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Reader Forum | 12/23/2008 7:40 am

The Daily Deed

Small deeds become large actions. Maybe it’s not enough to just give to your favorite charity. Introducing the wOw community forum for helping others in economic distress
By The Staff at wowOwow.com
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Times are tough, and they’re going to get tougher.

A year ago few people saw this coming, but from the beginning, we were determined that an important part of wowOwow would be helping others.

The time has come. We women have more optimism and energy at times like these; for some reason, we are less afraid than men.

That’s why we are starting The Daily Deed — a forum where the wOw community can share their own random acts of kindness and giving and personal activism so that others may find inspiration to do the same.

Small deeds become large actions. Maybe it’s not enough to give to your favorite charity. Maybe it’s time to look at your friends, your neighbors, your neighborhood, your city, your district, your state — and see what you could do to help. 

Is it serving at a soup kitchen, or cooking extra food for someone who might be out of a job?

Is it offering to watch children when home help is no longer an option for a working mother? 

Is it organizing a swap meet?

Is it trading books and DVDs, or is it starting a local radio show to share advice and opinions?

The world has never needed you so much. If we all think from our heads and give from our hearts, we can come up with solutions to reverse the consequences of the downward economic spiral.

Please answer these two questions, and send us your ideas. We’re mobilizing the forces of wOw for change.

1: What is most distressing to you in what’s happening today?

2: What are you doing — what could you do — to change it?

