Margo Howard | 07/07/2009 9:00 am
Today Is the Day, by Margo Howard
Editor’s Note: A longtime journalist, Margo Howard went into the
family business (her mother was the fabled Ann Landers) in the 1990s as
Dear Prudence. Her broad experience and understanding of human nature
provide answers for the troubled — and entertainment for everyone else. Margo’s advice column, Dear Margo, appears twice a week — on Thursdays and Fridays — on wowOwow.com.
This is a very delicate subject to write about, and I wavered, but I decided to do it because it is all so fascinating, in a loony kind of way, and says quite a bit about our country. I am talking about the aftermath of Michael Jackson’s death. It is becoming surreal, as perhaps was his life. (Let us stipulate that there is perhaps no one who does not think the man was an enormous and charismatic talent.) For one thing, the city of Los Angeles (along with the state it is part of, California) is flat broke, and the funereal circus coming to town is estimated to stick the city for two million bucks in services and overtime. The hotels, however, are getting a shot in the arm … forgive the infelicitous phrase in this particular discussion.
And then one wonders why all these fans feel the need to go to a memorial service where there will be more pushing and shoving than at a European soccer match. The need to be there is crowd hysteria; it is one thing to have admired an artist and to be sad he has died, but quite another to go to a stranger’s service. Some lottery winners (yes, there are tickets, which are actually spangly wristbands) have said they just needed to sign the book. I wonder who they think is going to read this book with thousands of names unknown to anyone. And I wonder if there’s ever been a memorial service for 20,000 people? (Never mind that there were 1,600,000 applications.) Perhaps an inducement was to see people such as Stevie Wonder, Mariah Carey, Usher, Lionel Richie, Kobe Bryant, Jennifer Hudson, John Mayer and Martin Luther King III … and maybe see them perform. Fifty theaters nationwide will be broadcasting the services. This is surely a first.
Jackson’s good buddy, Elizabeth Taylor, in this instance the exemplar of good taste, said she will be mourning in private. She said this on Twitter. "I just don’t believe that Michael would want me to share my grief with millions of others," she tweeted. "How I feel is between us."
Debbie Rowe, the mother (sort of) of two of Michael’s children, planned to come, then decided against it … I suspect for different reasons than Ms. Taylor.
There is nothing that is not news about Jackson’s demise. It was announced Monday that he will be buried without his brain. This is so that it can harden, allowing pathologists to do tests to that will reveal what substances the singer has taken over a period of time.

























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Ann,
Too funny,
Love your peacock feathers.
Rain, what you said may be true and I think is true about most people. On the other hand, Shakespeare had something to say about death and what people think:
What you said just reminded of me what Shakespeare said. I have no thought of how this matches or doesn’t match with MJ, nor am I saying that your comment is more applicable to MJ than Shakespeare’s. My best to you.
It is time for all of us to pondet the idea of whether our idea of MJ as a child molester is something that is based on facts or whether it is based on media reports that have been produced in a manner as to lead us to that conclusion. I myself have seennews stories about parents that have missing children which make the viewer believe the parents are guilty of killing their own children. Later on we find out the truth is that the parents are completely innocent. Think of John and Patsy Ramsey. Most people who followed the story thought that they were guilty.
MJ was found innocent in a court of law, yet up until his death I had labeled him as guilty. In fact, when his music came on the radio I would turn the dial. Now I wonder if he truly was guilty or if I was just a sucker for the machine called the media.
What are you afraid of?
It surely isn’t me.
Whatever troubles dealt by you
Reflects a way you ‘see’.
It’s fairly easy to discern
What motivates ones’ feelings
Is it love? or fear?
What provokes your dealings?
This deck of cards you carry
All clubs and spades, revealed
Presents a half-deck effort
As half are still concealed.
Fear always travels with a crowd
How fitting for a game!
Resentment, spite, intolerance,
Each player has their name
One up, one down
Is that how cards are laid?
And what’s the guarantee
That love will even play?
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When we do good
No one remembers
When we do wrong
No one forgets
Yes I too think all of this has been blown out of portion. Who set up this Media circus of a Memorial? If I were famous, I’d rather my family do something low key, out of the spotlight. Who really cares that all of these famous people are going to speak? Not me. It has been enough. Maybe a blip after they find out exactly how he died, but not all of the ‘oh we found this doctor who says he gave him (drug)’ and then 10 minutes later, ‘oh we found this other doctor who gave him this (other drug)’ it’s too much.
The first thing a friend on Facebook did was ask the same question others have - What is all the hype about? Why are people paying more attention to him than the soldiers who have died? I have to agree with my friend. It’s a media circus! And I’ve turned it off.
I for one won’t be watching the funeral. I watched Diana’s, because she led a completely different life, and was widely regarded as a POSITIVE influence on people’s lives. I even visited the mouth of the tunnel where she’d died, but as I’d done so the year prior to her death, and my photos didn’t turn out, I returned to take more. It was hard getting a shot without all the Diana stuff in it though.
Hopefully, all the hoopla will die down soon. BTW, the last time I saw Elvis, he was a cab driver in southern Spain. ;)
I live in OC and I did a fast run-through around noontime of all the LA channels. Only the PBS stations were not carrying the so-called big event. [Thank you KOCE and KCET. You’re getting a nice donation from me for preserving my sanity.] Air time costs a fortune and I don’t even want venture a guess.
I didn’t watch any of it. Worse, when I went out for my walk and tuned in my favorite radio program…….guess what……. I’ll stick to the iPod for the next few days, thank you.
Grief, a North Korean bomb could have hit the US and we wouldn’t know.