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Politics | 07/08/2008 10:45 am

Honor Killing in Georgia: Daughter Killed for Leaving Arranged Marriage

By The Staff at wowOwow.com
In an astonishing clash of cultures, in the small town of Jonesboro, Pakistani-born Chaudhry Rashid stands accused of strangling his 25-year-old daughter, Sandeela Kanwal, reportedly because she fled her arranged marriage.

According to ABC News, “authorities allege that Rashid killed his daughter because he feared that her resistance to a recently arranged marriage would disgrace the Pakistani-American family.”

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beverly linens
Bonnie I’m going to simplify this a little so we can play with it and not offend anyone, or at least anyone who has any power. In towns all over this country there are families who have a historical relationship with the legal system. I’m sure there are members who actually obey the law, but historically members of those families are not. The communities, the schools, the legal systems watch them closely as they mature and sometimes even intervene, trying to thwart what seems to be inevitable. But actually everyone is just waiting for the next generation to slip up or do, what to them, seems natural. It is wrong to assume they are going to do something wrong and it is stupid to think they won’t! I personally haven’t figured out how to deal with this and respect their constitutional rights. We can’t arrest them in anticipation of wrong doing unless we can prove a conspiracy. Talk about going in circles. That is the dilemma our government has today! I want them to keep me safe and I don’t want them to mess with me. I don’t know if it’s possible to do both. As for the Rashid “sons’ you speak of, they probably believe their dad was doing his duty and you are right ,their wives are at home and not free in any sense you and I might understand. And again I say Mr. Rashid belongs under the jail. You and I aren’t going to live long enough to enlighten him, so all we have is the law and the hope that his sons know the law as well and understand, it is primary. We aren’t going to teach them any different! Boy it is hard for us American women, myself included to get that through our heads. I’ve spent most of my life thinking if I could just enlighten someone they would understand a different point of view. I’ll bet I could count on one hand the number of times that has happened in my71 years. Of course I keep trying.
By beverly linens on 07/08/2008 6:11 pm
Sherrie Crews
You’re right Beverly. From a practical application standpoint common sense should prevail. But our laws and court decisions don’t define practical application or common sense. That’s why we now have known criminals avoiding the consequences of their actions because of a technicality that was overlooked during the common sense approach to practical application by a law enforcement officer or prosecuting attorney. The courts must make their decisions based on their interpretations of the “letter of the law” and the the constitutionality thereof. A lot of well intentioned laws get misconstrued when practical application oversteps a judge’s interpretation of the “letter of the law” and that judge’s decision sets a precedent that eventually also get’s misconstrued by attorney’s so that other, more egregious offenders later find a loophole through which to slip. Then that law starts sliding down that slope.
By Sherrie Crews on 07/08/2008 5:39 pm
beverly linens
Sherrie, it’s all we’ve got!
By beverly linens on 07/09/2008 12:37 am
Jennifer Daley
he should be put in the stocks and be publically shamed.
By Jennifer Daley on 07/08/2008 5:56 pm
Frank Peterson
Then publicly strangled just like his daughter. I have utterly no sympathy for this person.
By Frank Peterson on 07/08/2008 6:13 pm
Bonnie Oliver
Frank - I would prefer the man is convicted by a Court of Law. However, he will probably get second degree murder or even possibly involuntary manslaughter…..what a travesty. I’ve always liked the saying, “let the punishment fit the crime”. But then, again, it is 107 degrees here and it is only 4:30 in the afternoon. Really hot for the San Francisco Bay Area and no help for all the fires burning. The smoke is visible on the Bay and the fires are more than 100 miles away. I am not feeling very charitable at present but then I doubt if I would have any mercy for this demented father.
By Bonnie Oliver on 07/08/2008 6:31 pm
Frank Peterson
Bonnie, I kmow. He is being tried in a court of law—it’s that I get so angry at the senselessness of it all at times—It just offends my sense of right and wrong what that man did to his daughter.
By Frank Peterson on 07/08/2008 7:21 pm
Chips AHoey
I think if you emigrate to another country, you should research their laws to make sure you can follow them and if you feel you cannot respect the laws of the land, then you should not come - it’s somewhat simple to me - this man committed murder, the only motive allowed in court is self-defense and there is no apparent argument for that when the Founding Fathers said “freedom from religious persecution”, they meant that there would be no national religion as there had been in England (or course, this was right after the witch trials but we won’t go there today) and not that you can claim that murder is okay because your religion (?) forbids you to leave an arranged marriage (yipes, and don’t turn this into an abortion debate either, that’s different - the law hasn’t determined when a fetus becomes a protected member of society) - oh, what am I starting - LOLOLOL forget it - just hang the guy - divorce is legal in this country, she had every right to leave her marriage and he had no right to take her life, period…
By Chips AHoey on 07/08/2008 6:39 pm
Lena B
This situation shows base depravity. I’m not concerned with the cultural implications. Here in Atlanta this case is another sad story of a person from Middle Eastern descent refusing to let go of archaic standards and wholesale bigotry and machismo. The first case was just decided in court. Last week a life sentence was given to a 60 year old Indian man who hired a hit on his young African American daughter-in-law. When you step into the land of opportunity, get with the d**n program! Everyone is free here! If that goes against your cultural sensibilities, get a plane ticket and take your ass back to where you came from.
By Lena B on 07/09/2008 12:47 am
doll lady
This is America. Not Pakistan. I have a hard time understanding how anyone could do such an uncivilized thing.
By doll lady on 07/09/2008 5:15 am
theCHEROKEErose
have been reading thru the comments on this…i agree with what you ALL have said…the bottom line is (i live smack in the middle of a huge immigrant population, some of who choose to become ‘americanized’ and some who cling to their 3rd world customs tooth and fang)that if you come to this country you should learn the language, customs, mores, what the constitution says, etc…our european, asian, etc forefathers made sure their children went to school, learned english and how to be good AMERICANS…i agree we are quickly becoming segregated into our own exclusive groups/tribes once again…..
