A Friend Stopped By | 06/24/2009 11:00 pm
Sleeping Beauty? How You Can – and Why You Should – Sleep Like a French Woman, by Mireille Guiliano

Editor’s Note: Mireille Guiliano is the author of the international bestsellers French Women Don’t Get Fat and French Women for All Seasons: A Year of Secrets, Recipes & Pleasure. Her new book, Women, Work & the Art of Savoir Faire: Business Sense & Sensibility, will be published in October. She just re-launched the website FrenchWomenDontGetFat.com.
A recent survey on the lifestyle of French people reveals that "on average the French sleep nine hours a day." That’s considerably more than my fellow Americans, who seem to think it’s a badge of honor to sleep five or six hours a night. How many of you have heard, "I don’t need much sleep"? Nonsense. Or "I’ve trained myself to get by on six hours of sleep"? Could there be a correlation between French women’s long life expectancy and their hours exercising their sleep muscles?
| Sleep, I believe, is the most neglected state of being in American life. |
In all of my writing – both in my books and on my website – I urge women to 1) take time to eat (no less than 20 minutes per meal) and 2) sleep well. Sleep, I believe, is the most neglected state of being in American life.
When in Paris, my American husband always notices the pitch-dark apartment buildings we pass while walking home late at night from a meal at a friend’s house or the theater. It’s barely 11 o’clock PM, yet most of the lights are off. For one thing, the French don’t watch much television (no staying up for Conan O’Brien or Dave Letterman’s monologue). They come home from work, prepare dinner, sit down to eat (that’s entertainment!) and relax. Some may prolong the evening reading or listening to music for half an hour, but by ten or 11 o’clock most of them are au dodo. No late-night e-mailing or typing away at the computer. How different that is from New York, the city that never sleeps. From our Manhattan windows we see plenty of lights and people in buildings all around us until the wee hours. That the French spend more than two hours each day eating is another contrast with America. Eating is one of the great pleasures in life, after all. Kitchen or bedroom? For the French it’s a toss-up, according to the latest survey.
How’s your sleep? We could (and should) all improve our sleep patterns in these stressful times — and when aren’t times at least somewhat stressful?
So, here are ten easy tips you may consider so you, too, can enjoy the benefits of a good night’s sleep.
1. Move, move, move during the day! Studies have proven that exercise, in addition to burning calories, makes it easier to fall and stay asleep. No need to run a marathon or spend hours sweating; a 20- to 30-minute brisk walk or yoga will do the trick. (Just be careful not to do it too close to bedtime — this will actually have the opposite effect!)
2. Stay away from stimulants, such as caffeine and nicotine and alcohol. All three substances make us jittery, interrupt our quality of sleep and our ability to fall asleep. Many people who rely on caffeine to get them through the day are shocked to learn that it can have a stimulating effect for up to 12 hours after they’ve imbibed.
3. Try to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day. Our bodies crave balance and if we train our body to fall asleep at a certain time and wake up at a certain time (even if we’re still sleepy), it will eventually listen to our requests.























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Interesting and informative article. Lots of good tips!
I have a very busy schedule. I think we could all use more sleep. I take lots of little naps. Sometimes, I manage to sleep long hours but it’s rare. I’m definitely not sleeping nine hours on a daily basis.
My bedroom is where I go to sleep. There is no tv.
I think the point here is that you need to make sleep your priority.
No, you DON’T need to stay up and watch TV and check your email. I agree that there is no place for a TV in the bedroom-everyone I know who has one in the bedroom is sleep deprived.
I used to have a flexible job where I could grab a nap when I wanted or sleep a little late if I stayed up. Now I have an office job where I have to get up at 4:30am in order to get to the gym before work. I have never felt so healthy! I am forced to be in bed by 10 at the latest, earlier if possible. I had thought my flexible schedule was a blessing, but it was really killing me. It IS possible to follow a good schedule with a busy life, you just have to make it happen.
