Any marriage/ relationship is a crap shoot, no matter the genders involved. It’s 90% friendship and 10% sex. Blending the two components with trust and respect are key to a happy, lengthy union. If people are blessed to find that, again, no matter the genders involved, then good for them.

Portia has always been gay, and has talked about the inner struggle of being “in the closet” during her time on “Ally McBeal” etc. I wish the two of them all the best and pray that 8 will be over turned.

Sexuality is a conversation I have been having a lot with my kids lately. How, why and who. They are both teenagers. From my observation, there are a few people who are born non-negotiably gay, and others no-negotiably straight and the rest of us are on a continuum between the two and make our choices based on our experiences. Dear lady friends who were abused by fathers would not consider a man, men who have been raised by awful mothers who take years to trust women even as their friends. My choice was to follow my feelings as much as I could and that led me to lovers on both teams, … ultimately my marriage broke my heart and now I am alone and rediscovering joy in myself. I tell my children to let themselves love who they love without fear. Trust that as best they can. I knew (for whatever reason) that Anne Heche was using Ellen to get ahead. I don’t get the same feeling about Portia de Rossi. I wish them so much luck because marriage seems to be the hardest thing to get right.

I wish Ellen and Portia the best and I hope prop. 8 is overturned.

I agree with a few who had their ‘feelings’ about Heche. I also felt she used Ellen as a step up the ladder of her not so good career, at the time the two were playing footsies together. That’s my way of expressing a less than devoted, lifetime relationship. Ellen was well on her way, and Ann needed a ride toward her goals. Unfortunately for all concerned. I hesitated responding because of my views about Heche, and didn’t want to offend Ellen. Since others submitted their views, I chose to do so, as well. Ellen, if this relationship doesn’t work out, please check with all of us first before getting into another one…we are afterall experts, here! lol

Prop 8 needs to be overturned as soon as possible! Ellen is a national treasure and I wish her union with Portia is blessed with every happiness they both richly deserve. You go girls!

All I am saying this country is going to hell in a hand basket. If anyone of you every read your Bible and claims that you believe in what it says you are a liar. Because one of the thing it speak againt is homosexuality. “man shall not lay with man”. I am not saying I am againt homosexual becuase I was taught to love everyone, but hate the sin. Believe me it is a sin in the eyes of God.

As someone works very hard to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ…I don’t generally look to Leviticus to discuss any type of law and/or reason for thinking something is wrong or right. There are A LOT of things in that book that we all defy on a daily basis. We lie, we hate, we hurt. Now, in Romans Paul talks about homosexuality as a sin but no where does Jesus say one thing about it. If people are going to hell for being gay (the way God made them?) then that is between man and God. However, Jesus was always being questioned and when asked to whom shall they pay taxes, Jesus told them to look at the face on the coin. It was Cesar. Let’s get this straight (really no pun meant), I will walk with My Lord and Savior and do as HE says and HE says to love others MORE than yourself. God is NO respector of people (meaning he isn’t biased or prejudice) so I won’t be either. We are ALL (conception to death) equal in God’s eyes and should be in our wonderful country, too.

Anne Heche herself claims to not be straight. Portia admitted she is lesbian but was “in the closet”, which happens because so many think they have the right to reject them based on religious belief. Heche has more than a touch of serial relationship syndrome and admits to mental illness. I would not compare these two women and base that on success rate of their relationships with Ellen. That said, Ellen seemed to have her own 4-year attention span with more than one woman, and she was replacing one before the other was gone. She did get past the 4 year time with Portia, so… Ellen’s an incredible catch; powerful, came back from the depths of rejection of the public when she came out, is genuine and generous. Her humor is clean, real, and can appeal to all. Everyone seems to love Ellen now! I think she’s wonderful and I love her comedy. It is so hard to tell if a relationship will last because life happens and only a small percentage really have true love that outlasts it all. I’m more worried about their age range. I think of Melissa Etheridge and her 10 year relationship and the two children she and her partner were raising. That was sad to see happen. Now she is with a woman much younger than herself and they are all cooperative in raising the children, just like any other divorced couple. Ellen and Portia’s marriage may have been “annulled” by the state’s measure, but, wow, they are congratulated, adored and cheered-on by the world! That says a lot more than paper. I wish them all the luck in the world, as I would any other two people in love.

I am a religious woman and I know that God doesn’t hate a gay person. He loves all of us just as we are and cheers our successes and cries with us when we’re down. The lord loves us each and everyone and wants us to love him. Jesus gave us the ten commandments and when asked the greatest law, replied to love the Lord thy God. No where in those ten commandments or in that greatest law is being gay mentioned. There are gay animals as well as people. Being gay is a naturally occurring physical part of humanity, the same as those who have no sexuality or bisexuality and gender confusion. Humans and other living beings are complex marvelous creatures. God gave us brains and I think he expects us to use them rationally.

By Belinda . on 02/06/2009 7:23 pm I’m sorry…. I’m just saying that because you admitted you were gay as a teen because you were molested by a male friend of your father and that you struggled with homosexuality as a young boy. And something about to this day you troll the gay bars chasing that sensation you received so many years ago….. So I would assume you are personally acquainted with the struggles of the gay and lesbian community. Good luck in your attempt to come to grips with who you really are. That is one of your posts. Here is another. I was merely mentioning the fact that you are a man that is struggling with your sexual identity. How is that attacking you? You were the one that said you are struggling with your desires for being with men, the feel of their flesh against yours, the smell of their musky scent….you are the one that said you visit gays bars to pick up men for anonymous sex. I’m only repeating what you admitted to. What you will find on this site as opposed to others Alex is you won’t be judged on this blog….to the contrary, your fellow bloggers may be able to help you come to terms (albeit from a virtual standpoint) with your sexual identity conflicts. By Belinda . on 02/07/2009 10:42 pm as merely mentioning the fact that you are a man that is struggling with your sexual identity. How is that attacking you? You were the one that said you are struggling with your desires for being with men, the feel of their flesh against yours, the smell of their musky scent….you are the one that said you visit gays bars to pick up men for anonymous sex. I’m only repeating what you admitted to. What you will find on this site as opposed to others Alex is you won’t be judged on this blog….to the contrary, your fellow bloggers may be able to help you come to terms (albeit from a virtual standpoint) with your sexual identity conflicts. You wrote those. They are made up by you because you cannot stand the fact you admitted to dating a gay guy. You should’ve kept your mouth shut about that.