The Etceterist | 03/30/2009 12:00 pm
Model Carmen Dell'Orefice Speaks Out on Life After Madoff

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CARMEN: I have been with the Ford Agency — in fact, I was with Eileen Ford recently celebrating her 85th birthday — since 1947. I have just recently done a Rolex campaign, which I am doing next year, too. I did a Taryn Rose shoe campaign, I just shot four pages of fashion for Paris Match, I am going to Florida to meet with Bruce Weber to do something for French Vogue. Two weeks ago I was in London working on a book for the London College of Fashion.
BILLY: When will you do your own book? “The Best of Carmen,” you should call it.
CARMEN: I told Paul Himmel, the son of my friend Lillian Bassman the photographer, over at Harry Abrams that he has first option on my book. Sixty-two years I’ve been modeling, but I am not ready to settle down and look back, I’m too busy. You see what I mean about still working?
BILLY: And always with Ford?
CARMEN: Always. Sometimes I am cast as the grandmother. Sometimes I play the — what’s the modern expression? — the cougar. The cougar!
BILLY: And does Carmen have a position on Cougar-dom? Would you date — do you date younger men?
CARMEN: I’m not after a younger man. I always prefer my contemporaries. An older woman and a younger man? That ain’t me. I am through training them. Really, it gets to be too much.
BILLY: Too much?
CARMEN: The training!
BILLY: What are you wearing these days, fashion-wise?
CARMEN: Because I am a model does not mean I am a current expert on the current styles other than I feel, as a woman, at my age, which is 77 - 78 on June 3 — I feel I am a spearhead for the decades coming up behind me for how to reinvent yourself in the image of an older person, because the images I had growing up of older people were either ridiculous or something I could not aspire to be like. It is a challenge not to make a fool of myself.
BILLY: The ageless question: What is age-appropriate dressing?
CARMEN: Yes, but it doesn’t mean not to have some fun, not to think outside the box and try to make the best of all the classic pieces I have collected over the years that fit my body at a price I could afford when I bought them.
BILLY: Did you spend money on clothes?
CARMEN: I never had the budget that society ladies have when they marry rich men and can shop and have lunch. I’ve always been working. What I am most grateful for is that Isaac Mizrahi designed for Target. I bought some pieces of his — safari jackets, seersucker things, classic stuff you wear day in and day out.
BILLY: Do you wear high heels during the day?
CARMEN: Sometimes, I do, because I can’t wear any heel, flat or high or in-between, for more than three hours at a time before it troubles my foot. So I am always changing my shoes.
BILLY: Do you have any beauty secrets? Any skin products you swear by?
CARMEN: Outside of the products of Dr. Norman Orentreich that I have been using since I was 37, funny you should ask. Recently, delivered to my door, was a present of all these skin products by the famous South American plastic surgeon Dr. Ivo Pitanguy, I didn’t even know he was still alive. All these people used to go to him in the jet set, people like Merle Oberon. You could always tell a Pitanguy facelift.
BILLY: How?
BILLY: When will you do your own book? “The Best of Carmen,” you should call it.
CARMEN: I told Paul Himmel, the son of my friend Lillian Bassman the photographer, over at Harry Abrams that he has first option on my book. Sixty-two years I’ve been modeling, but I am not ready to settle down and look back, I’m too busy. You see what I mean about still working?
BILLY: And always with Ford?
CARMEN: Always. Sometimes I am cast as the grandmother. Sometimes I play the — what’s the modern expression? — the cougar. The cougar!
BILLY: And does Carmen have a position on Cougar-dom? Would you date — do you date younger men?
CARMEN: I’m not after a younger man. I always prefer my contemporaries. An older woman and a younger man? That ain’t me. I am through training them. Really, it gets to be too much.
BILLY: Too much?
CARMEN: The training!
BILLY: What are you wearing these days, fashion-wise?
CARMEN: Because I am a model does not mean I am a current expert on the current styles other than I feel, as a woman, at my age, which is 77 - 78 on June 3 — I feel I am a spearhead for the decades coming up behind me for how to reinvent yourself in the image of an older person, because the images I had growing up of older people were either ridiculous or something I could not aspire to be like. It is a challenge not to make a fool of myself.
BILLY: The ageless question: What is age-appropriate dressing?
CARMEN: Yes, but it doesn’t mean not to have some fun, not to think outside the box and try to make the best of all the classic pieces I have collected over the years that fit my body at a price I could afford when I bought them.
BILLY: Did you spend money on clothes?
