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Joan Juliet Buck | 03/24/2008 4:26 pm

I Read the News Today, Oh Boy: Bad Bullies in The New York Times

Joan Juliet Buck

This morning’s New York Times had a story that reminded me of some of the more nauseating passages from Victorian novels, and of the way my pet mice behaved when a runt was born into a litter. It was Dan Barry’s report from Fayetteville, Arkansas, about a 16 year-old boy named Billy Wolfe.


The photo shows a blond kid with wary brown eyes and a crooked mouth. Billy Wolfe is described by Barry as “all lank and bone”, a handsome set of words that brings to mind something awkward and unformed and beautiful.

His schoolmates in Fayetteville, Arkansas, don’t think he’s beautiful. Since he was twelve years old they have been beating him up, as often and as hard as they can. Last year they recorded a beating on a cell-phone camera. His smile is perhaps crooked because the inside of his mouth has been lacerated several times in these beatings, once by his braces. When Billy was in 9th grade, his lovely classmates started a Facebook page about Billy, with this caption : “There is no reason anyone should like Billy he’s a little bitch. And a homosexual that NO ONE LIKES.”

Fayetteville, Arkansas is also the place where ten years ago, another boy, William Wagner, was beaten so hard by his schoolmates that his parents feared for his life and pulled him out of school. So what does all this tell us? That kids in Fayetteville Arkansas hate lanky boys who might just be gay? Billy Wolfe is extremely tall, wears glasses, and does poorly in school; The New York Times puts it politely: “A learning disability that affects his reading comprehension”.

In those Victorian novels, the bad children always threw stones and beat a hapless soul whom the 19th century writers called “the village idiot”. In the cage where my mice lived, when a runt was born, the other mice ate it. The choice of victim is never random: the disabled, disadvantaged, slower, smaller, weaker, sicker. They are first turned into scapegoats — the epithet "bitch”, or “Gay” being the equivalent in Fayetteville Arkansas, of “Jew” in Nazi Germany, or “Witch” in medieval Europe. Then the scapegoats are beaten, humiliated and weakened, so that they will be recognizable by their limps, their scars and their stigmata the next time you need to find them. And if they should make friends, that makes the bully’s job of rounding up the undesirables that much easier. When a crazy kid goes around a school shooting, that is a psychotic act. A bully doesn’t act alone; a bully always acts with the rest of the litter. Bullying is fascism.

This story breaks my heart. What do you think?

