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Julia Reed | 06/25/2009 10:45 am

Mrs. Mark Sanford Is No Silda Spitzer, by Julia Reed

Julia Reed
My first thought, looking at the puffy, bloodshot eyes of South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford, was, "Do these guys NEVER learn from the mistakes of their elders?" Although there are legions of examples of pols who strayed and got caught they could choose from – I’m not referring to Bill Clinton or Gary Hart or … pick a name – in this case, there is a particularly fitting example Sanford should have been mindful of: Wilbur Mills.

I have quoted the wise words of Mills, the late representative from Arkansas and the powerful chairman of the House Ways and Means committee, many times before: "Never drink champagne with a foreigner." Mills was referring to Fanne Fox, the stripper known as "The Argentine Firecracker" with whom he was discovered cavorting in the tidal basin. Apparently, Sanford drank in a lot more than that from Maria, the Argentine chauffeur, a woman he has considered a "friend" for eight years. Man, these guys never fail to disappoint – ridiculous cover stories (hiking alone on the Appalachian trail? Really?) are always blown, and we are left with hilarious images and bits of info: Monica’s blue dress; Spitzer’s black socks; and now, Sanford’s e-mail, leaked to The State newspaper, in which he praises the curves of his lover’s hips along with her "erotic beauty" and "magnificent gentle kisses," and describes himself as a man bound up in "a hopelessly impossible situation of love."

In addition to seriously pissing off his wife, who apparently found out what was going on a few months ago and asked for a separation two weeks ago, he has further narrowed the Republican field of 2012 presidential contenders. (Nevada Sen. John Ensign’s chances bit the dust after his longtime affair with an aide was revealed only a week ago.) Sanford has already resigned from his post as chairman of the Republican Governors’ Association, where he will be succeeded by my good friend Mississippi Gov. Haley Barbour, who is already running and who is one of the smartest people I know.

But back to the Sanford saga: the most refreshing thing about his news conference yesterday was that Sanford was the only one crying. There was no dutiful wife, in dress and pearls, standing shell-shocked and red-eyed beside him á la Silda Spitzer. Jenny Sanford says she requested the separation in order to maintain her "dignity and self-respect." In response to their troubles, the couple had been attending an intense Bible study group, and Jenny, a tad too predictably, says she’ll take her husband back, but only "in time" and only "if he continues to work toward reconciliation with a true spirit of humility and repentance." It must be said, she is giving herself a lot of outs on that one. And I would not characterize quickie trips to Argentina as exactly in keeping with "the true spirit of repentance." From the looks of things (not to mention the video of his distraught, stream-of-consciousness press conference) no amount of praying is going to mend Sanford’s broken heart over this present-day Argentine Firecracker.

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Marty B
Let’s take a minute to look beyond his infidelity and look at his irresponsibility. Who was running the state? His staff, his lieutenant governor and his wife didn’t know where he was. <!—break—>  That, to me, is the greater offense. I feel sorry for the people of South Carolina. He violated the trust they put in him when they elected him.
By Marty B on 06/25/2009 1:00 pm
MK P

Exactly, Marty — it was the lack of responsibility he showed by not turning the reins of government over to the next guy in charge…..that is the business of everyone in South Carolina.    As soon as his wife didn’t seem to know where he was — I figured something was amiss (great sleuth that I am).   =)

By MK P on 06/25/2009 1:04 pm
kermie b

Good for her. Good for Stanford’s wife. She wasn’t some Stepford Politician’s Wife, who will always stand by her man, because He is her meal ticket. I hope her stance will start a trend and show women they don’t have to put up with a sham of a public marriage.

This begs the question, with more women in positions of power, will we see the opposite some day? A news conference with the betrayed husband standing there defending his wandering meal ticket? Hmmm.  I don’t think so.

By kermie b on 06/25/2009 1:17 pm
Dianne Lopp

Hallelujah and amen to that!  I may disagree with Mrs. Sanford politically but I’m right behind her in both her stands: Not standing by her man (Thank you!  Thank you!) and leaving the door open to reconciliation provided the father of her children straightens up and flies right. Personally,  I think she ought to kick him to the curb, run for governor and get a Latin lover of her own.

By Dianne Lopp on 06/25/2009 1:21 pm
DeBúrca obj

Check out the funny video:

Mark Sanford: The Musical — Don’t Cry For Me Right Wing Media

excerpt from article: "I wonder if Sanford will sing another song about using taxpayer money to fly to see his mistress? Especially after trying to refuse federal funds to help the unemployed?  Perhaps a toe-tapper about when he demanded Bill Clinton’s resignation for his affair?"

