You straight people are really nuts. “Believing” or not “believing” in them isn’t the point. Why are you marrying people you don’t trust and who don’t trust you? If the issue came up for me, that would be the end of the relationship. Nanny Fine wouldn’t sign one, and neither would I.

I believe pre-nups depend upon the individual situation. Most couples don’t have an excess of wealth that needs to be dealt with before a marriage. On the other hand, if one or both members of the union are extremely wealthy, lots of liquid assets, homes, equities, etc., they need to probably have their lawyers(each need his/her own to protect individual interests). The way I would prefer it is to draw up wills, poa’s , living wills, that will reflect the desires of the individual. And, this is true, especially if there are minor children involved. As for older women like myself, frankly, unless I were to end up with a very wealthy man, I really do not see the sense of getting married at my age. I am very leery of co-mingling funds, my assets will go to my kids regardless, as a woman, I would have to go to all the name change trouble, medicare and social security, equitiy funds would all have to be changed, plus I own my house. God, it’s not worth the trouble. I’ll do like grandmother did 35 or 40 yrs. ago, and live in sin(much to the judgemental chagrin of her offspring).