Entertainment | 02/06/2009 11:45 am

Ellen DeGeneres on Portia de Rossi: 'I Never Thought I'd Have a Wedding'

By The Staff at wowOwow.com

Ladies' Home Journal

Talk-show host Ellen DeGeneres revealed her serious side when she opened up about her marriage with Portia de Rossi in this month’s Ladies’ Home Journal. The 51-year-old talked about the emotional day they exchanged vows, her view on beauty and more.

"It’s just very emotional. You find the person you love, you think you’ve come this far … and anyway, I never thought I’d have a wedding, and I did, and it meant more than I imagined," the tearful 51-year-old told the magazine.

It must be hard for the comedienne to talk about her union with de Rossi. Proposition 8 in California — which overturned gay marriage there — calls into question the legality of her marriage. DeGeneres married de Rossi on August 16, 2008 — two months after the California Supreme Court ruled that a ban on gay marriage counts as unconstitutional. Prop 8 was passed in November. DeGeneres was one of the many public figures who publicly spoke against the passing of Prop 8, which you can watch by clicking here.

On a lighter topic, what does the bright-eyed, hilarious star think about beauty?

To me it’s sad to be defined by beauty, because it’s something that goes away and changes. If you’re trying to chase that forever, you’re in trouble … As I’ve aged and matured, I just feel better about myself, more confident and more comfortable in my own skin. As that’s happened, I think I look better than I’ve ever looked, because that’s just what happens when you feel better about yourself.

The full interview appears in the March 2009 issue of Ladies’ Home Journal, on newsstands now. Excerpts from the interview are also available at Examiner.com and PerezHilton .com.

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I wish Ellen and Portia the best, but something tells me this isn’t going to be the union and relationship she says she has been waiting for. And I really do mean it….I hope I’m wrong about my assumption. I believe however you are born gay or straight. There is no such thing as waking up one day and deciding you are gay (or straight conversely). And in my mind one’s sexually is far more complex than simply “how” and “who” you choose to have sex with. So when people who are heterosexual decide they’re going to “dabble” in a gay relationship, I think they are short-serving their partner. I’ve been down this road; I was in love with a man that is clearly gay, but in denial. So in reality I could never have his love 100%. I could never have him in all the ways I wanted him because he wasn’t being true to himself…or me. I would have thought she would have learned her lesson in this regard after her relationship with Anne Heche. But when I heard she was dating Portia I said, she must be a glutton for punishment. Let’s all hope that Portia doesn’t believe as I do and now (and for the rest of her life) considers herself “gay” and committed only to Ellen. Trust me I know that how I believe and think about many issues is not the norm in America. :-)

By Belinda Joy on 02/06/2009 2:00 pm

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I’m confused. I thought Portia was gay. What do you mean by “Let’s all hope that Portia doesn’t believe as I do and now (and for the rest of her life) considers herself “gay” and committed only to Ellen.”?

By Grande Camper on 02/06/2009 3:19 pm

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Portia is just like Anne Heche, two women who have been in committed relationships with men ( and in the case of Anne, I believe she is now married with child(ren) - yet they are women who have settled into a life with a (now) openly Gay woman.

By Belinda Joy on 02/06/2009 4:43 pm

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Thanks didn’t know that. I hope the best for DeGeneres.

By Grande Camper on 02/06/2009 5:12 pm

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A person can be bisexual. There is no reason to think that a bisexual woman in a committed relationship with a woman is more likely to break up with her significant other because she had a prior relationship with a man than if she’d had a prior relationship with another woman.

By R.J.B. Reed on 02/09/2009 7:12 pm

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If you are a person that believes a person can be bisexual, then yes, your assessment of a woman being with another woman is correct. You and I differ on this subject. But as I said and truly meant, I hope they are together now and forever. They look as if they truly love one another and that is all that matters.

By Belinda Joy on 02/09/2009 7:48 pm

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I am bisexual. It’s not a matter of belief, it’s a matter of knowledge. A person who is bisexual is one whom finds people of either gender sexually attractive. Generally a person who is bisexual has a preference, and most of the time they are serially monogamous like heterosexuals. Human sexuality is complicated and many studies have shown that dividing the population into people who are homosexual and people who are heterosexual does not accurately describe human nature.

