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Politics | 08/21/2008 10:30 am

Increasing Independence of Pakistan's Women Has a Price

By The Staff at wowOwow.com
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With the proliferation of cell phones, the Internet and satellite television to even the poorest corners of the world, an increasing number of Pakistani women are becoming aware of gender inequities that often leave them shamed for life.

Naheed Arshad spent nine months in prison on a charge of adultery after her husband accused her of having an affair. The charge was a disgrace to her, even though she says, “I have done nothing wrong.”

The Washington Post reports that after she was acquitted, Arshad joined thousands of other women living in a growing network of government and private shelters who are so ashamed of the sexual conduct accusations against them, their prospects in life are even more limited.

"More women are aware of their rights" as they join the workforce and become more independent, said Naeem Mirza, program director for the Aurat Foundation, a leading women’s rights organization. But that increase in independence also increases the conflict between men and women.

In Pakistan, a country with a population of 167 million, a key issue is laws and customs governing sexual conduct that sometimes date back centuries. Many Muslim clerics and conservative politicians say the laws are protecting traditions and guarding against what they call the "free sex" culture of unwed mothers and widespread divorce in the West and elsewhere. Those laws criminalize sex outside marriage. Husbands angry at wives who want a divorce, and parents angry at daughters who don’t want to marry the husband their elders have in mind, file hundreds of criminal complaints of illegal sexual behavior each year.

One lawyer who represents female prisoners told the Post that "maybe one in 100 charges are true.”

A recent study by the Aurat Foundation found that about three times a day somewhere in Pakistan, relatives file complaints with police alleging that a daughter or wife has been "abducted with the intent of illicit sexual relations." Although men are also arrested on illicit sex charges, human rights lawyers say that the laws’ impact is typically harder on women, since the stigma attached is far greater for them. Even if there is no successful prosecution, the accusations alone are enough to socially mark a woman.

Hina Jilani, one of the nation’s leading female lawyers and founder of the Human Rights Commission of Pakistan, said: "Even if a woman is finally acquitted … the price she pays through social retribution and honor is heavy.”

