It is a matter of luck. Perhaps the more people you meet the better a chance to find love. I have two friends who were divorcees who met great husbands on a match-making site. Both were teachers and ten years later both marriages are solid. Two more women friends met great partners at a “Parents without Partners meeting.”. One marriage was a great success. The other relationship ended up in a miserable situation but there were a lot of good years too. Internet dating may be suspect but if the whole world is watching it might just work. I had one husband who died after 40 years and was just the person I needed. I hope all these women just keep on meeting people and find the right mate. There is always romance and companionship somewhere for someone.

And once you get him, then what?

I wish her luck. My niece met her husband on Match.com.

Anything’s possible, I guess. I didn’t have any bad experiences with the people I met on-line. But nothing lasting, or even very promising. So I gave all that up years ago. I have a friend here…who I met at the grocery…that just delights me. We see each other now and then, nothing serious. But anybody as tenacious as Ms. Pickett just might hit pay dirt.

If she wants to meet someone then this is a ballsy step that differentiates her from the online crowd and gets her lots of free PR. I wouldn’t do it…but always admire anyone who proactively goes after what they want. To me, her idea deserves kudos, but the execution leaves a bit to be desired. Her intro video in the peach top/longer hair/make-up and nice background looks good. I think she could plan a bit more about scripts for her videos and speak a little softer, and look directly into the camera, be a little more lighthearted about it. She is stumbling around as if didn’t think about what she wanted to say until the camera switched on, and seems embarrased, and the way she is framing it…isn’t good ‘staging’ at all. It would be more effective if she simply and boldly stated: This is me, this is what I am looking for….smile! I don’t think it serves anything to dwell on the approach or mention the ‘Gayle King factor’ it makes her sound a little like a marked down car, rather than a luxury item. I’d think more in terms of product placement. “I’m the kind of lady that when I want something….I go after it and get it.’ [ie when Sharon Stone wanted a husband….she said she was going to go out and hunt him down. Simple. To the point. And didn’t make herself sound like off priced goods.] What kind of men interest her? She should put herself in the driver’s seat and think of qualities, not quantities. Then position herself to appeal to that kind of man. I’d like to know immediately about her career, education likes/dislikes/hobbies. And don’t like searching around for it…so didn’t do it. I would have a professional soft focus photo in a beautiful romantic setting; beach sunset, forest dell, romantic restaurant as the first thing that is seen to create interest. And then very obvious links on the right side in bullet points: ‘About’, ‘Interests” ‘Vision Statement’ “Gallery’ with a few photos of her in dif settings…skiing, with her dog, at work….Keep it short and sweet. She’s an attractive lady and I think that would attract a nicer class of man who notices/appreciates the details. The other vid with her hair short and a girlfriend, I stopped watching after 30 seconds as they fumbled around saying nothing interesting. Again, she needs to be more polished. And if she keeps putting these up….they are very ordinary and aren’t going to attract a super guy. Instead of that convo about nothing; it would be better to have her in the kitchen cooking a great meal with her friends, drinking wine, music and laughter in the background….ie things that make someone want to be there, and in that setting maybe talk about “Mr Man” in a fun way [with some preset direction/questions/glib responses, but looking casual as finishing up fixing dinner and see the lovely table set etc…says a lot more…is inviting] Who wants to listen to a boring conversation about nothing with her and a friend disagreeing about….I don’t know what as zoned out. As far as women over 40 not getting asked out, etc….that just isn’t true at all. What is true is that women don’t think of what kind of man they would want, what kind of woman her ‘target’ demographic would be attracted to, where they are, and also making their own life great first so they are attractive to the kind of man who would make a great husband. This lady has a great idea, she’s an attractive lady, and hope she gets what she wants. It’s cool that she’s going after it.

I AM A SINGLE MOTHER OF 2 ONE GROWN AGE 20, AND THE OTHER ONE IS 16DO YOUR THANG GIRL I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD ON YOUR JOURNEY.

This sort of reminds me of something I read in an Augsten Burroughs…think it was “Slippery When Wet” or something like that, about this woman who took out a full page 5000 word ad in a newspaper, she was that desperate. The funny thing was when Burroughs helped her go through the myriad responses (so it works?), the very first picture she dismissed because she “didn’t like redheads”. Well, later, after having gone through a whole bunch of blondes, she goes back to the first picture and…success! I would never do online dating like match.com but I think the website is more extended and personal. Perhaps. I need some help myself.

I feel like I am ancient when it comes to internet dating. I just don’t get it and I am too suspicious. I probably would not believe one word anyone says. Having said that the internet worked too well for my first daughter in law. She kept having a pen pal in Sweden. My son was very trusting. Pretty soon the Swede is at the door wanting to meet his wife. Fast forward to a a divorce and she is now happy in Sweden. Son had no idea this was all happening. He got over it very quickly. His idea was that if you have to keep a watch on your wife and her emails then the marriage is not worth fighting for. But the Internet worked for her.