125 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

Ann Coulter Crazy, Souless, Evil B*tch
Frannie Em…..I agree that rather just do it and not say anything for many reasons including it’s fun for all of us to give or be the recipient of a surprise, a found thing….the magic inherent in that as you said. Plus the nuns taught us that if you were thanked here on Earth…then that is your reward and it won’t be add to your Heaven Karma list. They also said something that had a huge impact on me and has stayed with me my entire life, ‘If you have two watches give one away.” I think that is why I’ve never ben a horder in life….I’ve always given things away when asked because a nun I respected said this was the way to be, plus I’ve always witnessed my grandmother’s, aunt’s and mother’s natural generosity. I don’t think the size of what a person does….just that they do it….it helps all the way around. Love your dog avatar….what a cutie.
Frannie Em
Thanks Carmel Yes, I watched my mother give and never care whether someone thanked her or not. I love the Nun’s if you have two watches give one away, as you, that has been my motto. Had to put my dog to rest the other day, so my avatar is a tribute to her. She was a real smart sweetie.
By Frannie Em on 01/02/2009 1:48 pm
Catherine Kaiman
Let’s not forget all the displaced pets that now fill shelters across North America, because their owners can no longer care for them. These lost souls who loved their people unconditionally, now sitting in kennels, hoping their last minutes will bring someone along that will give them a chance at life. Perhaps some can open their home to foster a pet, or make a donation to your local shelter to help feed the influx of animals. If you have time perhaps you can go volunteer to walk a couple dogs a day so they have reprieve from their tight quarters. Sponsor a pet, to give them more precious time to find a new forever home. Please don’t forget our four legged friends, they too are sufferring from this economic crisis.
By Catherine Kaiman on 12/31/2008 8:27 pm
Ann Coulter Crazy, Souless, Evil B*tch
Catherine….Over 12 million displaced pets. Tee Zee and others have reminded me when I get a new dog and cat this year to get rescue pets. I had looked up breeders and changed my mind after their suggestions.
Catherine Kaiman
Carmel, I am so happy to hear that you have decided to adopt rescues, instead of turning to a breeder. It is a very rewarding experience to adopt a rescue, and trust me your new dog and cat will be eternally grateful for their second chance at life.
By Catherine Kaiman on 01/02/2009 4:14 am
judy smith
Mugsy I think it is usual to think of what you did as a “bandaid” but if each of us did a similar thing, that becomes much more. I am part of the palliative care team at our local hospital and we got an alert that a very sick father of 7 was going to have no way to provide a Christmas for them. Each of us did a little bit over a day or 2 and we helped him have that holiday. It took each of us a little time, but meant so much. We have never met them. Our nephew is in Afghanistan and I sent him some granola bars made by the local farmer and his wife. He and his buddies loved them, so I have sent more. The farmer refuses to let me pay because he says that our nephew is paying him with his service. A group of knitters heard about how cold it is in places like this and are now knitting special mittens with open fingers for these servicemen and women for free. Bandaids, perhaps but SO much more. Think of what 1 good deed does for so many. Happy New Year. Peace and good health.
By judy smith on 01/01/2009 6:22 am
Naomie Westfall
This is my way of helping out when and where I can, I live in a rural small town and we all know the neighbors fairly well here. The first of December as I was taking some presents to a neighbor with 5 kids I noticed that they had recieved shut off notices with their housing bills ie: lights and water, so I stold their mail, I then took the bills to the businesses and paid the bills in full with the “secret” I did not want them to know that I had done it so that they would not feel beholden to me. A few days later my neighbor posted thank you notes on all of the doors on our block. I have again went and paid their bills in full and will continue to for 6 more months. If at that time they still need some help I will see what I can do but I have been taking out of my savings to pay for them and I am not sure if I will be able to after that time.
By Naomie Westfall on 01/01/2009 8:25 pm
Lee Harrison
You are a good soul Naomie…an inspiration to the rest of us. Thank you.
By Lee Harrison on 01/07/2009 4:54 pm
Ann Coulter Crazy, Souless, Evil B*tch
In the past I’ve done many things directly and indirectly to be a contributing member of my communities. And starting right now I need to manage my time, work a lot more, and also I want to contribute in a planned way to make the best use of resources, and in line with larger ‘legacy’ goals. 1) What is most distressing to you in what’s happening today? Homelessness and basic want distresses me greatly because it is a nearly impossible position to recover from and it squanders lives. Families have gone from middle-class homes to tent cities because of lost jobs and foreclosed homes, and because the system was gamed by the same banks that rec’d hundreds of billions in bailouts for which there is no accountabilty. Katrina recovery is still a national disgrace. Catholic Charities and similiar organizations are tapped dry by a need so vast it feels staggering. We need systemic changes and bold plans…which I believe are coming Jan 20th…something akin to WPA/Marshall Plan with that sense of urgency and also effectiveness, because I believe we have a crisis as much of imagination/leadership and distribution as we do of resources: i.e., with people desparate for homes, jobs and college scholarships, 1/3 of our landfills are filled with recyclable construction ‘debris’ [one person’s trash etc.] and there are empty surplus military bases, empty warehouses, millions of empty bank owned homes. We need programs like a national corps that can do quick/basic renovations to surplus properties to get people housed, and at the same time