Good for Candice! Unfortunately, those of us who are just common working drones don’t have the opportunities to meet other people as celebrities like Candice do. Alas. My problem is, every time I see a man my age, he looks like he should be my GRANDFATHER! Heterosexual men just don’t seem to give a damn what they look like! They seem to think that, even with pot bellies, no hair on their heads, and ugly faces, they’re to be treasured by women, just because they’re MEN! Well, I am sorry, but I do like good-looking males. And, unfortunately, that usually means younger men. However, that hasn’t worked out: My first husband was 11 years younger than I and dumped me for the big-breasted neighbor (older than he, but younger than I); my second husband was 17 years younger than I and dumped me for an unattractive woman of his age who was wealthy (I’m NOT!). At 60, I doubt if I will be dating any time soon. The goons on the internet dating sites give me the shivers. Ugh!!!! Yeah, yeah, I’m chubby and not any perfect specimen, either, but at least I stay groomed and my face is still reasonably pretty. Not so for the geeks out there in my age group (and I’m 60). I cannot see myself settling down with a really ugly guy, so I’m stuck! Lots of women don’t MIND ugly; I do. A lot. So that’s my predicament. I have never met a guy who was age-appropriate, available, and just NICE looking (not gorgeous) who also had all the other characteristics I like (being well-educated, well-traveled, funny, bright, accomplished, and moral). They’re just not out there.

At age 63 - and getting out of a depressing marriage (which my kids thought would provide me with old-age security - NOT) I was done with the male species! Moved to a new state and started a new life! And of course since I was DONE with men - I managed to meet the love of my life (online no less) who is 20 yrs younger. He constantly makes me laugh, loves me no matter what size I currently am and promises to take care of me the rest of my life no matter what. Who could ask for anything more??!! Oh yes, I’m still currently very capable of taking care of myself!

P.S.- we’ve been at it for over 6 years!

I am glad you were able to find someone. What I am struggling with is the how do you get to the place when you are ready to try again. Perhaps you can address this when you write your next post.

To Candice..I loved your book, "Knock Wood"..I actually own a copy of your Dad’d book, "How to be a ventriloquist"…You gave the gift of  hopeful sex to all the women over 40 on your Murphy Brown show. Your sense of humour has a slight wink to it, just like your Dad!

what a lovely story!

oh, Lord…….so many of us has done it. gone through it, and think we will never make it. but, remember the saying, "This too will pass"  and it does…mine was 23 years, and i was not alive, and didn’t want to live the rest of my life like that…..yet he thought our marriage was perfect…i went on to marry again for 14 years……..nope, not right for me……and then 8 more years, and i left him for my high school sweetheart…..yes, 50 years of not seeing some one and we both divorced to be together…….the worst time of my life. we had both gone indifferent directions, and knew nothing about each other……so, here i am again,,,,yes, we can, and we will make it !!! some way, some how…

 

I just registered today and not really sure how this site works but it seems the women involved here are mature women with alot of wisdom. I would like to ask a question which I don’t believe is talked about enough, the change of life. I am 53 yrs old and well going through it, never knew it would be so hard especially emotionally. I feel like alien’s took over my body and will I ever be the old me again. Any advice from anyone would be greatly appreciated. Your all such wonderful women!!!!! Please take care Anne Marie Lewandowski