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Wafaa El  Jusmani
One of the fiercest factors related to females that are victimized sexually is the aftermath thereof, whether she does seek legal assistance or not. The stigma related to it condemns her to a degree where her natural role in that society becomes distorted. In other words she is treated as both the victim and the aggressor in these cases, and in patriarchial societies the shunning of a female could lead to further dangers.
By Wafaa El Jusmani on 08/21/2008 10:34 am
K O
Pakistani and Indian women scarred by acid and fire attacks by their husbands, African female circumcision, abductions and accusations of female criminal sexual behavior in Pakistan (and elsewhere) are examples of the fragile state of gender equality in our world. As American women, I believe our great power comes with great responsibility to help our less fortunate sisters throughout the world.
By K O on 08/21/2008 11:43 am
mary lou s
i agree, kitty. if we can help by supporting shelters or legal services, it would be a good move. does anybody (winery?) know any resources that help these women?
By mary lou s on 08/21/2008 12:00 pm
Diana T
Mary Lou, If memory serves me, these women can seek asylum in another country if they can get there. I remember a few years ago, there was a big flap in this country with a mother who had her young daughter over here and did not want to take her back because of female mutilation. But, I can’t remember exactly when the case was. If I can locate it, I will send the link to you. Go to ask.com and see if you can research from there as to what the resources would be. I also think that Docs Without Borders helps them also.
By Diana T on 08/25/2008 12:28 am
Pat Ryan
Agree Kitty and Mary lou. I clicked on the highlighted link imbedded in the article above, and found some info. I heard once on Jay Leno some time ago, Mrs. L is an active advocate for womens’ causes/support groups internationally. Jay didn’t elaborate or give any further information or detail, other than saying she’s actively involved with womens’ equal rights issues, globally. This article is so sad, mind-boggling, archaic, not to mention just totally nuts!
By Pat Ryan on 08/21/2008 6:41 pm
rocky rocky
It’s hard to imagine what can help them out of that nightmare — except a fast plane, train, car …. I wonder if microfinance programs — much like the ones Sen Obama’s mother pioneered in establishing in Indonesia — could help them work toward their own independence.
By rocky rocky on 08/21/2008 11:58 pm
Jai Carney
If a woman can still be put in a position like this, we are still living in the dark ages. I wish I was there was something any of us in the west could do to change these silly laws in predominately Muslim countries. It is what makes me mad that Islam exists. I feel powerless to help. We are dealing with a religious issues, and therefore it is not particularly “fixable” by changing laws. Don’t get me started about female circumcision. BARBARIC I tell you, just BARBARIC.
By Jai Carney on 08/22/2008 7:39 am
phyllis Doyle Pepe
We certainly can support these women, but ultimately they must band together and fight their own horrific misogynistic situations. Let’s clean up our own house before we venture forth into theirs. Example: Remember Sabrina Harman, the young woman that worked as a guard on the night shift at Abu Ghraib? The reason she joined the army was to pay for college. Described as a gentle, sweet woman who “wouldn’t hurt a fly” her interest lay in photography. She took many of the pictures that we have seen. But that’s all she did. Yet she was sentenced to six months in prison, a reduction in rank to private, a forfeiture of all pay and allowances, and a bad conduct discharge. NONE of the men who were responsible for her subject’s death (the man who had been tortured to death) were ever prosecuted, NO one above the rank of sergeant was even tried. Harman and her friends caught in the photographs were punished for embarrassing the administration, One central irony: Sabrina Harman was threatened with prosecution for taking pictures of a man who had been killed by the CIA. She had nothing whatsoever to do with the killing, she merely photographed the corpse. But without her photographs we would know nothing of this crime. This is one example of women still getting the short end of a very long stick or as Lieutenant Colonel Diane Beaver (unfortunate last name in this context) recalled the mounting excitement among her male colleagues, including men from the CIA and the DIA, as different interrogation techniques were being bandied about. “You could almost see their dicks getting hard as they got new ideas.” Nuf said.
By phyllis Doyle Pepe on 08/22/2008 1:17 pm
Diana T
The problem, Phyllis, is that these women do not know that there is a world where this type of barbarism is unacceptable. These are cultural practices going back hundreds of years. At least in India, women do not commit purda at their husbands’ biers. In China womens’ feet are no longer bound. But, as far as honor killings, female mutilation, and all the rest of the brutal activities committed on women, these things are going to continue as long as women are consider chattell. And, for that matter, that is how they see themselves. They know no other way. This is one of the most important reasons it is so important to get the family planning folks out to these places. Because, one of the things they do is educate, educate, educate, and teach women that it is okay to have self respect and dignity within themselves.
By Diana T on 08/25/2008 12:33 am
Amna Hassan
I’m a 20 year old college student from Pakistan. And while I agree with most of what has been said in the article and the comments following…I feel I have to clarify some things. Firstly, educated women (especially those in living in cities) are much more aware of their rights and can protect themselves better, both by invoking their legal rights and by becoming independent. Unfortunately, most of the articles I see about Pakistan only talk about the oppressed women, and while they are a staggering majority, I hate seeing Pakistan in that light. Pakistan has a very very diverse culture…you have extremely liberal educated people, moderate people, extremely religious people, and then the fundamentalists. It’s the last group that is a threat to the nation as a whole, and to women in particular, when its members insist that what they do is in the name of Islam. What most people don’t know is that Islam gives women a lot of rights, and all of these barbaric activities; ‘honour killings’, ‘female mutilation’ and so on, are strictly unIslamic. Unfortunately, because these activities have sprung up in predominantly Muslim areas, people connect the two together. In my opinion, its not religion that needs changing, its the culture, the fundamentalism and the wrong intrepretation of religion that many clerics and organizations are promoting for their own personal benefit. That is why I feel angered not only when I’m told of these practices, but also when I hear people rant without research against Islam, Pakistan, or make similar sweeping generalizations…Being mad that “Islam exists” doesn’t seem to solve the issue… Freedom of religion, anyone? Mary Lou: It is true that technically women can seek asylum in other countries. Unfortunately, the number of women in rural or remote areas who are treated so barbarically is so huge that seeking asylum, or even getting it once you’ve sought it is close to impossible. Also, many of these women don’t know that that is an option, much less how to pursue it.
By Amna Hassan on 08/26/2008 4:52 pm