provide volunteers with college scholarships in exchange for their service time. With money tight we can barter even on a national level. There’s so much at stake. Here is a homeless child’s testimony to Congress: My name is David Bright. I am ten years old. I am homeless. I am often hungry. Right now I live in the Martinique Hotel. The Martinique is a mad house. The hallways are dangerous. Many things could happen to you while you’re in the hallways. Like you could be raped or shot. The roaches and rats are a big problem too. But being raped is worse. There are people who rape little boys in the hallways. I am offten hungry because I don’t get enough to eat. Homeless kids are taken to schools far way. When the bus comes late I can’t even get breakfast at school. When I arrive the bell rings, then breakfast just stops. I can’t think in school when I’m hungry. My mind just stops thinking and this can’t go on forever. That’s because I want to learn. I want to get a good education. Learning is fun for me. There are too many little kids in the hotel who never go to school. There just is not enough room in the schools for them. Just like there’s not enough homes for poor children and not enough food. When I grow up I will the President of the United States. When I am the President every American will have a home. Every American will have something to eat every day. Everyone in America will have a little money in his pocket. When I am President no ten year old boy like me will have to put his head down on the desk at school because it hurts to be hungy.” -David Bright 2) What are you doing — what could you do — to change it? What I have done thus far includes working very hard in the past three presidential elections, including as precinct captain, etc., to get a Democrat in the White House. 50%+ of my last 8 years ‘donated’ to this effort. And I have given directly and indirectly to the homeless including literally giving beyond everything extra away; rolling large pieces of luggage, clothes/shoes/coats, money, inspirational books, food, furniture/bedding, etc. My entire drive to get a grant to UCLA writing program, finish it in 1/2 the time and with a completed book that is professionally edited, etc. was to create a vehicle to fund high-impact homeless programs including animal rescue. I devoted 100 hrs a week to this project untill I shattered my foot and then my brother died, and I let my project become derailed. So now it’s the New Year, I’ve relocated to a spiritually renewing place, am very energized with our new president and I have an even greater sense of purpose to ramp back up on my project, make it something sustainable and unique and in my brother’s honor.
Christine Cline
Dear Carmel, You are the kind of peorson I am dying to work with. Being a citizen of Third World America I am sick and tired of hearing what a great country this is while my granddaughter and I go huyngry everyday. I too did volunteer work in an effort to help Obama get elected. We the poor are the foundation of this country. We are the ones that literally did the leg work to build this country from the forest up. Having helped build habitat houses, I know that a house is only as strong as its foundation. America’s foundation is crumbling. Obama understands that it needs to be rebuilt from the foundation up. Too many presidents have wasted time, resources and people’s lives trying to build from the middle up. I am trying to push for changes in the Welfare system. First and formost I want the rules changed so that our children are allowed to have a future. The rules as they are now force the cycle of poverty to continue. Our children are allowed to work; but, they are not allowed to save that money. No savings for college, an apartment. a car, etc. The ‘family’ is not allowed to have one cent over $2,000 in resources. The family car is counted as a resource. Even nice furniture or appliances can be considered a resource. Because of this a Welfare child’s graduation present is instant homelessness. This is necessary because their ‘share’ of the Welfare check is instantly cut off. But if the stay home and work a job then all of their income is then counted against the rest of the family’s Welfare. So the way the system is set up our children can either just disappear in homelessness while we wish the best for them. They can resort to crime or they can join the military. The girls have one more choice. They can time a pregnancy to coincide with their graduation so that they can cycle right back onto Welfare. Most people do not understand that college is not on the option list. While scholorships and loans may be possible, they do not include enough money to cover dorms or other housing arrangements. They also do not include food and personal care costs either. No college has enough on campus jobs for all the just leaving Welfare kids. And remember they do not have cars to work elsewhere. So the standard scholorship statement does not hold true. This is the real reason why so few Welfare children make it to college. Not because they are dumb. I watched my own children give up in their last years of high school when they realized that unavoidable homelessness would be their graduation presents. My children were above very average intelligence and extremely talented. America is lossing out on a whole work force and leadership of some very awesome young people. Working from the obscurity of Welfare though I have been unable to make any headway. I want us to be able to help ourselves. If we could be allowed that then it would mean less help from others would be needed. Also others could be much more effective in the kinds of helps they could provide. I do not know where you live but maybe we could exchange ideas and brainstorm together. You are are definately in a better position to get others to listen to you and make a difference. Ironic ; but, most people will only listen to the ‘experts’. Yet, most experts have had zero personal experience with the given situations. I will gladly remain in the shadows as long as changes can be acheived.
By Christine Cline on 01/03/2009 10:39 am
Ann Coulter Crazy, Souless, Evil B*tch