I think that’s where the contrast exists. Our lifestyles here in the U.S. have several components that encourage and sometimes require us to sleep less than we should. Whether it’s a long commute, single parenthood, parenting in general, telecommuting to different time zones, restless dogs, etc…There are many things going on that are not easily reorganized. Right now, I am, single and jobless. I have much more free time than ever before. I can see some habits that encouraged me to sleep less than I needed (e.g. not enough excercise, late night eating, late night everything). But that’s not the case for everyone.
I agree and hope that this depression we are experiencing will cause a shift in how we live; however we have to remember that when things improve people will feel even more job loss anxiety from being unemployed. Bottom line is, we can only try to take care of ourselves and get more exercise and sleep; but we must be consistent in the effort.
I have always slept w/no lights, definitely no computer, tv, or clock, in my bedroom. I trust my inner "clock" and if I need to wake up at a certain time, I do…there are just 2 clocks in my home, I have a clock on my computer, and one on the tv cable box. If I wake up, in the middle of the night, I’ll always try and guess the time…I’m usually w/in a few minutes…but, I’m NOT thin, (used to be), and I normally sleep 7-9 hours. hummmmmm…
I do not eat 1-2 hours a day….but, I’ll definitely be eating slower and longer….when I get my/a LapBand.
I am French (well, French Canadian by birth), and I don’t understand these concepts all French women are born just knowing. I get the author’s points, but they aren’t always realistic. For example, I read French Women Don’t Get Fat and some of it consisted of eating a lot of leek soup, which came through my pores and, frankly, smelled. I took from that book what I could use, but it became a remainder book here in the states very quickly. Either that is a sad comment on how inflexible we Americans are, or smelling of leeks isn’t fashionable just yet.
I have been an insomniac since I was a small child. Running around all day, climbing trees after school, eating just the vegetables from my plate (never met a vegetable I didn’t like, but I didn’t like meat), and still I was always up long past my older brothers and sisters went to bed. I think some people cannot follow these rules and succeed—that’s why they read books like this, then kick themselves. Ouch.
Recently I read that its best to go to sleep before midnight, but for me that doesn’t work very well. I find that my body clock runs from Midnight to 8AM. If I go to sleep earlier I usually wake up within an hour or two and then have trouble going back to sleep. If I go to sleep somewhere between midnight and 1AM, I have a good chance of getting at least 5 or 6 hours of solid sleep before waking. If I can go back to sleep again great, if not at least I’ve gotten a solid 5 or 6 hours.
Last night I slept 8 hours straight. I am 68 years old and retired.
The reason I slept this many hours without a sleeping aid was because:
I spent 90 minutes at the gym, before entering the house pulled weeds for an hour, and after lunch I picked berries for two hours in the country.
In the evening I read and worked on a complex afghan for a while.
I probably overdid it a bit alltogether, but my sleep was wonderful.
This morning I played 18 holes of golf (no golf cart for me and my friends)……….
Now if I could only lose a pound……..
I’ve read bits and pieces of this woman’s work. I think she gets away with it because so few Americans actually know any French women. My husband’s French - I know his friends and family. French women are skinny because they live on coffee and cigarettes. In places where they actually eat the way Mireille recommends, they look like healthy Americans. And where they eat junk food, they look just like the rest of us.
Don’t get me wrong - many of her suggestions are worth consideration (I personally would love to get 9 hours consistently). But there’s nothing intriniscally "French" about her philosophies.
I think this article has some great suggestions. Sleep is so important to function well in all areas of life. Americans may complain they don’t have enough time to sleep like the French, but I honestly think the main difference is not work schedules as much as time spent watching TV. Cut out the TV and you find you are more relaxed and have a lot more free time. Same with staying on Facebook for hours on end.
Also, in regards to the French staying thin by smoking, statistically the smoking rates of women are actually almost the same as in the US. My personal observation and experience while eating in France is that they really do stay thin because of better eating habits (real food, rich foods that truly satisfy - no diet, lowfat, lowcarb anything-, lower sugar intakes, family meals, etc.). Of course, as the French adopt American junk food habits, they will get fat. I think Mireille’s lessons are based on those still following *traditional* French dietary patterns, not every single French person. Personally, Mireille’s book truly changed my life: it freed me from guilt surrounding eating and taught me to enjoy food, take care of myself and lose weight. I’m living proof it can work for Americans: 4 years so far of eating like a French woman and I’ve never looked back!