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Cynthia McFadden | 02/09/2009 9:45 am

Kate Winslet Rips Back the Veil With Cynthia McFadden

I wake up this Monday morning thinking about Kate Winslet. 

It isn’t often I wake up thinking about movie stars, but in this instance I find myself still mulling over a very interesting conversation with her. A good deal of the interview was broadcast Friday night on "Nightline," where our focus was on her Oscar nomination for her role in "The Reader." You can see the "Nightline" interview here, but for you, dear reader of wowOwow, I want to pass on some of my favorite parts of the conversation, which had nothing to do with Oscar and a lot to do with being a woman and a mother. A part of the interview that was NOT broadcast.

First impression: Winslet is a bit nervous. Reserved. She is very pale, very beautiful and very thin. She is smaller than she seems on film. She seems tense. But only moments into our conversation that changes, she brightens, engages and talks in a chatty, charming way about the movies and her life. She tells me she will finish a full round of interviews in L.A. and fly home to New York overnight so she can take her two kids to school. Love that.

She tells me she is fed up with how our celebrity culture preys on women’s insecurities and self-criticisms; how worried she is for her own eight-year-old daughter growing up in our weight- and looks-obsessed world. So here it is, just as she said it: Kate Winslet, unleashed.

I think the obsession with celebrity feeds into this exact thing that is really a problem, and it’s like an epidemic, I feel, for young women. They look at all of us, myself included, on these magazine covers and they think, my God, how does she get skin like that? And I can tell you I have so many blemishes under this makeup that have been so fabulously covered. I promise you. I promise you. I mean, it’s impossible to look like rubbish. I mean with Steven Meisel, with the Vanity Fair shoot. He lights for six hours. No one can look bad when you’ve been lit for six hours. And it’s a real art that they do, these photographers do, and you just kind of fill the frame.
I did realize a few years ago that no one actually talks about this retouching thing. It’s like a secret or something. I’m damned if it’s going to be a secret anymore. I really want these young women to know WE DON’T LOOK LIKE THIS. It’s not — it’s an idea of perfection that is not — it’s not there. It doesn’t — stop reaching for it, because there is nothing there when you get there, I’m telling you.
You know, it’s about all of the hair, the makeup, the lights and all of those things. And there is retouching, you know? And I think it does feed into this sort of weight-obsessed culture that I think we live in. It’s just crazy-making. It’s crazy-making, terrible.

I’m applauding right now, and I suspect you are as well. Well said, Kate. And good luck with Oscar.

21 Reader Comments (so far…) Sign In or Register to comment

Noelle Norton
I really like everything about her. Even when she does nude scenes, it’s her. Sagging boobs and all! This is what a real woman is…honest and imperfect. Love you Kate!
By Noelle Norton on 02/09/2009 10:03 am
Mike Hunt
This girl is perfect, not imperfect.
By Mike Hunt on 03/08/2009 8:31 pm
f p
Ms Winslet—oh my oh my—if there is one woman that can make my heart race it’s definitely her.
By f p on 02/09/2009 10:40 am
belladora smith
Kate is a treasure!! It is wonderful that she is speaking out about the truth. Young women should never try to measure up to something artistcally portrayed. I do however love the fantasy of it all. It is truly magical! Your children are blessed to have you as their mother Ms Winslet. Good luck to you!
By belladora smith on 02/09/2009 11:48 am
Erin Jackson
Bravo, Kate!
By Erin Jackson on 02/09/2009 11:50 am
Ms. Dee
It would be really hard to be Kate Winslet’s daughter, modelling the same-sex parent. Would you ever really feel like you’d outgrown the “ugly duckling” stage to become “the swan”? At least Ms. Winslet seems to be aware of the difficulty. That should help. But it must be tricky to blame it all on the popular image culture when you’re such a huge part of it. I hope I’ll get to see The Reader.
By Ms. Dee on 02/09/2009 12:21 pm
phyllis Doyle Pepe
If not, Dee, you could always read the book, by Bernard Schlink.
By phyllis Doyle Pepe on 02/09/2009 1:58 pm
Ms. Dee
Ooh! Thanks Phyllis. Maybe I’ll do that first…then go see the movie. I knew it was based on a book, but I forgot.
By Ms. Dee on 02/09/2009 2:11 pm
Maizie James
I purchased the book, THE READER after seeing an interview featuring, Bernard Schlink on CHARLIE ROSE. The book was excellent, and I wonder how well the book was adapted to film. It must have been an awesome task to write the screenplay. I will probably wait until the movie is released on DVD, because, as is often the case, BOOKs are far better than film adaptations. For example, when I first saw the movie classic, THE GOOD EARTH, starring Paul Muni and Luise Rainer, I was so disappointed because I’d read Pearl S. Buck’s book at an age when my mind was VERY imaginative - same with CAPTAINS COURAGEOUS.
By Maizie James on 02/09/2009 4:04 pm
Ms. Dee
Hey, Maizie! I’m sure you’re right. Books are usually more satisfying for me. But it’s always interesting to see how filmmakers attempt to translate, what they open up and what they leave out. There’s a skill to it. I’m just curious to see how Kate Winslet’s matured since Titanic…I haven’t seen a thing she’s done since then, and I’m really feeling the need to catch up here lately.
By Ms. Dee on 02/09/2009 4:21 pm
f p
Every once in a while a movie gets it right: “A River Runs Through It ” comes to mind.
By f p on 02/10/2009 7:28 am
nanny bebette
No, no, no. See the movie first and then read the book. The book is always better, don’cha know? I haven’t seen the movie yet, but read the book when it first came out and it is pretty awesome. At any rate, enjoy.
By nanny bebette on 02/13/2009 11:30 am
Green Tears
I love Kate and I am so glad that she worries about the perfection obssession in relation to her daughter - movies and photo shoots are something for growing and grown women to remember as ‘make believe’.
By Green Tears on 02/09/2009 1:40 pm
Frau Quink
Ms Winslet’s performance in “The Reader” is a tour de force…. A must see……..
By Frau Quink on 02/09/2009 1:49 pm
phyllis Doyle Pepe
Here’s a snippet from Anthony Lane’s review in the New Yorker: …the whole film, in fact, with its loping pace and plaintive score, feels like a woefully polite, not to say British, take on a foreign horror; was there really no one, from the fierce new wave of German filmmakers, prepared to dramatize the Schlink? Or did they feel, as I did, that it was pernicious from the start––a low grade musing on atrocity, garnished with erotic titillation? Imprisoned for life, Hanna must read to herself, but are we really supposed to be moved by the thought––or now, in Daldrey’s film, by the sight––of an unrepentant Nazi parsing with Chekhov? That is not culturally nourishing; it is morally famished. There is a fine scene, near the end, when a survivor of Hanna’s crimes (the great Lena Olin) [one of my favorites] tells the middle-aged Michael (Ralph Fiennes) that “nothing came out of the camps,” that they “weren’t therapy.” Quite true, so why has the film pretended to be otherwise? Still, “The Reader” is a triumph of bite and speed.
By phyllis Doyle Pepe on 02/09/2009 3:50 pm