Post | 04/04/2008 12:43 pm
Author Julie Morgenstern Asks: Is It Time to Get Organized … or to Shed?

EDITOR’S NOTE: Julie Morgenstern is the New York Times bestselling author of Organizing from the Inside Out and Never Check E-mail in the Morning.
As an organizing and time management consultant for nearly 20 years, I’ve been helping individuals and companies to improve their spaces, systems, schedules, working relationships and lives so that they can achieve their goals.
No matter where I go in the world, or who I’m working with, everyone feels overwhelmed: We live in a too much to do, not enough time, blackberry saddled, can’t turn off, can’t quite squeeze it all in world. That applies equally to the philanthropist in New York trying to change the world, to the Midwest professor balancing work and kids, to the author (Fannie Flagg) preparing for a move, to the entrepreneur in Stockholm trying to take control over her business.
One of the problems I run into all the time is that while people have a deep desire to make their lives better – they just don’t always know exactly what they need. When you feel overwhelmed, you want quick relief, and reach out for solutions — but it’s often the WRONG thing. One client came to me expecting me to tell her to eliminate half the things in her chaotic schedule, but all she really needed was a good planner to tame the chaos. Another constantly lost information in her files, and assumed she needed a whole new organizing system, but colored file folders were all she needed to make retrieval easier.
My biggest pet peeve is how the popular culture — and even many organizing professionals — constantly confuse organizing with getting rid of things. There are “organizing” makeovers on television aplenty these days, all of which promise to help you tame the chaos once and for all. Usually these programs offer stunning before and after shots and loads of cheery advice to accompany stern warnings about the dangers of living a disorganized life. They all have the same basic message: Toss this, trash that, downsize, simplify. Voila! Life is perfect.
I don’t think it’s quite that easy.
There are two big problems with this interpretation of organizing. First, the process is dumbed-down in pursuit of the 24-minute television miracle. Rooms, once buried beneath mountains of junk, are magically transformed into beautiful, clean, yoga-inspired spaces. Good television to be sure, but that’s not how it works. Second, and even more important, the premise that organizing and “throwing things away” are somehow one in the same, is wrong. This falsehood is doing a tremendous disservice to the professional organizing industry and its millions of clients.
Allow me to explain. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t actually need to throw anything away to get organized, because organizing is not about getting rid of things. Organizing is the process of identifying what’s important to you and giving yourself access to it. True organizing is about designing systems of storage and retrieval. People who need to get organized usually know where they want to go (e.g. start a business, win a promotion, save a marriage, be a better parent), they just need help overcoming the obstacles on the path to their destination.
But when you need or want to make a change in your life, and are unsure of your destination, (what is my next career? Do I stay in this house or move? Do I switch jobs or just go part-time, do I try to save this relationship or move on), you don’t need to get organized, you need to SHED. That is get rid of the obsolete in your space and schedule, so that you create the energy, insight and space to figure out what’s next. Think of it this way — organizing is dropping anchor once you know what you want, and de-cluttering is lifting anchor so you can find someplace new. De-cluttering is not organizing — it does not create a system. But, it can be a powerful catalyst to change.
So, what do you need right now … to get organized? Or to SHED?
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45 Reader Comments (so far…)
Julie, what do you know about any brain research and hoarding syndrome?
My friend, who is losing her house in 6 more weeks, feels completely overwhelmed as she needs to shed 80% of her things including furniture. But there is so much trauma associated with losing so much that she is having a hard time even starting the process. Where to start?
With her trusted friends helping her and not judging her. They have perspective on what is junk and what is good stuff that she doesn’t have, but a truckful of tact is required, of course. Talk with her and find out who she’d trust.
Bella Mia, my heart goes out to your friend. She is in a heartbreaking situation. The emotional factor will impact every decision. Hopefully she has a supportive family and many
friends who will help and show compassion while doing so. One room at a time - done with
sensitivity and common sense decisions. God bless your friend.
That’s the problem - she has no family within 250 miles, parents both died within 4 months of each other last year. Our church is willing to help her although she is not a member of it. Of course her ex has lots of doting family and friends.
Oh, %$#%!!!!!
Bella Mia, maybe some church member could store some of things for when she gets back on her feet and that would make it less traumatic. It’s like she’s in a major firestorm.
Hi Bella Mia,
I empathize with your friend; I truly feel for her. She needs to take a deep breath, exhale, cry and keep going. Moving forward is not focusing on the past. I know its painful and #%^^&up that this is happening to her; but, she has to do it. Just be there for her and start packing up and go. Her heart still beats, so life goes on. Love to your girl,
Kimberly Henderson - Director
www.extensionmart.com
Eureka! I organized our garage - just finished this week.
Being my husband’s domain, it was extremely cluttered. We
had plenty of storage, but nothing was in it - it was basically
on it (two workbenches) or piled beside it. With hubby’s
permission to “touch his stuff”, I took one section at a time.
I thought one side a day could be completed. I was wrong.
It took a lot longer than anticipated. After two trips to Goodwill and three trips to the curb, all was neat. I completed the project by putting an area rug down at the
entry leading into the house, placed a comfortable wicker chair and small table there and skirted my laundry tub.
Probably nobody else gives a whit, but every time I come in
that entrance, it cheers my heart. Viva organization! A great
feeling of accomplishment and time well spent.
Maintenance is part two, and you have to teach him that. Great news is, the latest brain studies indicate that this can be done. Old dogs can learn new tricks! Yippee Skippy!
