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I agree that a psychological test should be done as well as a test to see if there is a imbalance. There is something wrong with this woman. She’s not thinking of her children, she’s only thinking of herself. A MOTHER puts her children’s interest first and that didn’t happen in this case - with six children at home, there was no need to be impregnated to have more, especially when she doesn’t have a job and depends upon her parents and the good people of California to survive. Add to that her publicist, and I get suspicious. She needs medical attention, for her sake and her children’s sake.
She definitely needs psychological help. I don’t believe she’s insane and I believe she’s doing all this for publicity and to get rich quick. Unfortunately this young woman does not care about the adverse impact she is causing her parents since they have always taken care of her and all these kids financially and otherwise.
The hospital should not release these children into her care as she does not have a home equipped nor the help needed to take care of the kids. Hopefully a family member wills step in.
These children deserve better and this woman is all about SELF period.
How do you shop with 14 kids? Her priorities are totally screwed.
I thought the options for the survey were a little extreme. I don’t necessarily think she is insane, although that was my vote. I think she needs some evaluation for her uncommon sense like moves. There are so many children, that if one were missing, would she notice? How will the older children react to having to many babies that will require her attention for so long? I am disgusted that she is looking for ways to make money off of these children. She should be thinking about adopting these children out, just because they are octuplets doesn’t mean they have to grow up in the same household when that household is going to be so very dysfunctional. She has had offers of help, but this isn’t the same as a mother and father paying attention to their newborn children.
It’s time to stop following Nadya’s every move. I don’t think she is insane but she is definately immature and obsessive. By the way who is watching her six at home while she is out with her mother showing up on TV programs and internet sites? If she was truly motherly she would be spending all of her time with her six children at home and visiting the newborns in the hospital. They all need nurturing. It will be child abuse if they allow the babies home without a lot of socializing and counseling for the family.
We don’t seem to be concerned about the mental health of women who have a slew of different children by different men with none of the men remaining in the home. We exalt these women as "single moms." The tragedy is that single motherhood is the greatest predictor of poverty and subsequent social problems in the children like low academic achievement and drug use.
Those children are at risk because they do not have a father in their lives to provide guidance and financial support.
Amen! Great post Bella and oh so true. I said the same thing on another Nadya thread. "What about all these women having babies by several different men and giving themselves raises for each new kid via the welfare department"?
I don’t think that Ms. Suleman is insane, but I do think that she has some deep-seated phsychological disorders that allow her to disassociate from reality. She also seems really selfish, and her parents must be at the end of their ropes. I was absolutely outraged when I heard this story. I am a mother of one child, and struggle daily to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. After thinking about the Suleman situation, I do think that it is in the best interest of society to provide the resources to keep this family together, albeit with monitoring and strict guidelines for using monetary resources (no manicures, MAC cosmetics…). The foster care system is overtaxed and not at all a safe nurturing environment for most children, especially those with special needs, and as someone who herself was put up for adoption at birth, I can tell you that there are scars that do not heal. The cost of helping this family to survive together will be miniscule when compared to the cost of incarcerating (a) troubled youth offender(s), or footing the bill of cradle to grave support for the disturbed. Having said that, those in the media who chose to exploit the situation for the sake of ratings (Dr. Phil, Oprah) who have deep deep pockets might also consider the moral imperitive of helping the children by setting up trusts that Mama can’t touch for further in-vitro procedures and plastic surgery. Heaven help those kids.
I don’t know if she is insane. I know she can’t care for 14 children. I think the doctor who created this situation should not be allowed to practice, and should pay to support the babies he has produced.
No, she’s not insane, she’s unusual. Idealistic, carefree, eternally optimistic and clearly not responsible in terms of financial preparation for her large family. After watching an interview with her it became apparent that she is a right to lifer. She did not expect all of the embryos to become viable because that "never happens" (her words.) When they did, she refused to have any destroyed. She was adamant about not killing them. — Then, miracle of miracles, all of the feisty little embryos insisted on living to full term in her gifted womb.
No, she’s not prepared financially, and in her case it will — take a village. But she is not insane by a long shot. Just irresponsible and rebelling against her parental units. Does a person’s carelessness in financial matters make them insane? Especially when this irresponsibility impacts other’s lives? If so, Bernie Madoff will have a strong insanity defense.
