I would never divorce him but would make his life so miserable, any amount of child support and alimoney would be welcome.

No one is acknowledging the other female in this scenario – she’s a woman too, and as someone who has been there, I can attest that she has often been taken advantage of just as much as the person in the sanctioned relationship – the wife. A person who cheats – especially a repeat offender (I later found out I was number seven!) is a user, a liar, and cannot ever truly love anyone but themself. So if he cheats once, well maybe you keep him – that depends on all of the things the other posters have already pointed out. BUT, if he cheats twice – RUN!

My mom lived with a cheating husband (my biological father) for years, miserable and under a dictator rule. I made a promise to myself that it would never happen to me. My husband is a good man and I’m confident that he would never stray, but he knows, as we had the conversation before we got married, that if he did it would be the end, no exceptions.

I think once a man cheats on a woman and gets away with it, he will always do it.

I am not married so have not comments on this issue; however, as a single professional women, I often meet men who do not wear wedding rings…and do not know they are married. This occurs at social functions as well as in the workplace. Have zero interest in married men.

Yes, I would and I did. I’m married to someone now who is sooooo faithful that it sometimes drives me crazy. But, believe me, I prefer it. I painfully recognized myself oh, so many years ago when I saw Silda Spitzer’s face. At the moment I’m making a little piece of art about husband No. I, No. II and me. It helps but how does one get over the anger?

very American

so I guess this is about “cheating” not about loving 2 men at the same time?

My sweetie was told from the very begiinning years ago - “Look ALL you want - touch and die”!So far, so good.

No. Divorce is not for me. I Love my husband and vowed for better or worse. The first time I could forgive him, the second time we’d work harder, the third time he’d live the rest of his life regreting it. Our marriage is more than just a roll in the hay.

Two Words: Justifiable Homicide!

My husband & i have been married for 25 great years. I am a very fortunate woman. i had to say ‘no’ on this question, just because i would hate to throw away 25 years as a knee-jerk reaction. I would have to evaluate the situation, take all things into consideration & go from there.

Is having an affair a statement against a spouse, or just an egotistical act of whimsy? If I felt that it was the first, divorce is then an option. If its just because he could, I would want him to address his issues. I think its odd that in this day and age we are still surprised that men follow their penis and not their heart.

LOL first I would call my good friend Lorena Bobbitt. Then I would get the divorce. Why would I want damaged goods.