40 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

J B
Living in Texas twenty years ago…my son was bullied by the son of a Baptist Minister…the boy would chase him home from school etc. When I approached the parents, they denied their son could be capable of such a thing, because he had been raised “in the church”. One week later, the boy attacked my son just outside the school’s gate, with many witnesses…the school’s principal had a unique way of handling the discipline…he called the bully in for a paddling (acceptable then, with parental consent) and invited my son to watch. It ended the bully’s career. I was stunned when I heard about this, and when I asked the principal about it, he said “We intend to send a message in situations like this…he humiliated your son many times…why not humiliate him by having his victim watch his punishment?” I left speechless…I am sure policy has changed now…and I am still not sure how I feel about the whole situation!!
By J B on 03/25/2008 7:51 pm
Jane Goodwin
It is a sad commentary on our nation that the self-esteem and rights of the bullies are considered more important than the self-esteem and rights of their victims. I hope this family presses charges and accepts no ‘settlements.’ Pin the bullies to the wall. They’ve done it enough times to their victims.
By Jane Goodwin on 03/25/2008 11:43 pm
Upanaway
Something is missing in the newspaper articles — primarily, it appears no one has investigated the school district’s “policies,” and record of adherence to same. I’m not surprised. Outside of the largest cities, communities still maintain insular communities, and shun perceived, or actual authority from the outside in every way possible; especially in the SW, and South. Absent from the articles was any indication that the student has an advocate, a highly-qualified board-certified specialist must be there for him, interacting with the school board, and legal system. This won’t stop here - the bullyies are brittle emotionally, and driven by the milieu in which they have been reared; hence, we have no idea what they are exposed to in their lives, but it’s not very good for humaity, much less the youngesters themselves. The parents must be “present” at every turn, and send a clear message to the District, school prinicpal, teachers, all the students, and other parents, that their son has been taught how to recognize abuse, and recognize back-lash (very important!), and they can expect the parents full-force reaction if everything does not stop, immediately. I had to do this in a situation for one of my children in the Dallas schools, and I’ll never forget it. The open threat at a board meeting stopped everything, including one abusive teacher, to ‘boot.’
By Upanaway on 03/25/2008 11:43 pm
s l
Until schools start to enforce all the bullying policies they haave written, nothing will change. Additionally, until parents get out of the rescue mode and make their children accountable for their actions nothing will change. I have sat in on conferences where I was certain that the bullying took place and when everyone is finished with their spin on the situation, even I am not sure anymore.
By s l on 03/26/2008 7:44 am
Sue E
The school and it adminstrators and board ect must all be accountable for perpetuating and allowing a hate crime to continue unabated. Hate crimes are supposed to be illegal and that means it is against the law. Everone is supposed to be allowed to have human rights. That the school denied all ofthe violence and blamed the victim is utterly unacceptable and sickening. I hope that they get sued real good for this. The police should have been called in after the first incident. The law will end up bullying the bully but that is the only justice in cases like this. Those bullies will grow up and use violence as a means of communicating and getting whatever they want as they find it has worked out for them. They will become more and more violent and get into more trouble. Homophobia of the school board aside in this case the fact they the school system failed the poor child and were so grossly negligent in protecting its very own students (God help them if they should ever had organized street gangs ruling the classrooms from their guns, knives and fists) from each other shows the world that they are in fact part of the problem. The school system here are bigger bullies than the school punks were. The school should be heavily penalized to set an example that this form of bigotry and hate crimes will never be tolerated and accepted as being OK by any means by anyone at anytime, anywhere! I hope that the boy will get some protection and relief from the abuse he’s been regularly receiving from his place of supposedly excellent educational institution of learning. The school is just Pathetic! I also hope that the bully’s parents ALL get publicly humuliated and shamed and get there come-uppence in this situation as well. There are all lot of forces at work to blame here for this dismal situation. The poor kid fell through every social crack in the system. I hope he gets justice and finds real peace for himself. He deserves it so much.
By Sue E on 03/27/2008 2:09 pm
Barbara Long
I had lunch with a friend the day this article appeared in the NYT. He said Billy’s parents should sue the bully’s parents. Maybe that will get their attention when they have to sell their house to settle a lawsuit. I’m not a big fan of using litigation at the drop of a hat but, in this case, I think it’s a pretty good idea—nothing else is working.
By Barbara Long on 03/27/2008 6:03 pm
Dan Hamrick
What do I think? Methinks your heart is intact and working at its optimum.
By Dan Hamrick on 04/09/2008 4:20 pm
Ashley S.
Just recently there was a beating videotaped by girls who were viciously beating another girl, they set up a trap to get her there and beat her so badly that she suffered unconsciousness, not to mention trauma for the rest of her life. I hope her parents believe in therapy/counseling. Bullies? That behavior is started in the house/home. My sister was a pushy loud kid, and never laid a hand on anyone, though she tried every technique to start a fight, get her friends to start one, she was obnoxious and still is aggressive and not that friendly but again she’s never laid a hand on anyone. We weren’t raised that way. Me? I was the one tortured in school, just because kids knew they could—but guess what, if my mom even thought someone tried to hit me she was at my school so quick I couldn’t talk her out of it. Parents need to meet all their kids teachers, and, know that they can sue the heck out of a school and win if their child/kid is harmed on school property. How about we start a law called the P.R.A. Parent Responsibility Act, where a parent can sue another parent if and when their child harms theirs. I’ve seen it happen. A young boy was being tormented in school, and, his parents tried steps to stop it, and the bullying kid wouldn’t stop—so the kid’s parents sued the bullying kids parents. That next day, the bully never even looked at the kid ever again. Yeah, how about getting those legal papers in the mail! And yes teachers are too blame too. I was once involved in teaching and, ok today it’s against the law —probably— but I was close to almost knocking a kid down who I saw push and pick on a weaker kid. I wouldn’t do that today, but no kid was hurt while I taught, not in my classroom. Once a teacher came to get me to come to his class to calm the kids down. I went in roaring like a lion and shut every kid up. Gosh, to know kids are being beaten IN school, and how about the ones who aren’t even safe at HOME? Parents! You have power! Get it! Use it! Show your kids that you will and can move a mountain to protect them. When they become adults, they’ll find out all too soon that the world is so hard, don’t let it be when they are so young, innocent, vulnerable. I wasn’t even touched and my mom roared into my school and she let it be known, unbelievably pain will reign down on anyone who dares to even try to touch one of her kids.
By Ashley S. on 04/09/2008 10:12 pm
Charles Dance
I blame most everything like this on televison and the movies.Look what is offered?
By Charles Dance on 04/29/2008 8:10 pm
Anna Bucy
I am working on my doctorate by doing research on bullying. We need to call the abuse what it really is so the kids who are victimized can get the help they need. The scenario you describe here is clearly assault and would warrant jail time for adults—kids should be no different. True bullying is verbal and relational. Just as with abusive romantic relationships, it never starts with physical abuse. Women’s abuse of each other begins early in our lives and we need to campaign for public schools to provide interpersonal skills training for children from the time they hit school. Girls and boys need to learn how to be responsible and treat each other with respect—it won’t happen by accident.
By Anna Bucy on 01/17/2009 2:26 pm