Hi, Kelly,

No doubt about it: the ideal family is one which includes a heterosexual set of parents who are kind and loving and nurture their kids. Ask any homosexual and s/he will tell you plain and simple that s/he would never choose a homosexual life.

But homosexuality is here to stay. There will always be children brought up by gay parents and those brought up by parents of the traditional couple. To tell gays they can’t have children is denying them one of life’s greatest gifts. And why? Because the child may get confused? I believe that kids are confused about a ton of things but it’s the parents’ own biases that cause the confusion. Maybe the answer is for everyone to accept gay families. No one’s asking you to go to their weddings or to let them move in with you. They just want the same civil liberties and benefits. Just because you accept something doesn’t mean that you need to be part of that belief. If every parent would simply tell his child that there are families with two daddies or two mommies and that they love their children very much, it would go a long way towards reducing confusion. Kids are remarkably resilient and I think that the real problem here is that the kids are caught up in their parents’ "stuff" and value systems rather than being confused.

I think it’s a damned shame that kids are being pressured by peers to try homosexuality. I also think it’s a damned shame that kids are being pressured to try heterosexuality. I believe it’s up to the parents to give as much guidance to the child so that s/he will refuse to kowtow to such pressures. Parents need to give kids the tools to understand at an age appropriate level.

OK, let the arrows fly.