 


By DeBúrca obj on 06/25/2009 1:23 pm
O E
Thumbs WAY UP for Ms. Sanford.  All politicians’ wives should take her lead:  He messes up, let him stand there ALONE in front of the nation and wring his hands all he wants.  None of her trembling lips, soulful weepy eyes, and "I’m with you no matter what and if you zip your pants up I’ll take you back" crap.  He gets himself in a mess because he can’t control his "little friend", let him deal with it alone while you file for a hefty divorce settlement and move on wiser and richer.  Maybe he didn’t get at home what he found outside, but in that case, he should divorce and then play around all he wants.  But no; these jerk up hypocrites humilliate their families without remorse while they spit out all kinds of words about family values, sanctity of marriage and wave their banner of morality.  Get out of here!
By O E on 06/25/2009 1:25 pm
O E

Next time we see him Sanford doing his mea culpa in front of the microphones, I want to watch him sing "Don’t Cry for Me Argentina".

By O E on 06/25/2009 1:42 pm
DeBúrca obj
check out the link to the video I posted above
By DeBúrca obj on 06/25/2009 1:49 pm
O E
Thank you, DeBúrca.  I take a good laugh, no matter where it comes from.
By O E on 06/25/2009 3:10 pm
Bethany Christian
First - he went to Argentina and "cried" for 5 days.  Then he apologizes to friends and constituents and everyone - oh yeah, and to my family.  When Mrs. Sanford seriously considers reconciling I hope she remembers her placement in line.  I feel very sad for the family and very proud that she did not do the political thing and appear at his side while he humiliated her.  However, that man needs some serious help.  I am not condoning or excusing his behaviour but that statement was nothing if not bizarre.  And leaving his responsibilities to get out of the "bubble" - that is part of the job.  The fact that he was actually considered as a presidential candidate for 2012 is very frightening.  I understand that this is not the first time he has disappeared leaving the state flapping —-    
By Bethany Christian on 06/25/2009 1:37 pm
Washington  Cube

…and not forgetting Wayne Hayes, who was then the powerful Chairman of the Appropriations Committee and his "I can type," Elizabeth Ray.  I have a funny story about that, because I ulitimately went to work in that area once he was ousted.  A former colleague of mine worked for Hayes, and was "supposed" to be sharing an office with Elizabeth.  There was a bright red IBM selectric typewriter sitting there to prove it, only Elizabeth was never there. 

She would show up on occasion, sashshaying the halls of Congress in a fox coat.  My colleague was supoenaed when the fur hit the fan, and there she sat in court, dressed all prim and proper, shaken to her core to be hauled in because of this mess.  I remember at some point, back at the ranch (office,) that my colleague hoisted a huge telephone book and aimed it at Ray, just for besmirching her own life by the taint of what those two had been doing.  I think after the smoke cleared, Elisabeth moved to New York to pursue a stand-up comedy career.

I’ve been on Twitter last night, creating a fake Appalachian Trail tweet dialogue of the Governor, combined with email comments to his little chile pepper and emails to staff to cover the tracks.  I was glad his wife didn’t stand up with him…My God….for ONCE…the brave little woman willing to show her life had been destroyed and not cover for him. 

By Washington Cube on 06/25/2009 1:55 pm
Slinky Binx

Where are the cries for his resignation???  He left the state high and dry! If I lived in So Carolina I would be po’d.  If the govenator took off and left Cali like that I would be calling the capitol wanting that resignation!

 The only thing I can say about the wife is good for her for not attending the press conference.  But, in my opinion doesn’t deserve a clap or pat on the back having a modicum of dignity.   Her statement is the same stale "good little wife" speech saying that she’ll take him back if he tries, blah blah blah.  Yawn, whatever. It’s just another form of politics, as usual.  

And, I love how all these "family values" politicians have no moral fiber whatsoever.  Not a shred.  

Love also how Fox News put a "D" next to Sanford’s name at the press conference to indicate that he was a Democrat.  Uh huh. 

 

By Slinky Binx on 06/25/2009 3:08 pm
Belinda Joy

I love her! Finally a woman handling the realization that she is married to a flawed man in the right way. None of that fake "Stand by my man" crap that women in these situations do. No, she not only kicked him out and said get your act together and THEN come back to me once you are whole; but she is in  no way, shape or form protecting him and assisting in the spin he is trying to portray to the public.

Kudos to you Jenny. May I suggest you give Elizabeth Edwards a phone call and have a long talk……she could learn a lot from you.  :-)

By Belinda Joy on 06/25/2009 6:15 pm
Barbara B
Belinda I agree with you completely.  Reading all this crap reps vs dems reminds me of how during the Kennedy era all the woman put up with their men & their crap.  It still amazes me how Teddy walked away after good old chapaquitick.  Joan was driven to drink Jackie ran for her life with her kids after Jack got killed.  These woman could really write a best seller.  As for Eliabeth Edwards her situation is difficult because the poor woman is dying.   I would love to see one of these woman just sock one to the jaw on National TV.  This is about men and their johnson which it seems no matter what party it is has a smaller brain than he thought after all. A dog is a dog political or not but any man in office no matter the party should be held up to a higher standard or get out of politics and really try to make a living where no one knows your name. 
By Barbara B on 06/25/2009 10:30 pm
canuck canuck
I feel sorry for his wife just as I felt terrible for Hilary …. rather have this crap go on in Argentina if it has to than in our White House!
By canuck canuck on 06/25/2009 11:15 pm