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Politics | 12/18/2008 10:25 am

'Self-Loathing' Spurred 'Sick' Shot Cop, Says Wife's Lawyers

By The Staff at wowOwow.com
Barbara Sheehan's lawyer said Raymond Sheehan wore this

Barbara Sheehan admits that she shot her retired New York City cop husband to death. On February 18, the mother of two confessed, she used two guns to fire 11 bullets into her husband’s back as he shaved. She described it as self-defense. The actual reasoning, however, remains a bit hazy.

According to Sheehan, her husband of 24 years, Raymond, was physically and emotionally abusive and she simply snapped. "It just got worse and worse as the years went by," Sheehan said to local 1010 WINS news.

Her lawyers, however, added a new twist to the tale yesterday when they called Raymond a "very sick man" who liked "she-males" and dressing in drag. And it was this so-called deviance that led him to abuse his wife.

"Here was a person engaged in self-loathing, remorse and an Irish sense of guilt," lawyer Michael Dowd told reporters, according to the New York Daily News. The latest "significant" evidence of Sheehan’s unusual sexual acitivities includes this "skimpy" lingerie set (picture above) he allegedly forced his wife to watch him wear," said Dowd.

According to the Daily News: "There’s no question that his violence preceded any of his out-of-the-mainstream sexual activities," said Dowd. "But these activities seem to have exacerbated to some degree what was going on. They seemed to increase and send him into a rage." Dowd also said that the address of a transvestite brothel near Albany was found in the GPS in his car.

From the outside, Raymond didn’t seem like a "sexual deviant" kind of guy. He served on the police force for 20 years and was a church volunteer. But after his death, an entirely different picture of Raymond came into focus — this one included stories from his two children, wife and wife’s laywer revealing years of violence. His wife told stories of past screaming matches, death threats and beatings so intense that, at least on one said account, Sheehan was hospitalized. His children speak of being scared of him. And apparently Sheehan was, too. Whether a jury will accept the "self-defense" and "deviant" arguments, however, remains to be seen. If found guilty of murder, Sheehan faces 25 years to life in prison.

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ChromeToe
From the outside, Raymond didn’t seem like a “sexual deviant” kind of guy. He served on the police force for 20 years and was a church volunteer” ironically… having worked in criminal justice for years…Had “I” written the above piece it would have read “from the outside, Raymond seemed EXACTLY LIKE a sexual deviant kind of guy. He served on the police force for 20 years and was a church volunteer”. apparently the person making the original conclusion does not know any actual police nor have they been paying much attention to how many sexual predators use church going as either a front or a place to prey on victims.
By ChromeToe on 12/18/2008 9:34 am
CHardy
Chrome…I hope I am not reading your comments correctly but are you saying that all cops are this way? I truly hope not…
By CHardy on 12/18/2008 3:31 pm
ChromeToe
oh no C - i’m not saying ALL cops are this way. I’m just saying that the fact he is a cop does not make him less suspect for being somehow deviant at all. and yes… in my mind it makes him a little more likely to be deviant than say the guy working at the bank or the factory. I have a long history with working with and knowing police. I used to say that if you lined 100 male officers up in a row 75 of them were cheating on their spouses or loved ones. not to menton the high profile cops like Drew Peterson. Or… less high profile like the cop in spokane washington who shot his wife in the head and claimed it was a stranger. or the cop in arizona that kidnapped and raped a 17 year old… or the state trooper that murdered and raped a woman he pulled over on a deserted stretch of highway. So no… while i’m not saying it’s all police.. like i said… it certainly doesn’t make him LESS likely to be sick. And as far as the church going goes.. I used to carry a specialized case load of sex offenders. more than one of them taught sunday school or were otherwise church involved. so again… it doesn’t make them LESS likely to be sick.
By ChromeToe on 12/18/2008 6:26 pm
BelindaJoy
Here we go again, men leading closeted and secret lives. A church goer who spoke and acted one way by day and another by night. A hipocrite by any definition. Funny, I wonder how many men I pass in the course of my business day, who under their Brooks Brothers suits, shirts and expensive ties, are sporting bras and silk panties?
By BelindaJoy on 12/18/2008 9:55 am
fp1
Ok—why did she stay with him all those years? The women that I know would have dumped his sorry ass long long ago. And 2 guns? Sorry, that strikes me as pre-meditated murder. A divorce lawyer would have been a much easier way to go, one would think.
By fp1 on 12/18/2008 10:56 am
SandbeeFB54
Unfortunately for too many women, when they try to leave that is when the man gets homicidal - If I can’t have you no one can. And being a member of the police force doesn’t seem to stop this type of behavior. She probably wasn’t totally rational by the time she killed him but I don’t think pre-meditated murder. Prison might sound good compared to what she’s been living.
By SandbeeFB54 on 12/18/2008 2:33 pm
GrandeCamper
I’m not surprised she stay with him all those years. Most victim of violence tend to stay with they partner or will go back to them. What I am surprised about is the guns. Most women especially mothers do not turn to such violence means of ending it all. And she shot at his back - not during a fight? I wonder if she was/is sick too.
By GrandeCamper on 12/18/2008 11:25 am
HABIBI
He’s sick, his behavior dictates that. She is also sick, she stayed.
By HABIBI on 12/18/2008 11:37 am
rockyrocky
Have some pity, folks. I’m not saying the woman is guilty or innocent or something else—that’s up to the law. It’s just that everyone always asks, why did she stay? From my own experience and understanding, “staying” likely has a lot to do with learned behavior. And it takes a very great deal to overcome it. Battering of anyone within the family—wife, husband, kids—affects a profoundly deep place in the psyche and is apt to permanently maim or destroy many if not all caught in the cycles of abuse. Some fight it and have the strength to break free, others merely break into pieces. Others survive by appeasing and becoming like the abuser. Others still by curling up and floating away forever. All terrible stuff.
By rockyrocky on 12/18/2008 1:33 pm
LadyGator
Gee two guns — 11 shots — I’ve always heard that when you’ve had enough and you are pushed to a wall of desperation and, in your mind this is the only way out, you’ll do anything! Personally, I think her sanity snapped. I’ve always believed that ANYONE who kills another person is, at that moment, either partially insane or one mean SOB! Something doesn’t smell right here.
By LadyGator on 12/18/2008 3:09 pm
CHardy
I have a friend who WAS in an abusive relationship and just recently got out when her “man” pulled a gun on her while she was nursing their 2 month old son…In the past when he beat her she left but he always came after her with the right words and blah blah blah so she always went back…He was never mean to their 2 boys until he held a gun to her head while she was nursing their son…that was it for her. She knew killing him was not an option so she did the right thing…the rest of the weekend she acted as if things were “normal” and then Monday she dropped him off at work, went to the police station, had charges filed against him, got a protective order for her and the 2 boys, and has not seen him since, other than in court. He is trying to get visitation of the boys but they are covered under ther Protective Order so good luck there… Not all women are as strong as other women and some can take more than others can and I am on the fence b/c there are too many women who are in hiding b/c they can’t get away from their husbands without him killing her…so its either stay, kill him or be killed trying to leave. Maybe there could be better laws to protect these women? There are way too many skeltons in so many people’s closests that I too often wonder, what is this person (man or woman) really like, other than what we see on the surface…I am sure others feel the same about me.
By CHardy on 12/18/2008 3:37 pm