Another none of the above one. We need an “other” category as a norm.

I am on disability, which does not pay much and my husband works 50 hours a week. He makes much more than me. But he says what is his is mine and what is mine is mine. lol

My husband is retired, and I’m still working. So I answered “Yes.”

This is a ‘women’s’ site, but that doesn’t mean that only women are on it. The question should have included gender to see if things have changed all that much. PS Caroline, my husband also says that……with his mouth, but I’m not so sure about his mind :)

My partner is currently trying to change attitudes to horse welfare and is writing a book along that theme - he isn’t earning anything at the moment but who knows what the future holds… he’s a dab hand with a vacuum cleaner though!

More and more I hear about women who are the sole support for their husband and children. What’s going on here? Has something changed in the minds of males?

Yes, Suzanne, something has changed - in the minds of men AND in women. My husband and I married very young, and had our first child right away. We never wanted to just put our child in daycare, so we worked opposite shifts, opposite days, so our child would be raised by us both. We always agreed, when one of us had the opportunity to support the entire family, the other would stay home and take care of kids. Our second was 8 months old when I got a great promotion that set me on the career course I have today. So my husband stayed home. That was 1995, and it’s wonderful. He fills the traditional role of the homemaker, INCLUDING laundry, cleaning, cooking, kid chauffering, etc, and I commute and travel for work as a business professional. The hardest part for us was explaining it to HIS parents. My mother-in-law accused me of emasculating her son (he set her straight). He thinks it’s great - when the housework is all caught up and our (now) teenagers are all in school, he plays a lot of golf! And I’m happy and he’s happy and I think it’s made our marriage very, very strong.