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Julia Reed | 01/29/2009 1:15 pm

Julia Reed: If You're Dancing Alone …

Julia Reed
The last time I really, really danced was alone in my kitchen very late at night after a few glasses of wine. It was years ago, to a song by Del Amitri called "Roll to Me," which is impossible not to move around to. I remember it so clearly because it put me in such a good mood. When I married my husband five and a half years ago, we did the first dance thing to "The Way You Look Tonight," but since all eyes were upon us, I was totally self-conscious — as I almost always am when doing anything that requires a modicum of coordination and grace.

When my mother, a truly great dancer, was growing up in Nashville, TN, she went to the Fortnightly Dance Cotillion, where she learned all the dance steps and had multiple partners who filled out her dance cards. I looked at them so often in her scrapbook when I was little that I can still remember the boys’ names. I figured the same thing would happen to me, but by the time I was in the seventh grade, dancing involved throwing your arms around a boy’s neck and vaguely swaying to bad pop music. I decided early on that I was not remotely interested in that kind of dancing or in 13-year-old boys, and moved (perhaps a tad too quickly) on to more, um, sophisticated pursuits.

The end result is that I am doomed to dance by myself in my kitchen, as my husband was too busy being the lead singer in a rock-and-roll band to learn to dance well himself. If you are like me and dance best alone, I highly recommend "Roll to Me" — it’s a good workout. Somebody gave me one of those New Agey, life advice refrigerator magnets once that included the line, "Dance as though no one were watching." I get that, but I will stick to doing it when no one actually is watching, except maybe Henry the beagle, who I doubt will be interested enough to open both eyes.

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Mark Rowe
Nice one Julia Reed. Myself I like a big bon-fire when there is 3 feet of snow on the ground. The fire has to be over 10 foot high and it has to be after midnight. Alcohol does help, but with food. Also others who join in. I know, sounds prehistoric. But it feels great!
By Mark Rowe on 01/29/2009 1:52 pm
Belinda Joy
I remember as if it was yesterday. Late Autumn 2003, just a couple of months after returning from my short relocation to the D.C. area (failed relationship). To soothe my broken heart I went on an overnight weekend jaunt to Chicago. I visited the historic museum, did some window shopping and went to a comedy show. Afterward I went back to my hotel and sat in the bar nursing a glass of Asti for what seemed like forever. A small jazz trio was playing near the dance floor as couples swayed to old Cole Porter tunes. A guy struck up a conversation with me. In keeping with my ability to attract men I’m not attracted to, he was short, mousy, soft spoken and not at all what I would normally be attracted to. But he was very, very nice. After awhile he worked up the nerve to ask me to dance. I was stunned. Hmmm…should I or shouldn’t I? I did. It was weird to be in the arms of someone my own height, I’m 5-6” and the men I am normally attracted to are 6 foot and up. But again, he was very. very nice. I will never know if it was just because I was vulnerable and feeling worthless at that moment, or if this guy beyond the physical was truly connecting with me; but I loved dancing with him. In a dark, quiet hotel bar with Cole Porter wafting through the air I swayed on a small makeshift dance floor and was more relaxed and at ease than any other moment in my life! We didn’t speak, we just held one another and danced. I never saw him again after our night (turns out he was a psychiatrist there on a convention of some sort). No wonder he was such a great listener. I will always remember that night, his words and those dances.
By Belinda Joy on 01/29/2009 4:36 pm
Mommy Dearest
Leave it to a New Orleans girl to show us how to boogie in the kitchen, my dear Julia. Laissez les bon temp roulez!
By Mommy Dearest on 01/29/2009 7:11 pm
Buh- Bye
:D I enjoyed that blurb. Thanks Julia… and as it happens (coincidentally) I had a very spirited solo dance session just yesterday afternoon. Employing some of Brad Pitt’s hilarious exercise moves from the movie “Burn After Reading.” I highly recommend incorporating these into your next dance routine. They really lift the spirits or help you celebrate (which is exactly what I was doing.)
By Buh- Bye on 01/31/2009 12:40 pm