By theCHEROKEErose on 07/09/2008 7:29 pm
Gloria Hapford
The thread of these comments has been a discussion about how to deal with people who don’t fit the social mores, and how to craft laws that will enforce behavior we need, without stepping into areas of tyranny and racism. In the first place, it’s not racist to have an official language. Language is not racial. In Seattle, we had to spend a huge amount of money because the person who translated our ballots into Chinese didn’t do as good a job as someone thought they should have. A Laotian man sued the Seattle school district because the notices sent home to parents were not in Laotian. A Vietnamese mom sued the school district because her daughter was not able to attend the local school, but had to go to another school to get a teacher who spoke Vietnamese. We have to put a stop to this. We can’t insist that all 172 languages in the Seattle schools have certified teachers in the classroom for anyone who chooses not to learn English. That’s ridiculous. Meanwhile, we are selling our parks and closing our libraries because of budget shortfalls. I’m a tad disturbed by the postings that imply that because a handful of people die from medical conditions that could have been cured (they say) by medical doctors that parents should not be allowed to choose prayer for treatment. That would make sense if no one ever died or suffered unnecessarily because of the limitations of allopathic medicine. I’d like to see more information about these subjects. People just spout off opinions without having enough information. Hundreds of thousands of people die every year from medical treatments. Yet, when one person dies from an alternative treatment, it makes headlines across the country. I avoided vacinnations for my daughter, and only used naturopaths when she needed medical care, and she never had the kinds of conditions that are endemic in kids around us. Another area I’d like to see more information before shouting of opinions is in this article. I would like to hear from the family - what is their story? There was an article in the past few weeks about an African community in Seattle, there are thousands of people in that community, and the government is bringing more in. They didn’t just decide to hop on a plane and come here. They were brought here by the US government. The CIA did the same thing after the fall of Viet Nam - they brought in thousands of people from southeast Asia. In the 90’s, I was talking to a woman who runs a food bank in a suburb of Seattle. One of her volunteers, an immigrant from Russia, was a high school student doing the community service work required of all students, at the food bank. My friend talked her, and found out that a local fundamentalist church went to Moscow right after it opened up, and bought people’s apartments in exchange for a ticket to the US, a car, free money, a place to live, free food, clothes, medical care, etc. Turns out, they brought these Russians to the US, put them on welfare, gave them a car, got them into subsidized housing, and pointed them to the food banks. Meanwhile, those Moscow apartments were remodeled and are worth a fortune. The US is bringing in thousands of Iraqis to immigrate to the US. We need more information at this stage. What is the deal that is being cut here? Is the deal that these people will be able to retain their own culture? It would make sense that there is some kind of understanding. We need to know more about what they are thinking, and what their goals are. It is understandable that the family wouldn’t talk, but surely it would have been possible to find someone from their community that could explain what is going on in their head, what they were thinking, at least culturally. We may not know the specifics in this case: the guy may be a drunken retard psychopath military guy, or an upstanding member of the community holding on to cherished ideals surrounded by a world of infidels. Are they ashamed of what he did, or would they do it again? It’s important that we understand this.
By Gloria Hapford on 07/10/2008 11:24 am
Linda Clark
Gloria Hapford………….. I enjoyed reading your commentary very much…….. so much so that I have now read it three times. I appreciate your point of view. Regarding language, I believe you are correct stating that a language is not racist. Trying to be all things to all people is not possible. In my view, the United States is seen by some that if our laws allow for the accommodation of another, that “we”, the united States opened “that” door. I don’t recall where I read about a particular study on the topic of language in marketing, it was many years ago. The dissertation amounted to “Why has the Bic Corporation made the decision to print in both English and Spanish on their product packaging?” If my memory serves me well, I believe that was nearly 20 years ago. The concept of reaching the masses with regard to marketing became the “new” thing in the early 80’s. That concept was the predecessor to the “now” global economy. Again, I thank you for your thought-provoking commentary.
By Linda Clark on 07/10/2008 1:27 pm
beverly linens
Linda, remember back in the day when the instructions that came with tools and equipment were clear and included explanations for all the things the magical thing you just bought could do. Now they come in at least two languages and are not understandable in any. You have to go to school to learn what it will do. I quit buying Black & Decker stuff because not only were the instructions awful if I called for help, the customer service rep that answered the phone didn’t speak English as their first language. I might as well have thrown my money away.
By beverly linens on 07/10/2008 6:34 pm
Linda Clark
Beverly, Indeed I do remember……. I used to think that some cell phones (for example) were just too complicated. Because they came with huge manuals! Now, the manuals are even larger due to the multitude of languages. I think that from an environmental perspective, expansive manuals are obsolete and it consumes so much paper (do you think it’s recycled paper?). However, not everyone has access to the Internet and therefore, unable to download the needed information. The time saved by automation in the packaging and shipping process could be one of the reasons (and saves on storage space). I suppose the printing of the “one manual fits all” is also part of the “automation”. Dang It! I was hoping to have a solution to present to the decision makers for this one! It will either cost me in $$$$ (to provide Internet for all) or even more $$$$$$ (to build a Green Recycling Factory) . hee, hee, hee
By Linda Clark on 07/10/2008 7:47 pm