Susan PS When I was young and went to my mother because I was sad, she would always try to change that feeling in me by cheering me up. She had so many kids, and I think she just wanted them to be happy that she would tell us something that she loved about us, or talk about something to get us to cheerful. It worked in many cases, but later, looking back, it also was left the feelings unexpressed, and a feeling as if they weren’t important. One of my sisters and I talked to her about it once and she said she was sorry, she just wanted us to be happy. I could understand, but I made sure with my kids that I listened a little deeper. Don’t get me wrong, my mother listened well, she just had so many kids in and out of that house and she was only one person, I think she prioritized. But I know of what you speak, it is kind of like saying your feelings weren’t important. I think sometimes people don’t know how to deal with their own feelings, let alone others. I am sorry that happened to you.