name mentioned and all the hoopla about his death.  He is dead, or he is off on the same remote island with Elvis,and Marilyn Monroe.  He is not coming back…Some may think they care about what happens to this 3 kids but they really dont, as humans we are nosey and we like to see how everyone else lives or how different they are from us. 

MJ was weird - his life was awful for him as a child but you know, you grow up, some get over it  - others dont.  He didnt…I feel sorry for his kids b/c now they wont be able to do anything without media in their face.  If I were them I would want to run and hide…

By C Hardy on 07/07/2009 10:08 am
Shock ...
I have to be honest, I received the email for this post about MJ I almost didnt read it. But then I decided I would just so I could comment about how annoying it is that he is everywhere now. Then I read the post and the other comments and am glad that I am not alone in my feelings. 2 years ago everyone talked about him being a perv and a weirdo, now he is a god? He may be dead but he is still weird, that didnt change. What about Farrah? lets spend 5 minutes on her, someone who lived normal, and 5 weeks on MJ? Maybe I am too young (23) to have been impacted by his music, or whatever, I wish this would just GO AWAY!! And if people were really concerned about his kids they wouldnt be throwing it in their face on every channel that he was dead. They cant get the peace and quiet they need with all of this craziness.
By Shock ... on 07/07/2009 10:25 am
Andrea Brandon

Amen, Shock.

Your dog is a real sweetie. I’d MUCH rather be talking about your dog.

By Andrea Brandon on 07/07/2009 11:15 am
Debbie Learman

I bet they are w/a nanny, watching movie videos and have no idea just "how bad" of a 3 ring circus it is out-there!

I believe the MJ $$ should pay 100% of the expenses for his funeral!  listen up, executors of his $/will !  the least a person w/money can do, is provide for his/her own funeral arrangements and extended costs therewith!

 

By Debbie Learman on 07/07/2009 11:55 am
Andrea Brandon

My mother was a professional dancer and I can assure you that Jackson was no dancing talent. He was in the same ranks as Britney Spears….could do a few steps in time with the others.

I never had an appreciation of Michael Jackson’s music either. I certainly wouldn’t call him a good singer.

He had what other so-called popular artists have:  good media hype.

It truly disheartens me to see all the people going ga-ga over his death. Why? Not sure, but I think it has more to do with idle minds. Or maybe THEIR brains have been removed, too.

By Andrea Brandon on 07/07/2009 10:20 am
Elizabeth Bennett

Fred Astaire said Jackson was the best dancer of his generation.  Astaire knew a thing or two about dancing. 

Michael Jackson worked very very hard.  He studied the choreography of Jerome Robbins to develop choreography for his videos; some believe he invented the form of the music video.  He certainly elevated it.  Michael Jackson was considered the most famous person in the WORLD; one could go to villages in Africa where no one had heard of an American President, and they had heard of Michael Jackson.  

 You may not appreciate him, you may not like his music.  But pay attention.  Michael Jackson had more going on than maybe you can imagine.  Many performers of today claim they learned how to perform by watching him.  He was an innovator.  

By Elizabeth Bennett on 07/07/2009 12:48 pm
Andrea Brandon

Elizabeth,

Can you find a link where Astaire said that Jackson was the best dancer of [Jackson’s] generation? I can’t for the life of me imagine he would say that. I did find a website blog that said that Astaire said Jackson was the best dancer of all time. [You can imagine what I think of THAT opinion.]

http://www.rateitall.com/i-2389546-fred-astaire.aspx

Then I watched a bad video of a Jackson remake of an Astaire production. The big difference is that Astaire dances the whole production, no pauses, no breaks…….

http://lifecoach.activerain.com/post/1130032/michael-jackson-the-most-talented-entertainer-of-my-generation

No, he knew a couple steps and had rhythm, but that was about it. Being a real dancer requires stamina. He didn’t have it.

I did find this:

ASTAIRE STUNNED BY JACKSON’S MOONWALK

"Late dancing icon FRED ASTAIRE was so stunned by MICHAEL JACKSON’s famous `moonwalk’ at the Motown 25 concert in 1983 he called the pop superstar to congratulate him - and then stole one of his moves. The Thriller singer tells Ebony magazine he choreographed the dance sequence and insisted on taking charge of all the camerawork and stage lighting when his performance was filmed - to make sure his moonwalk amazed. And it did just that to Astaire. Jackson says, "Fred Astaire calls and said, `I watched it last night, and I taped it, and I watched it again this morning. You’re a helluva mover.’ "So, later, when I saw Fred Astaire, he did this (moonwalk move) with his fingers."

Sounds to me that Astaire was more intrigued by the moonwalk and may have regretted that he didn’t think of it.

Seriously, Elizabeth, if you can find the quote and cite the reference, I’d appreciate it.

By Andrea Brandon on 07/07/2009 4:24 pm
phyllis Doyle Pepe
Andrea: Fred Astaire aside, Jackson was a superb dancer—that is well established. Even if you knew nothing about dancing just watching him move was riveting. Stamina? Concerts take the life out of you––you don’t do them without stamina. Elizabeth is exactly right in her assessment. 
By phyllis Doyle Pepe on 07/07/2009 5:07 pm
Andrea Brandon

Concerts do take the life out of you, Phyllis. No argument there. Astaire didn’t use drugs; Jackson did.

I still disagree about his dancing - even with the drugs.

By Andrea Brandon on 07/07/2009 5:24 pm
Libra Lady
Andrea…that is so true….when you are all drugged up, you can make any kind of moves with your body….I guess you feel no pain and do the unthinkable.  Astaire didn’t have to take drugs to dance!!!!  In fact…many don’t!!!!
By Libra Lady on 07/07/2009 6:42 pm
deber B
I must say, Libra, you are on the target here.   Back in the day, the drugs didn’t enhance performance.   I am sad that Michael Jackson is dead but he, in no way, deserves the recognition that Frank Sinatra, Princess Diana, etc. deserved.   He "weirded out" with drugs and paranoia years ago and unfortunately he was trying to raise three innocent children in that dungeon.  Makes me shiver.   I hope for the children that they will find a real balance in their young lives.
By deber B on 07/07/2009 6:58 pm
Libra Lady
  As usual, sharpton brings race into the whole fiasco….he just never gets off his pulpit does he….he sets race relations back several years…such shame!!!!
By Libra Lady on 07/07/2009 7:15 pm