By R.J.B. Reed on 02/09/2009 8:59 pm

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I couldn’t agree with you more, human sexuality is indeed VERY complicated. Do I believe that a woman can be sexually attracted to men and women? Yes. Do I believe that a woman can view life through a bisexual prism? No. I’m uncomfortable RJB even discussing this because I feel as if I am judging you because you identify yourself as bisexual. I don’t want to come across as a jerk lecturing you that you are not what you say you are. I think it may boil down to semantics. We may agree on some level but parse our words and terminology differently….. I don’t know. However the bottom line when it comes to sexuality is that as long as people are being true to themselves AND their partner(s) is what is important. I personally believe that homosexuality, just as heterosexually, involves far more than who you choose to have sex with. It is in the way you look at life, what you see in your mind when you think marriage, couples, movies, books, magazines, billboards. Unless you are viewing clearly defined gay or lesbian examples, the norm in the world (not just America) is heterosexuality. It is the benchmark and how the world’s majority are displayed. I believe a man who is truly sexually aroused and attracted to other men; a man who would be content building a full and rich life with another man, would not be fulfilled leaving that relationship and going on to be with a woman. She could not and will not satisfy his sexual, physical and emotional needs in the manner which would be his preference. He could have sex, could love and feel emotions for her, but it could never be what he had with another man. The same could be said for a women in that situation that leaves a lesbian relationship to be with a man. And yet these examples could define themselves as bisexual, but are they? Are they men and women that chose to have sex and be in relationships with those of their same sex and then opposite sexes, intrinsically and in their DNA….what is their true sexuality? I would argue that they are gay but chose to seek sex and relationships outside their norm and actual desires. They aren’t straight because a straight person could not and would not be sexually attracted to their same sex. I have female friends who insist they are bisexual and could be content in a relationship with a man. Yet when pressed there are countless caveats they put in place before they would even consider it. In each instance their attention and desires always seem to gravitate back to other women.

By Belinda Joy on 02/09/2009 9:49 pm

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Sexuality is not about who you choose to have sex with. Sexuality describes whom you find attractive. What you choose to do about it is a different story. Either way, if a straight woman visualizes men when she thinks of couplehood and a lesbian visualizes women, why couldn’t someone visualize either? When you think about men, do you always picture the same exact guy? If someone fantasizes about a blond one day, and a brunette the next, are they simply ignoring their true sexuality? In short, I disagree that a person can not view the world through a bisexual prism. I have had crushes on guys. I have had crushes on girls. I’ve dated guys and I’ve dated girls. There is nothing inherent in one gender that the other gender does not also have that would leave a hole in my sexual, physical or emotional needs. People are simply people. Let’s say a man is content building a full and rich life with a particular woman. Does this mean he can’t build such a life with another woman if something were to happen? And if this is the case, why wouldn’t he be able to build a full and content life with another man, assuming he also is attracted to men. The attitude that you display is something that those of us who are bi have to deal with quite often. Do we ignore part of who we are? Do we say something, and have someone say, “You’re not really bi, you’re straight/gay.” We are more than just simply “not straight”. We are not simply pretending, we’re not confused and it’s not simply a phase. Do some people claim to be bisexual when they are in actuality homosexual or heterosexual? Sure. Just as some homosexual people claim to be heterosexual. Does that invalidate the sexual orientation? No. A person who is bisexual does not have to be equally attracted to men and women to be bisexual. So, your friends who say they are bisexual who prefer women aren’t necessarily lying to themselves. They may simply find women, in general, more attractive then men. Also, there is often a disconnect between what one finds attractive and what makes a person relationship material.

By R.J.B. Reed on 02/09/2009 10:52 pm

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Why would you go with a guy that is gay? Thats stupid. Who knows how many roads he’s been down. Gross. Why go after Ellen because you had a failed attempt at I’m sure many failed relationships? Of course men and women can become gay after they’re born. That preacher who was gay said he was molested, then became attracted to guys. Like you his wife tried to turn him. All gays are confused. Now you are.

By alex harvey on 02/06/2009 5:55 pm

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All gays are confused. By alex harvey on 02/06/2009 6:55 pm No actually “Gays” aren’t confused, they know exactly who and what they are. Some merely struggle with showing the world who they really are. And for the record Alex, a little boy who is molested does not become gay from that horrible incident. If we were to follow your line of logic, every man and woman that was molested as a child by the same sex is now to be considered gay, and surely YOU personally know that is not true.

By Belinda Joy on 02/06/2009 6:20 pm

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I’m sorry…. I’m just saying that because you admitted you were gay as a teen because you were molested by a male friend of your father and that you struggled with homosexuality as a young boy. And something about to this day you troll the gay bars chasing that sensation you received so many years ago….. So I would assume you are personally acquainted with the struggles of the gay and lesbian community. Good luck in your attempt to come to grips with who you really are.

By Belinda Joy on 02/06/2009 6:23 pm

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Ah. Now I better understand some of Alex’s posts.

By Marina B. on 02/06/2009 7:44 pm

Keep the attacks to yourself. I personally know you dated a gay guy, thats all I need with you. I did not say all people molested become gay, I said this precher I saw was molested as a child, and became gay. He was on Larry King. It seems alot of non gay people on this blog know quite a bit about the gay life. Was the gay guy you went out with confused? It seems he was.

By alex harvey on 02/07/2009 4:54 pm

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Attacks? How am I attacking you Alex? I was merely mentioning the fact that you are a man that is struggling with your sexual identity. How is that attacking you? You were the one that said you are struggling with your desires for being with men, the feel of their flesh against yours, the smell of their musky scent….you are the one that said you visit gays bars to pick up men for anonymous sex. I’m only repeating what you admitted to. What you will find on this site as opposed to others Alex is you won’t be judged on this blog….to the contrary, your fellow bloggers may be able to help you come to terms (albeit from a virtual standpoint) with your sexual identity conflicts.

By Belinda Joy on 02/07/2009 9:42 pm