Happy Birthday! Did you say 45th? Oh, my dear, you are just a pup! Many happy returns…..Depression surely warrants having its own thread somewhere….Churchill called it “the black dog”….”Noonday Demons” might interest you….I’ll check to see if that’s the right title….But in your “work ” with it, I hope that you find that it peels away gradually like the layers of a troublesome onion……
Blow out the candles and help yourself to the biggest buttercream rose…..!
Happy belated birthday Lena, Your birthday falls smack dab in the middle of birthdays of two of the most important people in my life, my mom (78) and brother-so in my book you belong to a very elite club. The next time you are feeling the weight of sadness you should reread these posts and be reminded of how your very honest and vulnerable post struck a deep chord with so many women. Though this sadness is uniquely yours, it is also part of the fabric of so many lives. You gave us a treasured gift on your birthday. Thank you.
Thank YOU for the honor Sister BG! I’m so moved by those willing to celebrate my birthday on this site. I’m happy to report that I feel much better today than I did Tuesday. You ladies have surrounded me with “Sister Power”, one of the strongest forces in nature. Now I have another weapon of resiliency to use when I forget how blessed I am to be here.
I read, talk to friends, think about solutions to the problems, daydream, make plans to make things better, set goals, clean out areas and donate clothing and food to food and clothing pantries, sleep, write in my journal, cook, eat when I’m not hungry, lie on a lounge on the sunny patio when I can, count my blessings that it could be worse and hope for the best.
I have a friend who is very centered. She has inspired me to meditate, and I find that calms me down, especially when there is nothing I can do about the situation.
Daydream, read, daydream, listen to light classical music, daydream, listen to music from back in the day (the nineteen forties), read, watch & listen to college lectures on many subjects (from The Teaching Company) on DVDs, read, daydream, write poetry, enjoy the spectacular view of the Chesapeake Bay from my back deck, read, daydream. Walk in Quiet Waters Park and my own community while listening to audio books of The Portable Professor series (from Barnes & Noble).
When all the madness started happening around me - first the election - the melt down on Wall Street - the stupid bail out - my jeans were fitting too tight -
fighting a sinus infection - car in shop for new brakes - car in shop for rear window repair (paid $200.00 for a new motor) -all my clothes fitting too tight — business off , possibly having to let an employee go — etc.
I decided it was time to take it all to a higher being.
So, remembering my mother’s cure for TOO much trash floating in your life, I decided to start going to a church close to my office — beautiful little chapel - lighting a candle and asking God and St. Jude (Patron of Hopeless Cases)
to intervene on my behalf. Just sitting there talking about all my silly little problems sounded so small compared to the REAL things around me. One day, while I was sitting there a man came in - lit a candle and started to pray and cry. His wife of 50 years was dying of cancer. We sat and talked in that chapel for over an hour. When I came out I felt so ashamed of my self because my problems were insignificant compared to his.
Now, I’ve been back to that little chapel many times — now I pray for this country and all the people who have bigger problems than mine.
Lady Gator…I can relate. Although am not any longer a Catholic….do love some Catholic Churches and Missions…and the St. Jude constituency at Saint Dominics in San Francisco incredible…a beautiful Gothic/artisan Church and 100s of large candles lit everyday to St. Jude….same as th Santa Barbara Mission. I cannot think of myself there but only all the supplicants.
OK Carmel………..Thanks for agreeing with me on SOMETHING. I once said that you and I could have great conversations as long as it didn’t involve politics. So, let’s make a pact — no more political speak between you and I.
I’ve been to both churches you mention — there is also The National Shrine of St. Jude’s in Chicago on Monroe Street. Tell you what —the next time I go to the little chapel around the corner — I’ll light a candle for you. That way you can be there in spirit!
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