You’re absolutely right about the maintenance part. I’m 81, he’s 83. If he hasn’t learned it yet, it may be hopeless, but
I’m hopelessly optimistic!!! If he doesn’t cooperate, I may
just resurrect Ann Landers’ wet noodle and get after him!
Julie, After design school I managed complex projects all over the US for Fortune 100 companies, universities, world HQs for law firms, etc. And as a volunteer also organized major fundraising balls and events. I was born with an extra organizing gene and derived tremendous satisfaction from organizing highly complex projects. Having worked with literally tens of thousands of people and way too much stuff over 20+ years I know that getting rid of things creates a vacuum to create and accomplish rather than be a caretaker to inanimate stuff. Things are the artifacts of our sou. We project our internal being into space, and there is a symbiotic relationship. If you change and declutter the outside you’ll do the same on the inside. A person doesn’t need a lot of systems if they don’t have a tons of unused stuff, which could be given away to people who need everything. What I’ve observed about disorganized folks (including by doing time and motion studies) is that they have entirely too much superfluous stuff. Often equating an accumulation of things with safety. And they rarely put things away immediately after use but instead have the habit of just dropping things down anywhere. Then by the end of the day, week, month or year they’ve created the daunting task of putting everything back that could have happened everyday just as they went along. Everything has energy, and everything unneeded is an energy drain. I say get rid of or give away unused or useless stuff…including junk TV, junk conversations, junk food, junk anything that doesn’t enchance life, but diminishes it, and life is refreshened, lightened up, set free. As one of my favorite expressions says: “Order is the sanity of the mind, the health of the body, the peace of the lily, the security of the state. As the beams of the house, as the bones to the body, so is order to all things.”
Suzanne-
I couldn’t agree with you more , and you say it so eloquently:
” Everything has energy, and everything unneeded is an energy drain. I say get rid of or give away unused or useless stuff…including junk TV, junk conversations, junk food, junk anything that doesn’t enchance life, but diminishes it, and life is refreshened, lightened up, set free.”
STILL, lightening up is not organizing, it’s just creating space in your life. Not necessarily order.
I’ve worked with clients who had few possessions but couldn’t find what they needed when they needed it….there was no reliable system for retrieval.
Suzanne
I too am a highly organized person, in fact, I would go as far as to say that sometimes I meet myself coming back! While married, I moved more times than one could shake a stick at which gave me the opportunity to declutter one way or another. Domestically, I’m a fuss pot and spend ages on detail. Past friends have questioned where I get my energy from and admittedly, considering how little they seem to get through, I wonder myself at times. We all function differently though so I’ve come to appreciate over the years that the only way I can cope with life is to be ultra organized whereas, my more laid back acquaintances enjoy theirs just the same - if not more so. All said, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’ve spent my entire life looking after others and now that I’m divorced, I NEED to create a career path for myself but what to do? How can I get into event organisation at the ripe young age of 53? Perhaps it’s just the narrowmindedness of citizens in the UK, but unless I have a degree to prove my abilities, no-body wants to know. I am employed at the moment with a multi-national company as a PA and although I do get the chance to organize team events, the biggies are left to the Facilities Management department. I’m desperate to earn a better living and purely looking at my best qualities. I keep reading about celebs who employ people for just about everything and I know that I could do an excellent job given half a chance. From one who knows…any tips either great or small?
Suzanne -
Although I’m not very familiar with employment norms in the UK, I sense things are a little less flexible in your country. So take what’s useful from what I suggest below about your career change to be and leave the rest. To avoid being overwhelmed by things to do, just choose one or two suggestions that suit you and your priorities to start. Of course, adapt anything you choose to your situation.
- Start networking in professional, social and neighborhood organizations where you’ll meet new people you’re likely to enjoy. Much of moving into a new area involves developing new relationships. If you tend to be introverted, seek situations where groups are small and welcoming or where you can easily have one on one conversations. When you meet a pleasant person who seems to appreciate your interests and capacities, follow up with an invitation for a meal or mutually interesting activity. Be alert to what you can do for others that match their interests, but avoid tiring yourself out with serving others.
- Consider the groups and memberships you have now for sources of connections. Perhaps use your time more effectively if they don’t serve your career goal by letting go of those activities and adding new, more relevant ones.
- Let people know of your interests and skills, not with a laundry list, but perhaps a short story of no more than a few minutes that’s engaging.
- Do volunteer projects related to event planning at work or on your own time. That will help with connections and provide experience for show and tell.
- Review all your transferable skills (e.g. communicating, organizing) to remind yourself and be ready to share with others how your capacities match what you want to do.
- Look for a certificate program or even one course related to event planning; you’ll test your knowledge and meet people, maybe just the teacher, with whom you can explore your ideas.
- Write up a short description of your dream, as specifically as possible. Then create a time line for yourself with regular, manageable, concrete actions. Reward yourself for any progress. Assume your transition could take at a minimum a few years unless luck comes along. But luck generally favors the prepared person.
- If you like to write, look for ways to get published on your subject with a short article or letter to the editor in local publications.
- Brainstorm with friends to hear others’ perspective and let them understand your goal.
- Put your concern about being 53 in storage, if you can. All you have is what’s ahead. You can’t reverse age but you can take care of yourself by honoring your goals, staying socially connected, presenting yourself well and continuing to learn. I’m in my third, fourth and fifth careers concurrently (they’re complementary and I want to make haste on things that are important to me) and am older than you.
I’m sending you hope and optimism, all to be strengthened by your own smart actions.
Ruth Schimel
www.ruthschimel.com