These woman like Hillary have had to live out their nightmare in public.  No one knows what goes on behind closed doors. 

Everyone seems to know what to do with the devil except  the one who has to deal with him.

Good luck to all.

My husband tried to see if he could find better, he begged and begged because he said he couldn’t find better: my answer to that was, go get your things and get out or your stuff will be in the dumpster tomorrow.

Never allow a man to insult, humiliate or embarrass you EVER.  There should be no excuse, no forgiving and no (I’m sorry’s)

To be insulted privately is bad enough but to be humiliated and embarrassed in public, I cannot imagine the pain. And to whoever said MONEY, divorce will get these ladies money beyond your imagination, they just want the statis of being Mrs.? whoever.

I got no money I maintained my dignity and that meant everything to me, and it should to them too.

I think that the whole subject of cheating and infidelity is a lot more complex than most people think. Admittedly, there are "serial cheaters", who "commit" to a marriage, then proceed into a string of sexual encounters that seem very superficial, and who seem absolutely surprised, and guiltless, when caught out. But there are other forms of cheating as well.

My father also cheated on my mother. He was still married to her, and he took up with another woman. Although he was at the "right age" for a mid-life crisis, the "other woman" was not a very young, very pretty, atheltic bit of fluff. She was a 40-something, talented (an artist), intelligent, dumpy, not-terribly attractive (I am not being unkind, my dad was an expert photographer, and even he could not succeed in making her look better than average) Scientologist who was disinctly disliked at their mutual workplace by the other employees (actually, my dad was some sort of VP). My dad wished a divorce, my mother did not. Mom was not to blame for the affair, which was intrinsically wrong, but she was no glowing, angelic innocent, and their marriage was a screaming disaster (literally) and had been for years. She fought the divorce tooth and nail, tried to drag her adult children into it, and won a decision against it. Just a few months later, she filed for divorce, because, under her state’s laws, a person who contested a divorce and won could lose everything (including a chance at spousal suuport) if the person who originally filed, and lost, filed again. There was no love involved in this at all. In all of her many rants to me (mostly inebriated) between the two actions, she mentioned not letting "that woman" live in her house (the house she hated, oddly), her children (all grown except one, who was almost 18), and "he’s not going to do that to me". It was all about money and hubris. Pretty ugly.

And we are talking about monied, powerful men here, and the women who are married to them. As several writers have said, we don’t know the nature of their relationships. In my parent’s case, there was no mutual respect, and little sharing (they were always extremely vocal in their disagreements, why not let the children know every detail of your misery?), but my mom had her many diamonds, didn’t have to work unless she felt like (my dad encouraged her to do so), had her own car, nice clothes, and her pride. Perhaps the women married to these men of power love them, and wish to stand by them…or perhaps they are just very comfortable and don’t want to change anything, regardless of cheating and public humiliation. Perhaps they are cheating as well, or engaging in other activities that bring them satisfaction that they don’t need a terribly attentive or present husband for. Maybe they aren’t a good sexual fit with their spouses, and are glad they’re off "bothering" someone else. And, perhaps divorce would be very ugly. What with pre-nups, the ever-hungry media, the seeming need for soon-to-be-exes to utterly trash their former partners, and the public’s somewhat bloodthirsty slavering for the gory details, maybe these women don’t want to expose themselves to that kind of horrorshow. Not everyone is an attention whore.

As it is, I might wonder why some of them choose to stay with these philandering yahoos, but I’m not going to judge them or lose any sleep over it. As for my mother, it is no mystery to me why she contested the original divorce. Pride. My father chose a woman close to her age who my mother quite uncharitably called "mule-face", who was just a bit loopy (my dad never became a Scientologist, btb, he thought it was a fraud), who was as talented as my mother, but successful (mom scorned at least one very good opportunity offered to her early on), and who seemed to actually share interests with him. Had she been a sort of Barbie-doll bimbette, it wouldn’t have mattered nearly as much. It wasn’t a matter of hurt feelings, simply hubris.

As for myself, I have no idea how I would react if my partner cheated. I have left one slug (stupid to have married him, but no infidelity), and booted another (pretty much the same thing, I can be a slow learner). I am not arrogant enough to say that I am sure of my reactions. I do believe that a marriage is more about love, respect, trust, intimacy and compassion than it is about money and pride, or status and the "good life". Hopefully, I’ll never have to make those decisions. 

Love covers a multitude of sins! 

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