None of the above; she’d make an appointment to get a renewal of her Valium prescription! ;)

Yes, and then think very carefully about what she wants, other than revenge. Go talk to a lawyer and get all the information she can. Then talk to him.

From what my divorced friends tell me revenge sex or otherwise is not a good thing. I think they need to talk, frankly and openly, then seek counselling and if all that fails find a really good attorney who deals in family law.

She must open the conversation. Revenge sex never works, it will make her feel worse about herself, even if the sex is good. Confiding in your children, never. Shaping up at the gym or spa, he should love her as she is. A romantic vacation, i dont think so, too much going on in their heads to have a good time.

She should not take it personally. It is about him, not her. She will see that whatever it is, whether it is a relationship (affair) or just sex with a prostitute, or a one night stand…she will want to know every minute detail…to own it in order to control it. But she cannot control it. If the erotic life is to be shared between them, it takes a great deal of courage to be honest in the face of it. But she doesn’t seem to be interested in the erotic life. So let him have his and if the desire ever hits her…have hers. Counseling with the right person/s can be helpful. But why does that initial infatuation shift…and why do men turn away from their aging wives for the most part? Is it to feel as though they are not aging? In Italy many women of a certain age put on black and disappear. In France women never surrender. They remain sensuous and stylish until the end.

Funny….the story pulls me in….but I get distracted by how well-written this is with its subtle humor (like when she is talking to the operator). This woman can do better than Bart! Let her get on with her life!! ( I’ve been there…..the pain is only temporary).

Definitely they need to talk, but she needs to protect herself. Talk with an attorney ( several top ones) and a counsellor. Calling or at least the fantasy of calling the old boy friend is a calming affect which is needed for now, but don’t DO anything about the old boyfriend or any other sex diversion for now. The aphrodisiac effect of the idea of someone else is working better than Valium but I agree with Kat the act would make her feel worse.