No. I told my husband when we got married - I don’t ever plan on being divorced, but I have NO PROBLEM being a widow, if you get my drift.

Knowing what I do now, yes I would..once a snake, always a snake~~~heck, they’d do it in the mud if they could~ they do it because they can and because they are afraid of death..go figure, like we aren’t? somehow we manage to go through life finding out other ways to control our urges..well, on most days we do~~lol …now where is that Cadbury bar?…

Yup, first husband did and I did, divorce him. Husband now, faithful as a cocker spaniel, no worries. Oh, and I also said that there would be a death before I went through another divorce. Hmmm!

I think this is too complex of a question to be answered with a simple yes/no. By the time I found out my ex cheated it was a moot point. I divorced him for oh so many other reasons. I also think it is easy to say what you would do in a situation until you find yourself actually IN that situation. Walk a mile in my shoes and all that….

He did and I was devastated. I thought about divorce obviously, but over time he convinced me he was being selfish and stupid and wished he could do it all over again, and this tme get it right. He proved to me over and over again that he was sorry and that, most importantly I could trust that he would never do anything to betray me again. He passed away ten yeas later and I am so very grateful that I stayed with him. I would have never guessed I would respond this way - until it actually happens, we don’t really know what we will do - now do we?! I think it all boils down to how much you love the guy and whether or not he has been good to you - except for this transgression. Sometimes it is worth it to try again. For me - it was the right decision.

My decision would be less about him or me, and more about if we still had minor children living with us. If minor children were still in the picture, I would negotiate some sort of detente — and I wouldn’t want to have unprotected sex with him. If the kids are grown, I would leave him.

Once basic trust is violated, it’s difficult if not impossible to regain it. When he’s late for work, where is he actually? Who wants to spend the greater part of their lives worrying about this? Move on!

I was married for 28 years when I found out that my husband was having an online relationship with a high school classmate of his. At that point I wanted to save the marriage that we had. We had no children, however, we did have alot of history together. He was so embarrased about the situation, that he wouldn’t talk to me… We ended up in divorce court, however, I think that we could saved our marriage because of the amount of time we were together.

IT HAPPENED, WE BOTH HAD COUNSELING AND MOVED ON. EACH PERSONS RELATIONSHIP IS DIFFERENT. I CAN ONLY SPEAK FOR MYSELF. WE ARE STILL TOGETHER AND ITS 41 YRS.

As a Marriage Family Therapist who counsels on infidelity I suggest counseling before either party makes a quick decisive decision. No matter if you do end up in divorce issues need to be addressed, understood so that they won’t be repeated. Anger, Shame, Guilt, mistrust must be confronted and each individual must address their values, morals, faith and hope. The goal is to understand what led to the affair and not to repeat the pattern. Denial is the biggest sunglasses that people tend to wear…..Remove them and address the situation, then make a decision

I agree wholeheartdly that this is not and in no way can be a simple yes or no question. I know that there are marriages that can work and even be good despite infidelity-I believe if both parties are genuinely motivated to work on and repair the underlying issues, it is possible to heal. On the other hand, there are other times when it just isn’t possible. I am one for whom it would not be possible; I was habitually cheated on with my second husband, and because of that in addition to other serious issues, it could never work. With him, I used up all of ym “Forgive and work on it” coupons, so for me, infidelity is a deal-breaker. At the same time, I can understand and respect another woman’s decision to stay.

Hubby is forwarned. “I’ve left two and I’ll leave you too.” If a man values what I have to offer, he will honor our vows. I agree: once a dog, always a dog. If he does it once, he’ll do it again and again and again, as long as he can get away with it. Any man who would risk bringing home diseases is not one I want to have in my life.