Judith Martin | 09/24/2008 12:00 am

Judith Martin Is Afraid

By Judith Martin

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In response to: What do you think is the real reason men are afraid of women over 50?

They are? Uh-oh.

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Because we have become too smart , we dont take the bull and the wool can not be pulled over our eyes like in our 30s & 40s .

By Eliza Dodd on 09/24/2008 8:24 am

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I think it is because they think they she should be a certain way with certain age. My mother is 48 1/2 and I just turned 27 a couple of months ago. She has always been a caring, loving and voiceful woman. She doesn’t let anything stop her and she acts the way she feels: young and smart. Others look at her and say, why does she dress young; others says she is a cougar. She is who she is: a woman, a mother, and an individual. Remember, you are who you are because you worked to become that; you’re not what your age is. If people see you for that, then you need to show them different. Age does not define you, it only refines you. I only hope I can be 1/2 the woman my mom is with as much experience and memories as her……. at any age!!!

By Yadira Keroes on 02/13/2009 2:45 pm

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We stand on our own 2 feet, we say what we think and if they don’t like it we tell them to move along! We don’t need them as much as we did …. They need us! The shoe is now on the other foot ! Back in the early days Women had no drivers license & didn’t work, they were EXPECTED to stay home and do the “wifey” things! They couldn’t go anywhere unless their hubby’s took them! They were CONTROLLED! Women Today are just not like that, We are Stronger Much Stronger we have wizened up! We have Finally realized we actually do not need that man in our life He needs us! Woman WERE controlled!! 1920- 1970’s Past tense by the time we reach 45 we have lived, threw the HURTS, LIES and the WRATH”S of men and have decided NO MORE!!!! We then teach OUR Daughters or Should Be teaching OUR Daughters! I raised my daughters to NEVER ask a man for anything! If you want it , you go buy it “with your money” THUS get an education!!!! Demand that he treat you like The Lady You Are! Be the Apple at the Top of the Tree! Not the one on the ground that is easily picked up! In doing this He WILL Have the “Want Too’s”! He Will……………………. want to take you out to Dinner want to Not look at other Women Want to open the door for you Want to always show you Respect He Will Want to be the Best Man He Can Be for You, ” the Apple of his eyes”! We as Women Demand Respect, We Don’t Ask for it any more!!

By Obama Biden on 09/24/2008 11:33 am

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My thoughts exactly Judith.

By Kim Speight on 09/24/2008 3:55 pm

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Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 is only one Federal legislative mandate (there are other State and local laws)that have advanced the cause of women’s employment rights in particular. Not to forget the Equal Pay Act of 1963? Such laws have given women the support legally they need to compete with men in the workplace. Women have exceled. Thus well deserved competition and fear on the part of some men.

By Andromeda Jakes on 10/05/2008 4:43 pm

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Real men aren’t afraid of real women; that includes those over fifty. I’m 48 1/2, and my 44 year old husband thinks I just keep getting more attractive. I’ll admit, I have a prize, but I think it helps also that I don’t demand respect. Women should command it with their confident, gracious actions and words, ala “Gentle Author” Judith Martin. Sometimes those of us that demand respect aren’t taking the same care to be worthy of it.

By Chris Wise on 01/09/2009 11:10 pm