I saw her photo and couldn’t help but think she looked a lot like Angelina Jolie. I didn’t see her interview, but I did hear her say, “All I wanted was children.” Well, she got her wish. Eight beautiful babies; several more than she thought she’d be having. A lot of folks are saying negative things about her, but the fact is, she has 14 children, and they have no say in the matter. Where’s the compassion? Where are the people who claim to be devout Christians? Why don’t they step forward and help her raise the children they protest to save? Why don’t all the churches, around her town, step in, to help raise God’s children. Remember that part about treating others as you’d like to be treated yourself? Now’s your chance! You could even have some fun with it; they are babies and babies are fabulous! I hear people say, “What would Jesus do?” I think he’d probably bring over some food, he’d have some fun with the children, and he’d make sure everyone felt good and loved. He’d never judge them, for throwing the first stone wasn’t his style.
I was tempted to say she was insane but I’m not fit to judge that. Making really stupid decisions is common. Having those decisions effect so many other people (not just her 14) is unforgivable behavior. Her ability to make future decisions about her life and her childrens’ is suspect and needs to be looked at.
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I agree that a psychological test should be done as well as a test to see if there is a imbalance. There is something wrong with this woman. She’s not thinking of her children, she’s only thinking of herself. A MOTHER puts her children’s interest first and that didn’t happen in this case - with six children at home, there was no need to be impregnated to have more, especially when she doesn’t have a job and depends upon her parents and the good people of California to survive. Add to that her publicist, and I get suspicious. She needs medical attention, for her sake and her children’s sake.
Oh, absoultely!!!! She needs a lot of help so she can get well and grow-up. The children needs her.
She definitely needs psychological help. I don’t believe she’s insane and I believe she’s doing all this for publicity and to get rich quick. Unfortunately this young woman does not care about the adverse impact she is causing her parents since they have always taken care of her and all these kids financially and otherwise.
The hospital should not release these children into her care as she does not have a home equipped nor the help needed to take care of the kids. Hopefully a family member wills step in.
These children deserve better and this woman is all about SELF period.
How do you shop with 14 kids? Her priorities are totally screwed.
We don’t seem to be concerned about the mental health of women who have a slew of different children by different men with none of the men remaining in the home. We exalt these women as "single moms." The tragedy is that single motherhood is the greatest predictor of poverty and subsequent social problems in the children like low academic achievement and drug use.
Those children are at risk because they do not have a father in their lives to provide guidance and financial support.
I don’t think that Ms. Suleman is insane, but I do think that she has some deep-seated phsychological disorders that allow her to disassociate from reality. She also seems really selfish, and her parents must be at the end of their ropes. I was absolutely outraged when I heard this story. I am a mother of one child, and struggle daily to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. After thinking about the Suleman situation, I do think that it is in the best interest of society to provide the resources to keep this family together, albeit with monitoring and strict guidelines for using monetary resources (no manicures, MAC cosmetics…). The foster care system is overtaxed and not at all a safe nurturing environment for most children, especially those with special needs, and as someone who herself was put up for adoption at birth, I can tell you that there are scars that do not heal. The cost of helping this family to survive together will be miniscule when compared to the cost of incarcerating (a) troubled youth offender(s), or footing the bill of cradle to grave support for the disturbed. Having said that, those in the media who chose to exploit the situation for the sake of ratings (Dr. Phil, Oprah) who have deep deep pockets might also consider the moral imperitive of helping the children by setting up trusts that Mama can’t touch for further in-vitro procedures and plastic surgery. Heaven help those kids.
-Humble Mother Of One
No, she’s not insane, she’s unusual. Idealistic, carefree, eternally optimistic and clearly not responsible in terms of financial preparation for her large family. After watching an interview with her it became apparent that she is a right to lifer. She did not expect all of the embryos to become viable because that "never happens" (her words.) When they did, she refused to have any destroyed. She was adamant about not killing them. — Then, miracle of miracles, all of the feisty little embryos insisted on living to full term in her gifted womb.
No, she’s not prepared financially, and in her case it will — take a village. But she is not insane by a long shot. Just irresponsible and rebelling against her parental units. Does a person’s carelessness in financial matters make them insane? Especially when this irresponsibility impacts other’s lives? If so, Bernie Madoff will have a strong insanity defense.