And how many marriages are broken because of someone’s narcissistic ego problem. Let the past lie dead and gone.

I emailed an old love several years ago….found him living with his mother and only sproadically employed. He had seemed so promising as a younger man. And, he had dumped me. Foolishly, I entered into a relationship with him and married him. We lived together only 2 out of 5 years. He continued to remain employed only from time to time, and he continued to run home to mother whenever the going got tough. Our life used up my money, and he belittled me as a woman to the point that I’ve gained at least 50 pounds. We’ve been divorced 7 years, but I have never dated again and have no sex drive at all. He still lives with his mother and has a new girlffriend with my same first name. He has a travel blog I occasionally read, only to find they do many of the same things we did, and he even uses some of my own jokes and expressions. I think he is a sponge. I’d have to agree that if someone let you go once, you’re an idiot to go back and see if they regret it. If they did, they’d have found you. All you are asking for is a repeat of your previous experience, only worse. Asking for this kind of crap takes a real hit on your self esteem.

My sister tried to do that. We moved to another city when she was about 15. She was in the beginning of a relationship with a man she is sure she would have married. He became a doctor in the USA. Recently she hunted him down even knowing he was married and they were emailling back and forth. He said he still has a lamp she gave him when she moved. It was all very cute until his wife discovered the emails. He politely emailed her back and said his wife thought it was inappropriate no matter how innocent it seemed to them and that he would not be emailing her again. I thought it was insane that she was emailing him more than once, once she knew he was still married. Just plain wrong in my books.