Christine, That is really sad…..didn’t know that… a real bind. Here is a list of arts funding/grants: http://www.cranbrookart.edu/library/research/grants.htm And more: http://www.antiquesatoz.com/artatoz/grant.htm Springboard for the arts to help artists make money: http://www.springboardforthearts.org/ You might try to contact this organization, though this is for currently working artists, they may know of further resources, and an email wouldn’t hurt: http://www.unitedstatesartists.org/Public2/Home/index.cfm More grants, and other kinds of assistance: http://www.artdeadlineslist.com/ GAP grants: http://www.artisttrust.org/grants/GAP Grant writing tips: http://www.artistsfoundation.org/art_pages/resources/resources_arts_gran… Federal grants for artists: [I don’t know how legitimate this is but maybe something here} http://www.federalgrantswire.com/artist-federal-grants.html Also, you might email your Senator’s office….often they have constituent services that provide assistance in finding help. I’d suggest putting any request in brief affirmative terms. I worked in______for ____years, specializing in____and was injured in_____ and unable to work. Since that time I’ve done________to rehabilitate myself and am eager to get back into the workforce as a_________. I have certain limitations but feel I can adapt these with some help in ____________. Would you please suggest __________________. ——————- Since I do not know where you live, or anything at all about the welfare to work area, I would suggest that you read through the College of Health and Human Services site at SFSU http://chhsweb.sfsu.edu/ And then contact the person who seems to have the most relevance to your situation, and ask them for suggestions of what you can do as this is their specialization, and they may have a contact suggestion local to you. Here’s something I found that describes just the kind of barriers you articulate, so they know they have a problem and there is some discussion about program work arounds: http://www.mdrc.org/publications/52/summary.html Here are some corporate initiatives: http://books.google.com/books?hl=en&id=S8iYm4bp9GIC&dq=from+welfare+to+w… http://aspe.hhs.gov/hsp/NEWWS/ Here’s California’s welfare to work site and some of the support availble…even if that isn’t your state maybe there is some ideas here for you: http://www.dss.cahwnet.gov/CDSSWEB/PG141.htm Here’s info re using HUDs program to help transition: http://www.huduser.org/publications/pubasst/transition.html Here is a Brookings Institure Report from today related to your very topic and with a list of experts….maybe something is here that could help: http://www.brookings.edu/papers/2002/01welfare_moffitt.aspx Have you contacted the Dept of Rehab in your state with a proposal. You mentioned your art that possibly you could sell online at a site like etsy.com if you had some funds to get a home business going, they might help with that. “I do not know where you live” I live in Carmel, California. ” but maybe we could exchange ideas and brainstorm together.” Christine, I can help research grants in your state for you if you’ll tell me where you live, but that is really all I have time for, and interest and knowledge in…..So if you’d like help there, I can devote some time to this. “You are are definately in a better position to get others to listen to you and make a difference. Ironic ; but, most people will only listen to the ‘experts’.” I’m not an expert, but as an advocate to contact grant makers initially for you….in that I may be some help. Let me know where you live, and what kind of grant you might possibly qualify for, ie, what is your art, are you trained in it, what work did you do before, etc…..please send me this info through my site if you’d like me to help find some grants/agencies that can help: http://web.mac.com/myfrenchheart Here’s California’s Art Agency and info and links for various grants…perhaps to ones that if you follow will find something in your state/area of work: http://www.artsed411.org/educate/grants.aspx The other suggestion is micro-grants to start an at home business; For instance Avon offers micro-funding to women: http://shop.avon.com/HelloTomorrowFund/ Women’s Funding Network: http://www.wfnet.org/the-network/groups/women-and-poverty Kitchen table Entrepreneurs: http://shopping.msn.com/reviews/kitchen-table-entrepreneurs-how-eleven-w… {Maybe see if can order this at your library.] Scroll down, grants for women: http://www.homebiztools.com/women-business-grants.htm Here’s the SBA site which can help you figure out to put together a simple business plan, http://www.sba.gov/services/financialassistance/index.html Amber Grants…Directory of Resources, some by state: http://www.womensnet.net/Amber-Grants/ Microfund for Women: http://www.microfund.org.jo/news/detail.php?id=2&lan=en http://kiva.org/app.php?gclid=COyK_bG09JcCFRxNagodd0_IDQ
Ms. Dee
You truly are a miracle.
By Ms. Dee on 01/04/2009 9:29 pm
Linda Myers
I have collected three trash bags of winter coats, hats, etc. for the local Catholic Charities, and today is delivery day. They are a great org., no questions asked when people come through the door for religous purpose,. just willing to lend a hand. There is not always the money I would like to hand to them, but I find other ways to help them and the commnunity where I llive. Blessings, Linda
By Linda Myers on 01/06/2009 10:30 am
Deborah Barrow
Community Note:  We’ve pulled Linda’s great idea forward into its own article, which you can see here.  Thanks, everyone, keep ‘em coming, the world needs us now more than ever…
By Deborah Barrow on 01/07/2009 5:47 am
Mugsy Peabody
As many of you already know, there was a young woman, Jane Doe, a 28-year-old Lesbian who was gang-raped in the Bay Area about a month ago. Although the perpetrators have been caught and charged as well with a felony hate crime, largely due to a huge outpouring of insistence on the party of the East Bay community, this young woman is in need of moving expenses, since she’s too traumatized to return to her neighborhood. So if you could send along a check of any size, that would be great. Jane Doe Trust Fund c/o Community Violence Solutions Attention: Ms. Jo Ann Douglas Community Violence Solutions 2101 Van Ness Avenue San Pablo, CA 94806
By Mugsy Peabody on 01/06/2009 2:56 pm