CARMEN: I never had the budget that society ladies have when they marry rich men and can shop and have lunch. I’ve always been working. What I am most grateful for is that Isaac Mizrahi designed for Target. I bought some pieces of his — safari jackets, seersucker things, classic stuff you wear day in and day out.
BILLY: Do you wear high heels during the day?
CARMEN: Sometimes, I do, because I can’t wear any heel, flat or high or in-between, for more than three hours at a time before it troubles my foot. So I am always changing my shoes.
BILLY: Do you have any beauty secrets? Any skin products you swear by?
CARMEN: Outside of the products of Dr. Norman Orentreich that I have been using since I was 37, funny you should ask. Recently, delivered to my door, was a present of all these skin products by the famous South American plastic surgeon Dr. Ivo Pitanguy, I didn’t even know he was still alive. All these people used to go to him in the jet set, people like Merle Oberon. You could always tell a Pitanguy facelift.
BILLY: How?
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This is a lady. Best of luck to you, Carmen. You are a true beauty, inside and out.
An inspiration indeed. But many of Madoff’s victims are not as employable as Carmen (or as beautiful). However, I admire her particularly for admitting her age. I have never been shy about admitting mine and I hope she sets a trend.
I lost money in the Madoff scam, not enough to destroy my life or my lifestyle but enough to put the brakes on spending for a good while. My children will inherit less but they will manage too. And what do I "really think" about the Madoffs? I knew them only at one remove. They were very close friends of an acquaintance of ours, who lost far far more than we did.
Am I angry at the Madoffs and our wealthy acquaintance? No, not really. There doesn’t seem to be any connection between my loss and the man who is in jail. I’d have been angry if he was still in his penthouse and I am waiting for the Feds to take everything from Ruth and other members of the Madoff family. However, I am content to let justice run its course without allowing Madoff the satisfaction of destroying my sense of wellbeing and my love of life. To allow anger to eat away at me would be to allow Madoff to steal more from me than he already took. So I’m a lot poorer but still smiling and still enjoying the beautiful spring flowers in my garden.
You are also an inspiration! I applaud your strength ! You have not allowed Madoff to defeat you! You have declared in a powerful voice that you are incharge of your life and not anyone nor anything is going to steal your joy! There are so many who’ve looked at their misfortune as the end of the world . Individuals who feel there’s no hope. I hope once some time has pasted they will be able to adopt the same positive attitude both you and Carmen have.
I was disappointed that she did not share her feelings about the Madoffs. What vile, ruthless and heartless people! She said they were her good friends. You know the expression with friends like these who needs enemies!
Whoa, I am so sorry! I didn’t mean to ignore you. Thank you, also, for your kind and supportive comments. Please include yourself a bona fide member of my on-line family of friends.
You wrote,
I think that, for some people, their losses have been akin to the end of their worlds. There are elderly people in nursing homes with no money to pay the next month’s charges and many working people who have lost any chance of a comfortable retirement. It is much harder for such unfortunates to pick themselves up than it has been for me. Moreover, my parents were both penniless refugees and I was taught, from an early age, that money comes and goes and that, if need be, I should clean toilets. They also said that the one form of riches that nobody can steal is an education. Not only does an education make it easier for a person to make a living but, also, it provides mental resources when, by contrast, many are made happy only by what money can buy.
I count my blessings - and your kind words are among them.
Thanks for your kind words, Kay Sara. We are all, indeed, living on a lot less and "a trouble shared is a trouble halved." I have one friend whose husband is still minting money; she goes shopping every day. It seems so quaintly old-fashioned :)
I should add, however, that we didn’t lose our life savings. We did lose money that we worked for but, fortunately, we did not have all our eggs in one basket. I am sure I would be singing a different tune if I had lost everything that I had ever saved. I am not more resilient than those who are enraged, angry, depressed and grieving - I’m just luckier.
Who in the world is an equal to the beautiful, elegant, classy Carmen Dell’Orefice? Queen Rania of Jordan is the only one I can think of.
I saw Ms. Dell’Orefice years ago when we were visiting the Upper East Side…and she is such a vision of natural grace, delicate as a bird. Was very sorry to hear of this when she was interviewed on TV, but with her transcendant attitude and spirit, and not to diminish her loss, but imagine she’ll have all back in no time.
Hers is an autobiography I’d love to read. She could sign a deal and with the advance hire a ghostwriter to organize the outline, and Ms. Dell’Orefice can record the chapters, have them transcribed, and then edit those. Just a thought….and with lots of good wishes for a true lady.